Annoying things people make their whole personality

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Anonymous wrote:Soccer moms (also football/baseball/basketball/lacrosse/cheer moms)

Parents where the kids sport dominates their entire family’s lives, and it’s all they talk about and can relate to. Very one-dimensional .

Omg this

Also Americans who overly talk about their ethnicity, like people with Italian heritage who are snobs about Italian food

People who enjoy food don’t always talk about it, and this area seems to not have many Italians, compared to other places. You can spare us your Goodfellas narrative.

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Helicopter parents

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Ah DCUM, we’re annoyed at literally all of humankind.

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So many good examples posted in this thread! Really anything that people decide to label themselves as though it makes them interesting or special.

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Anonymous wrote:civil war reenactors

I like these as long as they’re strictly “vintage style not values” types.

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Anonymous wrote:civil war reenactors

I like these as long as they’re strictly “vintage style not values” types.

I really don't mind them. They're truly following their interests, they're not in it for instagram.

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Loving Disney
Newlyweds

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Anonymous wrote:Being chronically ill with something bizarre (Ehler Danlos anyone) yet simultaneously constantly traveling/hiking

OMG, yes. Also telling everyone about your anxiety, nerdiness and introversion, talking about all of it often and without fear.

I don’t actually mind these people — if you have a debilitating chronic illness it kind of is your entire life. Although tbf most people I know with illnesses like that are encyclopedias of tv shows/movies they enjoy because they don’t get out much and I like hanging out with them to talk about that.

I think PP is more referring to people who claim to have a disease or affliction but then show zero symptoms and it does not actually appear to curb their life in any way, but they still talk about it/post about it all the time.

I know a woman who has made having ADHD her whole personality and posts about it online all the time and brings it up in about 80% of conversations, but she's extremely high functioning. She's my boss's boss, she and her DH invest in real estate on the side, she's a parent and seems to be very on top of her. I'm not questioning her ADHD diagnosis, but she's one of the highest functioning people I know, period, not just with an executive functioning disorder. Maybe her ADHD is mild or she's just very well supported, but it comes off as very sympathy-seeking because it's very clear that her ADHD does not hold her back at all. I really think she just wants people to feel bad for her, or is trying to build herself up even more. It comes off as really whiny and disingenuous.

Be thankful you are not a Zebra. Most doctors have little understanding of it. I don't expect others to get it. There is often very little symptom wise for others to ever notice.

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Anonymous wrote:Half the people in the country are insufferable dog people who think dogs are people, & we non-dog people should be flattered that their mutts deem our lawns suitable to take a dump on.

Yes! People treat their dogs better than their kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Loving Disney
Newlyweds

You mean Disney Adults? Childless 35-year-olds that wear Winnie the Pooh gear? Yeah, weird.

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Anonymous wrote:Not necessarily someone’s whole personality, but I don’t like Rainbow Baby posters. I understand it was terrible to have a miscarriage (I had some myself), but your surviving child’s identity should not be tied at all to the fact you had a miscarriage.

Agreed!

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Being LGBTQ.

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Anonymous wrote:Rescue dogs


Why mention you have rescue dog or get a bumper sticker? The only purpose is so others think well of you.

No, that's not the only purpose. I am actually in dog rescue (as in I volunteer for a dog rescue in a variety of ways), and I don't talk about it and don't put a sticker on my car. But I am always glad to to hear someone adopted rather than shopped for their dog--it's generally a good thing. The one thing I find annoying is when people use the verb "rescued" in relation to how they got their dog. Unless you stopped your car at the side of the rode to grab a stray dog, you didn't "rescue" your dog--you adopted it.

This. It helps normalize adoption. Not a single person where I live adopted a dog. Every single dog is an expensive designer dog from a breeder.

How do you know this? We adopted both a poodle and a doodle from a rescue. Don’t make assumptions.

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Anonymous wrote:pit bull "parents" who incessantly talk about how precious and safe their dogs are.

Yes, while their dogs jump all over you and bark constantly and they refuse to enroll them in proper dog training or accept that maybe their pit was not a good choice for their little apartment or row house in a dense neighborhood with lots of people and lots of other dogs.

Not all dog people are horrible but the horrible dog people are bad enough to give all dog people a bad name.

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Anonymous wrote:People in therapy

OMG! Yes! Most people do NOT need to go to therapy. Going to therapy is not something to be proud of and is not something that should be talked about publicly. I have several friends who go to therapy and I have to try not to visibly cringe when they talk about it. Sometimes I want to scream at them, "Stop talking about your therapist!"

There's nothing shameful about therapy and honestly how do you know who does or does not need to go to therapy? Also you are likely not a very good friend if a friend is talking about therapy and you "visibly cringe."

I agree with the PP. Most therapy is a racket. If it helps someone feel better, great, but stop talking about it all the time. I hate the way the vocabulary pervades everything now and the over-therapized want to diagnose everyone.

NP - you and the original PP might want to look at facts around increases in mental illness in this country and the damage it does to society if untreated. There’s a real shortage of qualified healthcare professionals to treat people. Finding it annoying is one thing; insisting it’s unnecessary and shameful is gross.

Sorry, but people droning on and on about their narcissistic mothers or toxic families are not doing general mental health awareness any favors.

You’re not sorry, so drop the BS “apology.” Moreover, your discomfort is your issue, PP.

Pp is insensitive and wrong about therapy but absolutely correct that making your “trauma” a personality trait is a huge turnoff to everyone. Get help and heal. No one wants to hear you opine about victimhood all the time.