Ivy League son just disclosed he's taking five years to graduate.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a financial aid URM. Who cares if he takes five or six years, mom and dad aren't paying for it. What a waste of an opportunity.

Not if he winds up with an education and degree froma respected institution.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a financial aid URM. Who cares if he takes five or six years, mom and dad aren't paying for it. What a waste of an opportunity.

the only thing that we're sure of here is the kind of person you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Meh, not a big deal. Except for the extra tuition.

My best friend at my undergrad Ivy took 5 years. It was because of deciding to double major, but the “consequences” of not graduating with friends from same entry class were just not that big. Really.

I went a university that’s one rung down from an Ivy. One guy I know took noticeably longer than four years to get his degree.

He went on to go to a top law school and what looks to me as if it must be a really fun legal career. He has his real bachelor’s start and graduation years in his LinkedIn entry.

Of course, that’s just one anecdote.

The backdrop for our own kids is that this is a plague year, and that we should just be happy that our kids are alive and trying to move forward. Any of us who weren’t at Tulane when Katrina hit New Orleans or in some kind of comparable situation have no right to judge the kids who are trying to figure out what to do now.

If they need more money than we can provide, we have to be honest and say that. But I don’t think it’s fair for us to get mad at kids who say they’re behind because they had a hard time with Zoom school. Zoom school is awful.

Those who are so worked up about this sound like DRIVEN parents who push their kids to perfection in all ways.

That is neither healthy or necessary. The goal of college is to receive an education and an important credential (i.e. the degree). Bonus OP, your kids sounds on track to get a degree from somewhere prestigious.

Keep you eye on what matters, not how many millimeters away from perfection he is. Such an exhausting/stressful way to go through life. I hope he can escape that mindset eventually.

[Anonymous]

at least it will give him a bigger window of time to expand his professional network

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a financial aid URM. Who cares if he takes five or six years, mom and dad aren't paying for it. What a waste of an opportunity.

the only thing that we're sure of here is the kind of person you are.

I'm not going to apologize for being more direct than the dozens of others who danced around it, noting OP did not mention any financial concerns. Because it's obvious OP is not paying for this. And only a lazy dipsh*t drops easy online courses.