If your 18+ dc is rebellious, what bills of theirs do you pay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Too often, at the 11th hour, a parent decides their kid it's "worthy" of college. It's "ready". Something. Truth is the parent never really had enough $ set aside for college, but they want to blame the kid. Or they don't want to pay and never were honest about it.

So for this reason, without more and better information --- YES you owe them tuition

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Too often, at the 11th hour, a parent decides their kid it's "worthy" of college. It's "ready". Something. Truth is the parent never really had enough $ set aside for college, but they want to blame the kid. Or they don't want to pay and never were honest about it.

So for this reason, without more and better information --- YES you owe them tuition

+1

Anything beyond age 18 is icing on the cake. You don’t legally “owe” your kid anything at that age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do not pay bills for adults. They pay their own bills. At 18, my kids would be roasted by their siblings if they needed "mommy" to help them. Not my job to provide for adults. I have my own life to live. I raise my kids to be able to hit the ground running at 18, and it is also their responsibility to pay for college, should they decide to go. Their lives, their decisions. Good luck, OP.

Terrible

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I do not pay bills for adults. They pay their own bills. At 18, my kids would be roasted by their siblings if they needed "mommy" to help them. Not my job to provide for adults. I have my own life to live. I raise my kids to be able to hit the ground running at 18, and it is also their responsibility to pay for college, should they decide to go. Their lives, their decisions. Good luck, OP.

Terrible

NP but no it isn’t.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not pay bills for adults. They pay their own bills. At 18, my kids would be roasted by their siblings if they needed "mommy" to help them. Not my job to provide for adults. I have my own life to live. I raise my kids to be able to hit the ground running at 18, and it is also their responsibility to pay for college, should they decide to go. Their lives, their decisions. Good luck, OP.

Terrible

NP but no it isn’t.

Whether you like it or not, you are putting your kids at a significant disadvantage from kids with parental support. Hope your kid enjoys working for Orkin!

[Anonymous]

Did we ever answer the "What does rebellious?" mean question?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not pay bills for adults. They pay their own bills. At 18, my kids would be roasted by their siblings if they needed "mommy" to help them. Not my job to provide for adults. I have my own life to live. I raise my kids to be able to hit the ground running at 18, and it is also their responsibility to pay for college, should they decide to go. Their lives, their decisions. Good luck, OP.

Terrible

NP but no it isn’t.

Whether you like it or not, you are putting your kids at a significant disadvantage from kids with parental support. Hope your kid enjoys working for Orkin!

Something tells me the parents just won’t care. Shameful!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I do not pay bills for adults. They pay their own bills. At 18, my kids would be roasted by their siblings if they needed "mommy" to help them. Not my job to provide for adults. I have my own life to live. I raise my kids to be able to hit the ground running at 18, and it is also their responsibility to pay for college, should they decide to go. Their lives, their decisions. Good luck, OP.

Terrible

+1000

[Anonymous]

Once a kid turns 18 they can opt to go to college or not go.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not pay bills for adults. They pay their own bills. At 18, my kids would be roasted by their siblings if they needed "mommy" to help them. Not my job to provide for adults. I have my own life to live. I raise my kids to be able to hit the ground running at 18, and it is also their responsibility to pay for college, should they decide to go. Their lives, their decisions. Good luck, OP.

Terrible

NP but no it isn’t.

Whether you like it or not, you are putting your kids at a significant disadvantage from kids with parental support. Hope your kid enjoys working for Orkin!

This.

It's so heart breaking when parents don't provide parental support just because the kids hit 18.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Too often, at the 11th hour, a parent decides their kid it's "worthy" of college. It's "ready". Something. Truth is the parent never really had enough $ set aside for college, but they want to blame the kid. Or they don't want to pay and never were honest about it.

So for this reason, without more and better information --- YES you owe them tuition

+1

Anything beyond age 18 is icing on the cake. You don’t legally “owe” your kid anything at that age.

You morally do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did we ever answer the "What does rebellious?" mean question?

No.

"Rebellious" is one thing to an average family, and another to a evangelical or conservative family.

I would have been considered "rebellious" for voicing an opinion that was different from my parents, so I unfortunately had to keep my mouth firmly shut until I finished college.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not pay bills for adults. They pay their own bills. At 18, my kids would be roasted by their siblings if they needed "mommy" to help them. Not my job to provide for adults. I have my own life to live. I raise my kids to be able to hit the ground running at 18, and it is also their responsibility to pay for college, should they decide to go. Their lives, their decisions. Good luck, OP.

Terrible

NP but no it isn’t.

Whether you like it or not, you are putting your kids at a significant disadvantage from kids with parental support. Hope your kid enjoys working for Orkin!

It's not terrible nor is it dooming your child; though why you think working as an exterminator is somehow a negative is an interesting perspective and makes me think you need to examine your own classist biases.

I'm a pediatrician in my mid 30's who had minimal financial support after high school. There are plenty of ways to pay for college that aren't mommy or daddy's bank account. And it's not negligent parenting to expect your adult children to be financially independent.

DCUM, per usual, has a very skewed view of reality.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not pay bills for adults. They pay their own bills. At 18, my kids would be roasted by their siblings if they needed "mommy" to help them. Not my job to provide for adults. I have my own life to live. I raise my kids to be able to hit the ground running at 18, and it is also their responsibility to pay for college, should they decide to go. Their lives, their decisions. Good luck, OP.

Terrible

NP but no it isn’t.

Whether you like it or not, you are putting your kids at a significant disadvantage from kids with parental support. Hope your kid enjoys working for Orkin!

It's not terrible nor is it dooming your child; though why you think working as an exterminator is somehow a negative is an interesting perspective and makes me think you need to examine your own classist biases.

I'm a pediatrician in my mid 30's who had minimal financial support after high school. There are plenty of ways to pay for college that aren't mommy or daddy's bank account. And it's not negligent parenting to expect your adult children to be financially independent.

DCUM, per usual, has a very skewed view of reality.

Many families cannot afford to send their kids to college but I'm sure you had a roof over your head and warm meals at home. Meaning, a "support at home".

And yes, giving up on your children, for your own interests, when they hit 18 is cruel.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I do not pay bills for adults. They pay their own bills. At 18, my kids would be roasted by their siblings if they needed "mommy" to help them. Not my job to provide for adults. I have my own life to live. I raise my kids to be able to hit the ground running at 18, and it is also their responsibility to pay for college, should they decide to go. Their lives, their decisions. Good luck, OP.

Terrible

NP but no it isn’t.

Whether you like it or not, you are putting your kids at a significant disadvantage from kids with parental support. Hope your kid enjoys working for Orkin!

It's not terrible nor is it dooming your child; though why you think working as an exterminator is somehow a negative is an interesting perspective and makes me think you need to examine your own classist biases.

I'm a pediatrician in my mid 30's who had minimal financial support after high school. There are plenty of ways to pay for college that aren't mommy or daddy's bank account. And it's not negligent parenting to expect your adult children to be financially independent.

DCUM, per usual, has a very skewed view of reality.

Many families cannot afford to send their kids to college but I'm sure you had a roof over your head and warm meals at home. Meaning, a "support at home".

And yes, giving up on your children, for your own interests, when they hit 18 is cruel.

DP. I don’t know, DCUM posters called me abusive once when I said my kid and I split tuition in half for their college. It’s not abusive to not hand everything to your kid like DCUM thinks it is. It simply isn’t common in many circles to just outright pay for college for your kid.

If they drop out that wouldn’t be great but I don’t see 4 year college as the end all be all.