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I'm tired of hearing people saying that they "sacrifice" to send their kids to private school.
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Anonymous
| Well, you should go to the million dollar house financial aid thread. You'll be pleased to know there are plenty of people who aren't sacrificing AT ALL to send their kids to a private school. |
Anonymous
| You can teach your kids to swim at the local pool or you can teach your kids to swim at the country club. The fact of the matter is - the most gifted swimmers will the best no matter where they are taught to swim. At the country club, however, all of the pretty mommies will be together and get to play tennis and stuff and that is why it is so much more fun then at that yucky public pool. Thankfully, country club mommies do not need to pretend to "sacrifice" to send their kids to the nice pool. They all know why they are there and don't pretend otherwise. |
Anonymous
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I tend to agree with OP on this one. Sending your child to private school is a luxury. Those who view it as a necessity in this area, I believe, are fooling themselves. The DC suburbs are full of great schools in both MD and VA in areas that don't require a million dollar mortgage to move. Some simply believe that private school is better...period. I tend to disagree, but I'm a product of NoVa public school and am happy and successful (and quite wealthy - at least wealthy enough to easily send my kids to private school if I wanted to). Plus, I value the public school system and the diversity it brings.
I'm not saying that sending your child to private school is wrong, but I agree with OP - it is a choice. And while some may in fact "sacrifice" to send their kid to private school, the self-righteousness of those who view it as the ultimate sacrifice, which should be viewed as more virtuous and selfless than what others are doing, is just too much. Many private school posters on this site have in fact stated that those who *can* afford to send their kids to private, but choose public, are doing a disservice to our children. So if you want to send your kid to private school, fine. And while you can complain on here about all the "sacrifices" you are making to do so, don't expect all of us to have much sympathy for you. Your money, your choices. But nobody really thinks you deserve the award for most "altruistic parent of the year" or anything. |
Anonymous
Exactly. |
Anonymous
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What is a sacrifice? Everything is a choice.
But I would agree that every part of child rearing is a choice, not a sacrifice. I love giving my son everything I can. If that means I look like crap, so be it. My choice. My bad hair and nails. |
Anonymous
| Since our local DCPS has a pass rate of 25% for the DC Math and Reading tests, I would say that sending out kids to private school (since they didn't get in OOB to a good public elementary, of which there are many) is a necessity, not a sacrifice. |
Anonymous
Ha ha! Good old-fashioned witchcraft. |
Anonymous
Nope. Still not a necessity. It just happens to be the choice you like the most.If you couldn't afford it, didn't get financial aid or your child wasn't accepted, you would send your child to the local public or move to an area with better public schools. Private school isn't ever a necessity. |
Anonymous
Hmm, my parents often left the table hungry in order to ensure that all the rest of us at the table had enough to eat. Yes, I guess you could say that it was a choice. But in my eyes, I know my parents made many sacrifices for their children. |
Anonymous
I don't completely agree with this: for my family, we have a weak public, but we have the means to move or send our kids to private. But I have friends who attended parochial schools as kids out of necessity. One's family lived with the grandmother - they could not afford housing on their own nor could they anywhere in a 75-mile radius of the city. The other friend's family had a Section 8 voucher and also could not afford to relocate. Someone on another thread discussed how sacrifice and necessity are often determined by one's income and wealth. There are a lot of sunk costs in moving, especially if a family has no wealth/assets to leverage for the move. |
Anonymous
| You can make sacrifices for extravagances. Sacrifice is an equal-opportunity qualifier. Who is this self-appointed Queen Bee of Semantics. Connotations and Usage? |
Anonymous
Only b/c you choose to live in an area with crappy schools. Some of us choose to live in areas with better schools. Again, a choice. Perhaps I sacrificed to get my house in a slightly better neighborhood than you did. But at the end of the day, you are sacrificing now simply b/c of a choice you made to live where you do. |
Anonymous
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It may be a choice but some people have a lot more "choices" available to them than others do.
Some sacrifices are real; others are BS. Some sacrifices are worth making and others are not. And some people are lucky enough that the things which others must sacrifice for come to them without sacrifice. I'm mostly in the last camp at this point -- but it's because my parents made real sacrifices and ones that were worthwhile. (Public schools for elementary/secondary with housing chosen based on school district. Harvard for college -- in the days when there was no financial aid for a family of 6 with an income of $36,000/year.) |
Anonymous
| Listen if you only can afford one or the other which ever you give up is the opportunity cost of the other! So yes it is a choice but your choice means having to sacrifice the other! Geesh!! Some of you all are some of the most petty and resentful bunch of people I have ever seen! Oh and did I mention jealous! I bet a dollar to a donut none of you have the nerve to say any of this shit to these people you are so sick of! I bet you just smile and nod along!! What a bunch of phonies some of you are!! Get over it! In there mind it s a sacrifice what the hell does it matter to you? Choice or Sacrifice!!! If you are sick of it TELL THEM!!! But you will not do that!! No instead you will rant like a coward and try to stir up discussion!! Bravo!! |
Anonymous
| PP here sorry for all the mispells and typos!! But ya get my point!! |