Found Mother’s Day gifts for my husband for Mother’s Day

[Anonymous]

Your MIL is a strange person. This seems bizarre to me, even (especially?) if meant as a deliberate insult.

Maybe next year make Mother’s day all about your FIL?

[Anonymous]

That’s so strange and hostile it’s funny from the outside. Maybe you can make a game of it. Have your kids give her a graduation card or a “Happy Halloween” card for the 4th of July. Keep it going. Take photos of all of it!

[Anonymous]

OP, please provide more info! What does DH think? What is MIL like otherwise? This is bonkers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s so strange and hostile it’s funny from the outside. Maybe you can make a game of it. Have your kids give her a graduation card or a “Happy Halloween” card for the 4th of July. Keep it going. Take photos of all of it!

This is hilarious. Op, You should start doing this.

[Anonymous]

I mean, this is a crazy person thing to do.

Is she showing signs of cognitive impairment or is she just strange and rude as a person?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, this is a crazy person thing to do.

Is she showing signs of cognitive impairment or is she just strange and rude as a person?

Just strange and kind of toxic. We don’t have a bad relationship, I seriously do everything for her. I am incredibly inclusive of her because she’s single and if I didn’t make the effort my husband wouldn’t even think to include her except maybe once a month. I invite her for every holiday, she is lower income so I buy her a lot of clothes and home furnishings, etc. I did all the applications for her rental and guarantor paperwork. I definitely treat her very, very well.

[Anonymous]

Well, even if she was lovely you should stop owning this relationship for your husband.

But the fact she is this crazy would really make me cut back. I wouldn’t really be mad, because it is just so ridiculous. But I would not be super nice either.

[Anonymous]

WHY did she do this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, this is a crazy person thing to do.

Is she showing signs of cognitive impairment or is she just strange and rude as a person?

Just strange and kind of toxic. We don’t have a bad relationship, I seriously do everything for her. I am incredibly inclusive of her because she’s single and if I didn’t make the effort my husband wouldn’t even think to include her except maybe once a month. I invite her for every holiday, she is lower income so I buy her a lot of clothes and home furnishings, etc. I did all the applications for her rental and guarantor paperwork. I definitely treat her very, very well.

It sounds like you’ve been really kind and, if this doesn’t seem out of character, she does sound toxic. What was your husbands take on the situation?

If I were you I would continue to be polite and respectful but would definitely not be going above and beyond to help her out with things. Personally, I’d feel intentionally disrespected.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, this is a crazy person thing to do.

Is she showing signs of cognitive impairment or is she just strange and rude as a person?

Just strange and kind of toxic. We don’t have a bad relationship, I seriously do everything for her. I am incredibly inclusive of her because she’s single and if I didn’t make the effort my husband wouldn’t even think to include her except maybe once a month. I invite her for every holiday, she is lower income so I buy her a lot of clothes and home furnishings, etc. I did all the applications for her rental and guarantor paperwork. I definitely treat her very, very well.

Maybe it was a passive aggressive poke not at you, but your husband, who doesn’t appreciate her appropriately on Mother’s Day?

[Anonymous]

I would take a picture & say nothing, but step back in my involvement.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry, but if you just recently found these it seems pretty clear they were meant for Father’s Day. Is it possible she just got confused and wrote Mother’s Day by mistake, maybe because she is a woman? It just sounds really off to me, like some kind of dementia, especially since it sound like you have a decent relationship.

[Anonymous]

Does she babysit your kids?

[Anonymous]

You should be discussing this with your dh, not us. But please report back. Sounds like dementia.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should be discussing this with your dh, not us. But please report back. Sounds like dementia.

+1. If he asked her about it, I’m curious what she said.