Should I give her another chance? Disappeared after our date.

[Anonymous]

Here's what I wanna know. Why did she have to ask you out to dinner? Maybe after you were texting back and forth last month and you never made a move to ask her out, she decided it wasn't going anywhere and she should not waste more energy and on you.

If you like her and want to date her again, step up and ask her out again. You're making her make a lot of the effort and initiative. That's typically not very attractive to most women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t op. I’d be put off that she couldn’t or didn’t see me on a weekend, during what my husband calls “prime dinner and screwing hours” I’d be wanting to know what exactly she was doing with that time.. not wanting to drag you into ex drama sounds.. off to me, I’d be more comfortable she said “I filed a restraining order” or “Italked to my dad to ask his oppinion” or something but “ex kept contacting her” just would make me wonder. Couple that with her not contacting you for two weeks, and at some point either she actually sees you and enjoys it or she’s stringing you along no matter how true her reasons. “s*** or get off the pot is how my grandma would say it. Remember, honesty doesn’t always equal a nice person, it just means they’ve found a sucker.

If it were me, I’d find another lady, one who has the time and the desire to be with you. This woman’s presence in your life is keeping you from falling in love, healthy women don’t want to date a guy who is so consumed with another woman.

Your H is a tool!

[Anonymous]

FFS OP, see this woman again. You owe it to yourself to at least see if there’s something there. If not, you’ll probably find that out before your fourth date, if it gets to that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's what I wanna know. Why did she have to ask you out to dinner? Maybe after you were texting back and forth last month and you never made a move to ask her out, she decided it wasn't going anywhere and she should not waste more energy and on you.

If you like her and want to date her again, step up and ask her out again. You're making her make a lot of the effort and initiative. That's typically not very attractive to most women

I missed that she had to ask him out when I first read his post. OP, did you say you wanted to see her again the next day? Was your question on Friday to ask her out? I agree that you need to put forth some effort and quit acting like a little you-know-what

[Anonymous]

OP ain’t bout that life

[Anonymous]

I would proceed w/caution on this OP.

Extreme caution.

It seems to me that her ex is still a powerful presence in her life right now.
And she is, for whatever reason, allowing him in.

Do you think she still has feelings for the guy??

[Anonymous]

Is she hot?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. The ex drama isn’t worth it.

This is how the ex ruins her life.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is she hot?

Extremely. She’s like Halle Berry, just a little lighter and long curly hair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she hot?

Extremely. She’s like Halle Berry, just a little lighter and long curly hair.

Either this is your ex, or you’re exaggerating. No man questions whether he should give Halle Berry a second chance. Unless you live in New Hampshire where there are a zillion people who look like HB.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

So on the basis of an acquaintance 10 yrs ago and some texting and one date, she owes you all this personal info and instant replies to your texts? No, she doesn’t. She’s given you more info than you need at this one-date stage. And here you are wondering if you should give her another chance? If I were her and knew you were thinking that, I would be gone. You are too demanding and that’s a red flag.

[Anonymous]

You seem high maintenance.

[Anonymous]

I think "disappeared" is a little much. I read the title and thought she had gone MIA for a month or two and then resurfaced.

That being said, telling you about "ex drama" is interesting. She's telling you, in one way or another, she is still entangled with someone else. so this is what I'd be cautious about. Expect her to be spotty.

Go and give her another chance, as long as you know the odds are that she's not ready for anything serious (or she will dive headlong stupidly into something serious, depending on how she reacts to the drama).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You seem high maintenance.

This was my first thought. I don't think she's the one bringing drama to the table. She doesn't seem the type to give OP the kind of attention he needs.