DH Giving me silent treatment

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly is silent treatment? Is it him just trying to calm down before saying something stupid or hurtful? Or is he going days at a time without saying anything to get an emotional reaping? How do the two of you fight? Is he normally loud? Are you?

Won't speak to me when asked questions. Leaves the house without a word. The silence will go on for days at a time. He refuses to speak with a therapist.

Is it after big arguments? Do you insult him or his intelligence? His manhood? Does he say anything before he stops or just up and walk away? Are things normally getting heated like about to explode before this happens? or does he just wake up the next morning and say I'm not going to talk to her today?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly is silent treatment? Is it him just trying to calm down before saying something stupid or hurtful? Or is he going days at a time without saying anything to get an emotional reaping? How do the two of you fight? Is he normally loud? Are you?

Won't speak to me when asked questions. Leaves the house without a word. The silence will go on for days at a time. He refuses to speak with a therapist.

Is it after big arguments? Do you insult him or his intelligence? His manhood? Does he say anything before he stops or just up and walk away? Are things normally getting heated like about to explode before this happens? or does he just wake up the next morning and say I'm not going to talk to her today?

After an argument, big or small. No insults are thrown but our failure to agree on a solution which results in silence. There is no warning, he simply stops his acknowledgement of me speaking or existing entirely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly is silent treatment? Is it him just trying to calm down before saying something stupid or hurtful? Or is he going days at a time without saying anything to get an emotional reaping? How do the two of you fight? Is he normally loud? Are you?

Won't speak to me when asked questions. Leaves the house without a word. The silence will go on for days at a time. He refuses to speak with a therapist.

Is it after big arguments? Do you insult him or his intelligence? His manhood? Does he say anything before he stops or just up and walk away? Are things normally getting heated like about to explode before this happens? or does he just wake up the next morning and say I'm not going to talk to her today?

After an argument, big or small. No insults are thrown but our failure to agree on a solution which results in silence. There is no warning, he simply stops his acknowledgement of me speaking or existing entirely.

Sorry to hear this. I don't want to try to minimize your pain and I don't know what to do in this situation. But that doesn't sound like a healthy way for him to respond.

[Anonymous]

File for divorce. No husband should go a whole day without speaking to his wife. This is abuse!

[Anonymous]

OP have you posted before about this issue? There is usually a silent treatment post every couple of months. This sounds like a big problem. I would consult an attorney and let your husband know he needs to start therapy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP have you posted before about this issue? There is usually a silent treatment post every couple of months. This sounds like a big problem. I would consult an attorney and let your husband know he needs to start therapy.

No, I have not posted on this forum prior. Apparently this is a normal issue among relationships if it is a reoccurring topic. How have those other women handled the situation is my question. Seems divorce is the only solution if DH is unwilling to seek help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP have you posted before about this issue? There is usually a silent treatment post every couple of months. This sounds like a big problem. I would consult an attorney and let your husband know he needs to start therapy.

No, I have not posted on this forum prior. Apparently this is a normal issue among relationships if it is a reoccurring topic. How have those other women handled the situation is my question. Seems divorce is the only solution if DH is unwilling to seek help.

How often does he pull this? Do you have kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP have you posted before about this issue? There is usually a silent treatment post every couple of months. This sounds like a big problem. I would consult an attorney and let your husband know he needs to start therapy.

No, I have not posted on this forum prior. Apparently this is a normal issue among relationships if it is a reoccurring topic. How have those other women handled the situation is my question. Seems divorce is the only solution if DH is unwilling to seek help.

How often does he pull this? Do you have kids?

One child, the frequency is every few months since Covid started. Any tips on how to get my DH to communicate? or stop this behavior?

[Anonymous]

Divorce. It’s a form of abuse and controlling your partner.

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP, but it is emotionally abusive and controlling. Maybe send him an article making him aware and letting him know that the heavier can’t continue.

[Anonymous]

Mental disorders and abusive

He could get worse if he moved into the outward anger phases

[Anonymous]

For my DH, withdrawing is the only way he can be sure he won’t do/say something he regrets. He talks once he calms down internally. It’s a coping strategy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For my DH, withdrawing is the only way he can be sure he won’t do/say something he regrets. He talks once he calms down internally. It’s a coping strategy.

Me too. Sometimes I just have to be quiet.

[Anonymous]

OP - the fact that you are wondering if this is "normal" or in any way okay tells me that you don't know what a healthy relationship looks like. Perhaps your even codependent. I would highly recommend therapy for yourself to figure this out. Trust me - I've BTDT, and the quicker you work this out, the more easily you can move on living a happy life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine pulled this for a week earlier this year and I let him know next time he does it I’ll be talking to a lawyer about a separation. It’s not a negotiating tactic, i will absolutely do it and won’t waste a second on feeling bad or trying to drag him to therapy. I refuse to live the next 40 years of my life this way and I don’t care what kind of financial price I have to pay to escape it.

If I was your husband, I'll sign the paper in a heart beat...relationship doesn't move at your pace so you throw a tantrum back at him? I see a dim future for your marriage.