Catcalls

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah this ruined my childhood. I wouldn't go anywhere alone. I was catcalled, honked at, stared at. My sister had her breasts grabbed walking down a residential sidewalk.

Men are pigs.

Ditto (some men)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I naive to be shocked by this? My daughter is 12, and still in a pretty "skinny little kid" phase. Her cousin is 6 months older, and does look significantly older than my kid, but she's still a pretty typical 13 year old. Anyhow, they both finished their vaccines, so, to celebrate, I took them touristy town to pick apples and get some ice cream. We were catcalled by passing cars, maybe 8-10 times in 2 hours while walking along a tourist strip to look in windows and get some ice cream. I'm a middle aged mom, and, while I'd like to think I'm looking good for my age, this also does not happen to me when I'm alone! (I've been out and about since I work an essential job and have been fully vaxed for ages) Not that it should matter, but they were both in reasonable (not cheeky) shorts, and high necked tank tops. Just seems so gross that it starts that early. They are barely/not even teens!

Troll, apples aren’t in season to pick anywhere unless taking a flight to celebrate

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Am I naive to be shocked by this? My daughter is 12, and still in a pretty "skinny little kid" phase. Her cousin is 6 months older, and does look significantly older than my kid, but she's still a pretty typical 13 year old. Anyhow, they both finished their vaccines, so, to celebrate, I took them touristy town to pick apples and get some ice cream. We were catcalled by passing cars, maybe 8-10 times in 2 hours while walking along a tourist strip to look in windows and get some ice cream. I'm a middle aged mom, and, while I'd like to think I'm looking good for my age, this also does not happen to me when I'm alone! (I've been out and about since I work an essential job and have been fully vaxed for ages) Not that it should matter, but they were both in reasonable (not cheeky) shorts, and high necked tank tops. Just seems so gross that it starts that early. They are barely/not even teens!

Troll, apples aren’t in season to pick anywhere unless taking a flight to celebrate

OP here. We aren’t local. Yup, the apples didn’t work out, so we went go karting instead. The city was pigeon forge

[Anonymous]

OP here. Not a troll, btw, just didn’t think the exact activity was that relevant. I also let them “gem mine” in an outdoor place. They haven’t been on a vacation in over a year, so this was last minute and totally cheesy, but they loved it.

[Anonymous]

It is so disturbing that some men think this is ok. I was just speaking with my husband about all the harassment women experience. He actually said "but nothing happened to you". Then I proceeded to list so many I have experience in my life: bra snapping, butt grabbing, breast grabbing, unwelcomed attempts at kissing me, cat calling, misogynistic comments, etc, etc, etc. And I told him, I still get cat called today, as an almost 40-year-old mother of 3. Then he said, I've never heard anyone cat call you. Seriously, so dense. I told him it doesn't happen when I am with him, it is when I am alone or with female friends and specially when I run. I run with my friend 3x a week, and we wear loose t-shirts to cover ourselves, and we get cat-called just about every time, it is so uncomfortable. We would love to wear a sports bra for our top when it is super hot, like men who run topless, but we would never dream of it because so many men a gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah this ruined my childhood. I wouldn't go anywhere alone. I was catcalled, honked at, stared at. My sister had her breasts grabbed walking down a residential sidewalk.

Men are pigs.

I (a female) had girls do this (grabbing parts) to me too. Gross isn’t limited to one gender.

I ONCE had a girl try to pull my tub top down at a party. Once. The instances when men were disgusting like that are hundreds. Let's be honest, it is 99% men who do these things.

[Anonymous]

I hope that with cameras everywhere, people start to name/shame these jerks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is so disturbing that some men think this is ok. I was just speaking with my husband about all the harassment women experience. He actually said "but nothing happened to you". Then I proceeded to list so many I have experience in my life: bra snapping, butt grabbing, breast grabbing, unwelcomed attempts at kissing me, cat calling, misogynistic comments, etc, etc, etc. And I told him, I still get cat called today, as an almost 40-year-old mother of 3. Then he said, I've never heard anyone cat call you. Seriously, so dense. I told him it doesn't happen when I am with him, it is when I am alone or with female friends and specially when I run. I run with my friend 3x a week, and we wear loose t-shirts to cover ourselves, and we get cat-called just about every time, it is so uncomfortable. We would love to wear a sports bra for our top when it is super hot, like men who run topless, but we would never dream of it because so many men a gross.

My oldest, an avid runner, stopped running outdoors around our neighborhood because of this. Now she usually drives to a park and runs on a trail or just uses the treadmill. It is so frustrating that disgusting men are keeping her from running around her own neighborhood. And by the way, we live in a really nice neighborhood, but once you hit a main road the creeps appear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men are gross and they are getting worse.

Except that it was much more prevalent a few decades ago. Its still a thing in Latin america and in some parts of NYC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah this ruined my childhood. I wouldn't go anywhere alone. I was catcalled, honked at, stared at. My sister had her breasts grabbed walking down a residential sidewalk.

Men are pigs.

Agreed but I had my butt squeezed for several months by some cool girl (I’m not the kind of guy who would warrant that attention).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah this ruined my childhood. I wouldn't go anywhere alone. I was catcalled, honked at, stared at. My sister had her breasts grabbed walking down a residential sidewalk.

Men are pigs.

I (a female) had girls do this (grabbing parts) to me too. Gross isn’t limited to one gender.

Bullshit. While there may be a random outlier that you experienced, I never have. Ever. This is not a "both sides are wrong" issue. At least not in equal parts or anything close to it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh. It’s the worst.

I grew up in Arlington and anytime I walked down Glebe or Williamsburg, I’d get catcalled nonstop. I also remember being 13 or so at the beach with my family, and my mom thought it was hilarious when college age guys yelled from their balconies at me. So gross.

A few years ago we moved to an area where there’s almost zero cat calling. Men mind their own business and don’t cat call, harass you, or give you elevator eyes. It’s so, so much nicer.

Where? I want to move there!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah this ruined my childhood. I wouldn't go anywhere alone. I was catcalled, honked at, stared at. My sister had her breasts grabbed walking down a residential sidewalk.

Men are pigs.

I (a female) had girls do this (grabbing parts) to me too. Gross isn’t limited to one gender.

Bullshit. While there may be a random outlier that you experienced, I never have. Ever. This is not a "both sides are wrong" issue. At least not in equal parts or anything close to it.

So because something hasn’t happened to you it hasn’t ever happened and we should be discounting the stories on this thread?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Am I naive to be shocked by this? My daughter is 12, and still in a pretty "skinny little kid" phase. Her cousin is 6 months older, and does look significantly older than my kid, but she's still a pretty typical 13 year old. Anyhow, they both finished their vaccines, so, to celebrate, I took them touristy town to pick apples and get some ice cream. We were catcalled by passing cars, maybe 8-10 times in 2 hours while walking along a tourist strip to look in windows and get some ice cream. I'm a middle aged mom, and, while I'd like to think I'm looking good for my age, this also does not happen to me when I'm alone! (I've been out and about since I work an essential job and have been fully vaxed for ages) Not that it should matter, but they were both in reasonable (not cheeky) shorts, and high necked tank tops. Just seems so gross that it starts that early. They are barely/not even teens!

Troll, apples aren’t in season to pick anywhere unless taking a flight to celebrate

OP here. We aren’t local. Yup, the apples didn’t work out, so we went go karting instead. The city was pigeon forge

Nuff said.

[Anonymous]

It happens to my daughter here in DC ALL THE TIME.