Anyone Feel Guilty for Isolating Their Kids due to COVID???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not in this self-righteous liberal city!

Everywhere else, yes.

Why do you think the mass media stopped publishing how low symptomatic positives or hospitalizations are? or how all the catholic schools in the country have been open since August 2020? Or how all the day cares of essential workers have been open since April 2020 with no real issues?

The lack of testing and contact tracing ENSURES that no issues can ever be found, PP. It's so convenient for all the business-as-usual people to forget that this pandemic is driven by asymptomatic cases. Community spread has to reach the vulnerable, elderly and sick among us before anyone realizes it's too late... unless we implement systematic pooled testing and contact tracing, which the USA (and many other countries) refuses to do.

my kids school has weekly testing of 1000 kids and 250 staff. Most weeks it's zero positives. One in awhile there is 1 or 2 positives and they will pull out a 10 kid pod. Guess what? Never any positives in the "exposed" pod either.

the data speaks for itself. THe media and gov't aren't showing you that data.

and the schools, sports, activities that do no testing also show no issues, spread, etc.

you can keep harping on test everyone all the time. at the end this will just look like the flu in the data. Sick unhealthy people who caught the flu fared badly.

Know how many ER doctors I know who own and operate testing gigs and urgimeds now due to the sheer easy profit of doing so now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not in this self-righteous liberal city!

Everywhere else, yes.

Why do you think the mass media stopped publishing how low symptomatic positives or hospitalizations are? or how all the catholic schools in the country have been open since August 2020? Or how all the day cares of essential workers have been open since April 2020 with no real issues?

The lack of testing and contact tracing ENSURES that no issues can ever be found, PP. It's so convenient for all the business-as-usual people to forget that this pandemic is driven by asymptomatic cases. Community spread has to reach the vulnerable, elderly and sick among us before anyone realizes it's too late... unless we implement systematic pooled testing and contact tracing, which the USA (and many other countries) refuses to do.

There is no lack of testing. It's everywhere and 100% covered by your health insurance, including rush processing.

There is no lack of contact tracing. DC DOH calls you 2-3x if you're exposed to check up and collect the data. My kid's pod was pulled due to a student's family having an asymptomatic positive and we fielded an early call plus 2 followups.

[Anonymous]

I would say take a moderate approach. No need to throw all caution to the wind, but do bring in some regular kid interaction into your daughters life. Also, allow space for conversations with her and time for her to adjust. Help her feel safe to play with other gives. Give her that explicit permission.

I would say a regular playground session, or regular weekly play date. Masked, hand sanitizer etc... the default precautions. If she demonstrates anxiety or hesitates then say feel it out and help validate and support her in her feelings and experience.

How do you feel?
It’s ok to play!
Are you feeling anxious? It’s ok to feel that way.
I know this is new.
You are safe
Mommy is here for you
Do you want me to walk over with you? (To a new potential friend)
Mommy can play with you (if she wants to be at the playground but doesn’t have friends yet)
Do you need a hug?
I promise you are safe
I am here for you etc...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’ve been really careful since the beginning of the pandemic, which has meant very limited human interaction for our 6-year-old. Her school has been virtual since last March, camps were canceled. We did work hard to make outdoor playdates happen last summer and early fall, but in November it got too cold plus we moved to a place where we didn’t know anyone. Normally we’d do outings at the children’s museum, playgrounds etc, but being in crowded places felt unsafe. So we’d go places but keep a distance and she wouldn’t get to interact with other kids. Besides us and her grandparents (once they got vaccinated), she hasn’t really had any contact with people.


She’s always been really quiet and shy, and this year seems to have made it worse. We’re trying to make up for lost time by signing her up for classes, camp this summer, etc, but I feel like I’ve messed her up and I’m a terrible mom. Especially looking at everyone I know who didn’t take precautions at all and none of them or their kids got seriously sick and I’m kind of feeling like an idiot. People were pretty judgy about us trying to follow the COVID rules, so I’m really second guessing if we were wrong to do that.

Obviously the ideal would be to have a few close friends taking the same level of precautions and hang out with them, but we just didn’t have any friends like that.

At this point I kind of feel like throwing all caution to the wind, esp because my DH and I are completing our own vaccinations, and just letting her socialize in any way we can get - inside, outside, masks, no masks, getting up close in each other’s faces, etc. In our area other people just don’t seem to care the same way we do, so the other kids don’t wear masks or distance.

It feels like such a lose-lose situation for me.

I am so sorry OP. Do what’s right by your kid and don’t let the judging Karens dictate your choices. Seriously, look at the data and make your own decisions.

No, the judging Karen’s are the pro-masking harpies who go mental when even one person is unmasked within a 1 mile radius of them. I feel bad for OP but worse for her kid. Barring major pre-existing medical conditions, OP should have done her own risk analysis instead of relying on the idiotic media to do it for her.

[Anonymous]

No. I don’t feel guilty. But I also know a fair number of people who weren’t as careful as we were, and they did get Covid, and so did their kids. Or their kids got it and they didn’t or vice versa.

[Anonymous]

Kids* not gives. Sorry autocorrect

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not in this self-righteous liberal city!

Everywhere else, yes.

Why do you think the mass media stopped publishing how low symptomatic positives or hospitalizations are? or how all the catholic schools in the country have been open since August 2020? Or how all the day cares of essential workers have been open since April 2020 with no real issues?

The lack of testing and contact tracing ENSURES that no issues can ever be found, PP. It's so convenient for all the business-as-usual people to forget that this pandemic is driven by asymptomatic cases. Community spread has to reach the vulnerable, elderly and sick among us before anyone realizes it's too late... unless we implement systematic pooled testing and contact tracing, which the USA (and many other countries) refuses to do.

Haven't we been protecting the sick and elderly from colds, viruses and germs all along, always?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’ve been really careful since the beginning of the pandemic, which has meant very limited human interaction for our 6-year-old. Her school has been virtual since last March, camps were canceled. We did work hard to make outdoor playdates happen last summer and early fall, but in November it got too cold plus we moved to a place where we didn’t know anyone. Normally we’d do outings at the children’s museum, playgrounds etc, but being in crowded places felt unsafe. So we’d go places but keep a distance and she wouldn’t get to interact with other kids. Besides us and her grandparents (once they got vaccinated), she hasn’t really had any contact with people.


She’s always been really quiet and shy, and this year seems to have made it worse. We’re trying to make up for lost time by signing her up for classes, camp this summer, etc, but I feel like I’ve messed her up and I’m a terrible mom. Especially looking at everyone I know who didn’t take precautions at all and none of them or their kids got seriously sick and I’m kind of feeling like an idiot. People were pretty judgy about us trying to follow the COVID rules, so I’m really second guessing if we were wrong to do that.

Obviously the ideal would be to have a few close friends taking the same level of precautions and hang out with them, but we just didn’t have any friends like that.

At this point I kind of feel like throwing all caution to the wind, esp because my DH and I are completing our own vaccinations, and just letting her socialize in any way we can get - inside, outside, masks, no masks, getting up close in each other’s faces, etc. In our area other people just don’t seem to care the same way we do, so the other kids don’t wear masks or distance.

It feels like such a lose-lose situation for me.

I am so sorry OP. Do what’s right by your kid and don’t let the judging Karens dictate your choices. Seriously, look at the data and make your own decisions.

No, the judging Karen’s are the pro-masking harpies who go mental when even one person is unmasked within a 1 mile radius of them. I feel bad for OP but worse for her kid. Barring major pre-existing medical conditions, OP should have done her own risk analysis instead of relying on the idiotic media to do it for her.

NP, you are both saying the same thing and in agreement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not in this self-righteous liberal city!

Everywhere else, yes.

Why do you think the mass media stopped publishing how low symptomatic positives or hospitalizations are? or how all the catholic schools in the country have been open since August 2020? Or how all the day cares of essential workers have been open since April 2020 with no real issues?

Haha. You sound like my classmate who did not believe in covid.

Now he is upset on social media because he has been sick as a dog with covid for 14 days.

My local paper publishes hospitalization daily, as do most daily Metros. And the Catholic school shut down for months this winter because of high cases.

Your whole post is lie.

So how many people got a cold and felt sick or were hospitalized or died? besides the usual, of course.

[Anonymous]

No sinus infections or antibiotics for 18 months instead of 4x a year is WIN for our family!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not in this self-righteous liberal city!

Everywhere else, yes.

Why do you think the mass media stopped publishing how low symptomatic positives or hospitalizations are? or how all the catholic schools in the country have been open since August 2020? Or how all the day cares of essential workers have been open since April 2020 with no real issues?

Our Catholic school closed three times due to covid cases, about ten kids in total got it, and two teachers got it so badly they were hospitalized for three weeks and a month. All the kids are masked, plexiglass shields are between the desks and they eat lunch sitting three feet from each other outside or in the gym. No afterschool activities and no parents in the school. The drop off is timed with military precision with teachers getting the kids out of the cars.

And we still had three dangerous outbreaks. Public schools didn’t have the funds to take these precautions.

My nieces daycare closed for two week intervals several times and a kitchen worker died.

No one is hiding facts but they were Not publicized.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, of course I don’t feel guilty! Not one tiny bit. We acted in the best interest of our children and our community.

I know it’s going to be hard for my son to start school after seeing virtually no one but us and nanny for a year. But we’ll help him adjust and so will his preschool. He’ll be fine. He’s healthy and we, as a family, didn’t spread the virus to anyone.

+1. We feel proud. We took every precaution seriously and did not get or spread covid to anyone. My boys get it and understand their sacrifice was for the good of our community.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP it sounds like you did overreact but there is nothing you can do about that now. Just move forward with a new determination to help her make up for lost time and experiences. She’ll be fine in the long run.

This. If numbers are low where you are, let her socialize. Camps are great because they have reasonable precautions (usually).

[Anonymous]

NO! God, no we do not feel guilty for doing the right thing!

What is wrong with our generation for even entertaining that thought?! Are we really that selfish? Or stupid? (I didn’t get covid do it wasn’t really that bad).

You have no idea how many lives you saved, OP, or how your not spreading the virus slowed the mutation. And you never played around with your child’s health.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, of course I don’t feel guilty! Not one tiny bit. We acted in the best interest of our children and our community.

I know it’s going to be hard for my son to start school after seeing virtually no one but us and nanny for a year. But we’ll help him adjust and so will his preschool. He’ll be fine. He’s healthy and we, as a family, didn’t spread the virus to anyone.

+1. We feel proud. We took every precaution seriously and did not get or spread covid to anyone. My boys get it and understand their sacrifice was for the good of our community.

“Proud” —?? That’s so silly.