Why on earth would parents host a drinking party for their teens

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am totally comfortable with my underage kids drinking alcohol. When I was that age, high school students were legal. I would rather they drink under my roof and not driving than to learn tolerance when they are away at college - so sort of like the French poster above.

I do not host for their friends.

Learn tolerance is nonsense. That simply means they will drink more when they are away.

Stop giving teens alcohol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These "parents" will find the cops knocking at their door.

Two sets of parents hosted parties for a sports team in our town, both were charged.

[Anonymous]

I'm 35 and had a friend's family host these parties when I was a senior in high school. Their reasoning

1. They figured we would do it anyways so preferred somewhere safe
2. Keys were taken at start of party. Everyone slept over
3. They were from NZ and didn't see teen drinking as a big deal as long as you were safe

The funny thing was these parents were super strict in a lot of areas like school and extra curricular activities. If you lined up all my friends' parents they were the ones you would least suspect being OK with it.

[Anonymous]

My parents let me have wine with them and eventually vodka around 18. But they never hosted a party or let other kids have anything without their parents there. My kids can have wine friday nights. No hosting their friends with alcohol served.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These "parents" will find the cops knocking at their door.

Rarely

[Anonymous]

They know kids are drinking and they think it’s safer in their basement than in a field or driving around.

[Anonymous]

They don’t believe 21 should be the drinking age, they think 18 is old enough to drink beer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am totally comfortable with my underage kids drinking alcohol. When I was that age, high school students were legal. I would rather they drink under my roof and not driving than to learn tolerance when they are away at college - so sort of like the French poster above.

I do not host for their friends.

This is misleading and convenient for you.

You mean, when I was that age, some kids could legally drink part way through senior year in high school and some could not.

Kids are not over 18 until the end of high school, at best.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:These "parents" will find the cops knocking at their door.

Rarely

The bigger issue is do the other parents of these kids really know what you are doing, in my experience.

If you are doing this, you have an obligation to make damn sure every single parent of the kids you are helping to drink in your home knows what is going on and is okay with it.

Lots of lawyers in this town. Be careful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They know kids are drinking and they think it’s safer in their basement than in a field or driving around.

This. It's not good to host large drinking parties and then let the kids drive home, but I am forever grateful to my friends parents who let us drink at their house when we had sleepovers. It's the only time I was able to experiment with alcohol before college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They know kids are drinking and they think it’s safer in their basement than in a field or driving around.

This. It's not good to host large drinking parties and then let the kids drive home, but I am forever grateful to my friends parents who let us drink at their house when we had sleepovers. It's the only time I was able to experiment with alcohol before college.

For parents who don't want this to happen, READ THIS ONE CAREFULLY. This is where it's going down. The sleepovers.

Most kids are not "experimenting" with drinking at these sleepovers. They are getting completely drunk at co-ed sleepovers. Think about it carefully if you have a daughter or a son. Life long consequences and to be blunt, the girls will have it worse.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree that this is the dumbest thing a parent can do. I knew a family growing up who did this and got caught. The father was a successful doctor. He got caught hosting a large teen party with drinking - he lost everything. Everything.

It's one thing to let your own kid have a drink or two, but to host someone else's kids and let them drink - hell no.

Everything? Did he lose his toothbrush? Lawnmower? Old ratty underwear?

Wow. What a story. A DR. lost everything for a beer party. We believe you.

Come on, why disbelieve this? What, you want the guys email to verify? This is believable because of the details you don't know. PP never said it was a "beer party".A large teen party with drinking undoubtedly didn't have just drinking, and that was in no small part because of the drinking, I imagine. So add sex and drugs to the mix in ANY amount, and yeah, s*** could get real.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They know kids are drinking and they think it’s safer in their basement than in a field or driving around.

This. It's not good to host large drinking parties and then let the kids drive home, but I am forever grateful to my friends parents who let us drink at their house when we had sleepovers. It's the only time I was able to experiment with alcohol before college.

There were some parents in my high school who would let everybody sleep over after these drinking parties and that’s when all the drunk sex happened too.

Hell if I would let my kids do this.

[Anonymous]

This is all great until something goes wrong. Things that can go wrong that I have personally known to have happened.

Kids get out of house and wander around neighborhood drunk and neighbors complain.
Kids take inappropriate photos of each other and they get sent around.
Kids get involved in some kind of sexual situation that goes south and all the other kids know and are talking about it and kid has to deal with fallout.
Parent finds out what went down and is pissed and emails the school (this is in a private setting). School won't do anything, but then school admin has this on their radar about your kid.
And of course the nightmare scenario...kids gets really sick in your home or they somehow do manage to get in a car.

Might be best to sit in your back yard and have a beer with your kid if your goal is to expose them to alcohol before college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree that this is the dumbest thing a parent can do. I knew a family growing up who did this and got caught. The father was a successful doctor. He got caught hosting a large teen party with drinking - he lost everything. Everything.

It's one thing to let your own kid have a drink or two, but to host someone else's kids and let them drink - hell no.

Everything? Did he lose his toothbrush? Lawnmower? Old ratty underwear?

Wow. What a story. A DR. lost everything for a beer party. We believe you.

Come on, why disbelieve this? What, you want the guys email to verify? This is believable because of the details you don't know. PP never said it was a "beer party".A large teen party with drinking undoubtedly didn't have just drinking, and that was in no small part because of the drinking, I imagine. So add sex and drugs to the mix in ANY amount, and yeah, s*** could get real.

Agreed. People are idiots. Folks, what you are doing is illegal and if anything goes wrong with one of these kids and they hurt themselves or others, you are liable and on the hook financially. Is it likely? No. But certainly possible and the consequences could in fact be huge.