No, that is different. You accept one solid offer, so your kid has somewhere to go in the fall. IF you get off a waitlist, then you rescind first acceptance (forfeiting deposit) and accept second. At no point do you keep both schools on the hook That is fine. |
Yeah, doesn’t this poster know how to operate in the shadows? Shine no light on things that are wrong, you might actually be held accountable. |
For a reason |
Wow, is this your MO? It’s okay for me to do bad stuff because I am not the only one. You don’t think your guidepost could get you into trouble. Too bad you never internalized a moral compass. |
| We were for a few days due to a wait list situation that we knew would resolve almost immediately. I would not do it for the entire summer |
Does this school that made you feel like crap have a Waitlist? If so, they should STFU and you should never have spent one second feeling bad. |
How about colleges and universities placing hundreds and thousands of students it knows will never get to on their wait list just in case their yield projection bombs? Is that ethical? We already have “selfish, unethical adults” in the world. |
| Screw the ethics, this is a concrete risk. Explain to your kid that if they don’t make a decision, and you place a double deposit, they could end up at community college because they get their acceptances rescinded. When the choice is between UVA and Stanford, and you choose both, you just chose NOVA. |
I don't get it, why can't you choose one? It seems like if there is a real reason, like some kind of family illness the kid may or may not need to stay closer to home because of, you can tell the school and get an extension. Otherwise--if the kid is just indecisive--then just pick already. |
that's not a double deposit though, and they must deal with that all the time. And if you withdrew, they accepted somebody off their waitlist.... |
Entitled people want to keep their options open for their snowflake children. |
Are you bad mouth colleges and universities for their waitlist practice of keeping their options open? |
She won't. That's how she has been conditioned. She strongly believes she "chooses" to act the way she does.
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| NP. College counselor we hired advised this is a something that can be done. Said, since you have been waitlisted at many places, you will anyway drop the offer if one of the waitlisted picked up. So, if you are in two minds still no harm in selecting depositing at two places until waitlist is cleared. |
Banks are unethical, ergo it’s okay to rob them. |