popular opinion please: dd's friends mom putting gel nails on dd
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Anonymous
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Was this an at home gel set? I mean those things are barely above the stage of regular painted nails.
Regardless, you are overreacting to all of it. Definitely don't talk to the other mother who did something completely normal at a sleepover. Sure take it up with your daughter but what are you going to say? You need to check with me before getting your nails done at a sleepover? You know that sounds crazy right? |
Anonymous
| This is an issue with your daughter and you. The other mom did not do anything wrong. You’re reacting like she painted a kindergartener’s nails, not a teen. |
Anonymous
| You are overreacting. |
Anonymous
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Is it really "gel nails" or is it just gel nail polish from CVS? Gel nails are typically an involved process at the salon, and the similarly named stuff for at-home use from CVS is more like regular nail polish.
It's likely the mom just painted your kid's nails. I wouldn't get upset about it. |
Anonymous
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Not a big deal imo.
Gel over just your own nails lasts WAY longer without chipping v regular polish & comes off with acetone. If her nails are long suddenly then she probably used a kit from the drug store. Gel nails that just stick over your reg nails. Those you just pop off. I’ve used them in shorter subtle colors & they look amazing. She’s old enough, let her have nails if she wants just tell her you’re not paying for them. |
Anonymous
| If the other mom posted here before doing the gel nails, I'd advise her to text you just to be safe because I am extra risk averse like that. But you're the one posting, and I don't think it is reasonable to rely on other people to all be as risk averse as me. A 14 year old can walk into a nail salon and get gel nails without any sort of parental consent, as far as I know. It's not a tattoo or a piercing. So your child needs to be the one to follow your rules. |
Anonymous
| At 14 kids should be able to tell others whether they have food allergies, are allowed to drink soda, and whether they are allowed gel nails if offered. If unsure, she had her phone and could have requested permission. |
Anonymous
| No big deal. Choose your battles. This is non permanent. Plus it's easy to get them off. You wrap them with aluminum foil and acetone and soak. |
Anonymous
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it might have been uncomfortable fo rher to decline if everyone was doing it. Maybe this mom is completely unaware that some people don't like manicure stuff.
I would let it go this time but teach daughter a white "lie" she can use next time to politely say no thank you. |
Anonymous
| I would have asked the other Mom if it was okay first but I wouldn't get upset if someone didn't ask. I think you can use it as a lesson for your daughter. If removing them and the grow out phase is a problem then let her know no more gel nails only regular nail polish. |
Anonymous
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I would never think of asking a high school if she has permission to get her nails painted. Lighten up.
It's nail polish not a tattoo. |
Anonymous
| If she did it at home its likely just the Gel Nail Polish, not true gel/filled nails. |
Anonymous
| Would not have cared and would not have thought to check. |
Anonymous
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Op I’m with you, I think gel nails are atrocious.
What’s done is done. I would be annoyed with the mom, and probably with my daughter. I think I would make it clear to my daughter that it’s her choice if she wants the gel nails, but you will not pay for it. As long as you have explicitly told your daughter why you don’t think they’re good for her nails. It won’t kill her, she can stop wearing them after a while. Set clear expectations with your daughter for next time. Also be clear the other mother that you prefer her not have gel nails (when asked) because it’s not good for her hands. |
Anonymous
Might be time to wean your teen off the boob. |