I definitely said a lot of racist & problematic things in the 90s

[Anonymous]

That’s great self awareness, OP. It would be great if you would bring any bigoted/homophobic, etc, along with you.

[Anonymous]

I sincerely believe people didn't take words so seriously then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I don't care what decade you grew up in. Its a choice to be ignorant.

Cool. Let's cancel everyone. That will help society.

It's VERY difficult to see beyond your community's values, especially as a child.

Not at all. I grew up in the same decade as OP. You know what we had? TV. Internet. Books.

I mean - OP is acting like she grew up in 1932 on a farm during the great depression.

Bill Clinton's Cabinet was filled with women, men, and people of all races. Bush Jr as well. Sesame Street and PBS - free for all kids before you start - was filled with diverse actors and actresses. Television was rife with color and ingenuity.

So yes -- a choice.

What area of the country did you grow up in? I grew up in the same timeframe in the Midwest. There was no diversity at all. I mean at all. Now living in an extremely diverse area but still having friends back “home”, I realize what a huge difference it makes. When you have that personal connection to people of a different culture/religion/race/whatever, it makes a tremendous difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I sincerely believe people didn't take words so seriously then.

Have you asked people of color, LGBT people, differently abled people how they feel about the language that was commonplace just a couple of decades ago?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I don't care what decade you grew up in. Its a choice to be ignorant.

Cool. Let's cancel everyone. That will help society.

It's VERY difficult to see beyond your community's values, especially as a child.

Not at all. I grew up in the same decade as OP. You know what we had? TV. Internet. Books.

I mean - OP is acting like she grew up in 1932 on a farm during the great depression.

Bill Clinton's Cabinet was filled with women, men, and people of all races. Bush Jr as well. Sesame Street and PBS - free for all kids before you start - was filled with diverse actors and actresses. Television was rife with color and ingenuity.

So yes -- a choice.

There is literally zero chance you never said anything “problematic” growing up, no matter how much PBS you watched.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I don't care what decade you grew up in. Its a choice to be ignorant.

Cool. Let's cancel everyone. That will help society.

It's VERY difficult to see beyond your community's values, especially as a child.

I agree with this. What we can do it worry about how we move forward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I don't care what decade you grew up in. Its a choice to be ignorant.

Cool. Let's cancel everyone. That will help society.

It's VERY difficult to see beyond your community's values, especially as a child.

Not at all. I grew up in the same decade as OP. You know what we had? TV. Internet. Books.

I mean - OP is acting like she grew up in 1932 on a farm during the great depression.

Bill Clinton's Cabinet was filled with women, men, and people of all races. Bush Jr as well. Sesame Street and PBS - free for all kids before you start - was filled with diverse actors and actresses. Television was rife with color and ingenuity.

So yes -- a choice.

What area of the country did you grow up in? I grew up in the same timeframe in the Midwest. There was no diversity at all. I mean at all. Now living in an extremely diverse area but still having friends back “home”, I realize what a huge difference it makes. When you have that personal connection to people of a different culture/religion/race/whatever, it makes a tremendous difference.

The Southeast. I mean yes - I get it. Practically the only people who live in the Midwest (aside from Chicago) are white.

[Anonymous]

I grew up in the 80s, and some of the jokes were awful - ranging from generically offensive, to incredibly racist.

I was never overtly racist - but I also really never had the opportunity to be - there were, quite literally, three AA kids at my high school in the 4 years I attended, and no hispanic/latino kids. Two asian kids in HS, I think.

I'm quite sure I was sexist.

[Anonymous]

The Southeast. I mean yes - I get it. Practically the only people who live in the Midwest (aside from Chicago) are white.

Holy cow! Way to dismiss the people of color in WI, IN, MI, OH...

Let's cancel you!

[Anonymous]

Great, but do you feel differently now or do you go on about how you are being cancelled because you can't be authentic to how you were raised?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I don't care what decade you grew up in. Its a choice to be ignorant.

Cool. Let's cancel everyone. That will help society.

It's VERY difficult to see beyond your community's values, especially as a child.

Not at all. I grew up in the same decade as OP. You know what we had? TV. Internet. Books.

I mean - OP is acting like she grew up in 1932 on a farm during the great depression.

Bill Clinton's Cabinet was filled with women, men, and people of all races. Bush Jr as well. Sesame Street and PBS - free for all kids before you start - was filled with diverse actors and actresses. Television was rife with color and ingenuity.

So yes -- a choice.

There is literally zero chance you never said anything “problematic” growing up, no matter how much PBS you watched.

+1
Someone who claims they never said anything problematic in their entire life lacks self awareness.

[Anonymous]

I grew up in NYC, and I don't remember anything that extreme. I don't even remember the jerkiest people in my high school saying anything racist or homophobic. I do remember a friend saying that she wasn't usually attracted to Asian guys, which isn't great, but that is about it.

[Anonymous]

How about Joe Biden and how he treated Anita Hill in 1992.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But also many of us didn't behave like that in the early 2000s.

Yea, right! The 90's and 00's slang was full of homophobic language and you couldn't sing along to any popular rap song due to to quantity of nwords.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I don't care what decade you grew up in. Its a choice to be ignorant.

Cool. Let's cancel everyone. That will help society.

It's VERY difficult to see beyond your community's values, especially as a child.

Yeah when did we start expecting children to make the correct choices every time, without the guidance of adults? That's unreasonable.

My parents weren't racist by any means, but present day racism was not something we talked about growing up, it was more in reference to the past. Paraphrasing, but they acted as if the Civil Rights era had made everyone colorblind or something. But I don't think that was uncommon for the time, and where we lived was not terribly diverse. I had a couple good friends in high school who were Asian but there were only a handful of AAs at our school. I think it's more diverse now.

But I was absolutely ignorant Catholic who was homophobic in high school (early-mid 90s), and didn't really see the light on that until I went away to college. Again, not something we ever talked about at home, and I plan to do better with my kids.