What is the age for a woman or man, that if you are not already married, you likely may never marry?

[Anonymous]

39

[Anonymous]

37 for both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kamala Harris married for the first time at almost 50.

She doesn't have kids. 50 is too old for anyone who wants kids. Most politicians have issues, and I wouldn't use any of them as a model for healthy behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kamala Harris married for the first time at almost 50.

She doesn't have kids. 50 is too old for anyone who wants kids. Most politicians have issues, and I wouldn't use any of them as a model for healthy behavior.

No kids and a huge, demanding career. This wasn't the case of someone desperately trying to get married and just not finding anyone until her late 40s. She had very high career ambitions, focused on them, and then got married when she was extremely firmly established in her career. And she married someone her own age who already had older kids. That's a very different kind of marriage and exceedingly rare.

Though good for her. He seems like a great partner with a wonderful sense of humor, and I can see what they both see in each other. I bet they felt pretty lucky to find each other at that age and realize that it was a good match.

[Anonymous]

Why start a thread like this? To torture people?

[Anonymous]

I don't know anyone who had a first marriage after age 45

[Anonymous]

I was 38 when I married and 39 when I had a baby.

OP, don't look at it as an age issue. So much depends on "why" someone hasn't married yet in the first place. Did they prioritize their schooling? Their career? Did they have bad relationship habits they had to learn to undo? Do they have mental health issues that haven't been manageable? Did they have a physical illness they battled first? There are so many different reasons why someone doesn't marry until later. In my case, I was choosing the wrong men. Serial monogamy for 4-5 years that went nowhere. I took a break from dating for a year or so, and then made sure the only men I dated were men who had marriage on their mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do think 40 is sort of a milestone year where, married or not, you inevitably start contemplating the shape of your life. It's when a lot of people feel like they need to either pull the trigger or move on, in terms of marriage, kids, career change, where you live. There are exceptions, but when you turn 40, I can't tell you how much 50 feels right around the corner. In a way that 40 didn't feel so close when you turn 30 or even 35. 40 is like "Ok, I'm middle aged, this is what my life is -- I can make changes, but I'm not going to stumble into some big shift the way I might have before."

And that's what it is. You can get married past 40 (you can have kids past 40, a variety of ways), but it's not happening unless you make a conscious choice to make it happen. In a way this is much better than the way people often kind of land on marriage partners (or careers, or having kids) by accident if it happens younger. It's why people who marry later tend to stay married. You have to want it. I know a LOT of people who got married with misgivings at 30. Some stayed married, some didn't.

I don't know anyone who got married after 40 who didn't know exactly what they were doing and feel pretty damn certain that this was what they wanted for their future. Because... why? I'm sure it happens, especially with second or third marriages and certain people who just don't know how to be alone. But if you've been single your entire life, you aren't getting married after 40 unless it feels exactly right.

Your anecdotes do not disprove the data, which is that people who get married after age 32 have a higher divorce rate than people who marry between ages 25-32. Each year after 32, the likelihood of divorce increases by 5%.

As it turns out, it’s quite hard for people who are set in their ways to integrate lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kamala Harris married for the first time at almost 50.

She doesn't have kids. 50 is too old for anyone who wants kids. Most politicians have issues, and I wouldn't use any of them as a model for healthy behavior.

I know several people and several couples who adopted kids a 50.

[Anonymous]

70 IMO

[Anonymous]

I wish I never married at 30.

[Anonymous]

Statistically? 41 for a man if he has never married by 41 the salvation say he will never marry.

I don't know the number for a woman.

[Anonymous]

37. I think some people have an "oh shit" moment at 35 and resolve to date more.

[Anonymous]

I'm in my mid-forties, and I know only three women who married after 40; most were married by early 30s. My DH has a couple friends who married around 40, too.

I think the current generation will get married later though probably still by mid to late thirties...

Some info:

What are the probabilities of first marriage by various ages for men and women?

At every age shown, women are more likely to have been married than men.

The probability of first marriage by age 18 is low for both men and women: 6% for women and 2% for men.

There is a 50% probability that women will have married for the first time by the age of 25. Not until age 27 is there a 50% probability that men will have married for the first time.

The probability of first marriage by age 30 is 74% for women and 61% for men.

The probability of first marriage by age 40 is 86% for women and 81% for men.

Women have higher probabilities than men of experiencing a first marriage by each age shown, except at age 40 (where the difference is not statistically significant).

https://tinyurl.com/y3ehup65

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why start a thread like this? To torture people?

Just people’s opinions. Don’t be so sensitive.