where do you think you'll retire?

[Anonymous]

I'm torn between somewhere overseas and somewhere within easy distance of the kid (and any grandkids)

[Anonymous]

Georgetown. Plan to move back into the home we moved out of when 2nd child came along. After high school is do e.

We are city ppl. I'd be bored in the mountains or remote areas. Rather vacation alot but live in an urbAn area. I think old People stay more vibrant and alert in multigenerational areas.

[Anonymous]

Plan is (knock on wood) a home in California and an apt/condo in a city (either here or Europe).

[Anonymous]

Asheville, NC

I don't think of NYC as an easy place for older folks but then my thinking is informed by my 70 year old active aunt who is selling her condo in NYC to move somewhere that is more friendly for older residents. One thing I know for sure is that you need save as much as possible so you can have options.

[Anonymous]

"I also really want my kids to go away to college and to live somewhere other than where they grew up for a few years. I think that's important. But I'd like to be close enough to drive to my grandkids (rather than fly)."

SO IMPORTANT that they live somewhere other than where they grew up for at least a few years (NO, college does NOT count).

I hope I am smart enough to remember this. I hope my kids are smart enough to DO this. What a waste, otherwise, truly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"I also really want my kids to go away to college and to live somewhere other than where they grew up for a few years. I think that's important. But I'd like to be close enough to drive to my grandkids (rather than fly)."

SO IMPORTANT that they live somewhere other than where they grew up for at least a few years (NO, college does NOT count).

I hope I am smart enough to remember this. I hope my kids are smart enough to DO this. What a waste, otherwise, truly.

If my kids like DC and are happy--- I could care less about this. We travel internationally very extensively as a family so it's not like they haven't seen the world and been out in it. I would see this more important if you grew up somewhere in the non-diverse boonies--but for city kids it doesn't seem so important. I believe they should TOTALLY be on their own post-college---not counting on mom and dad to pay for housing, etc..but I don't care where they do it as long as they are happy.

I find it weird when parents want to put limitations on how their kids should live their lives. You can suggest but you cannot force. My husbands mother told him to NEVER get married before 30...I met him at 24..we married when he was 27 and we have now been happily together for 16 years. Let your kids live their life, you live yours.

[Anonymous]

DH is German so we hope to retire there or in France.

[Anonymous]

Hood River, OR

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"I also really want my kids to go away to college and to live somewhere other than where they grew up for a few years. I think that's important. But I'd like to be close enough to drive to my grandkids (rather than fly)."

SO IMPORTANT that they live somewhere other than where they grew up for at least a few years (NO, college does NOT count).

I hope I am smart enough to remember this. I hope my kids are smart enough to DO this. What a waste, otherwise, truly.

if you lived on a farm in the middle of the country maybe....but why is going away to college and returning to an urban/diverse area a waste? what if a great job opportunity presented itself and it happened to be in DC---would that be a waste of your child's life?

I see this badge of honor banded about on this board about 'living away from the 'rents'...knocking those native Washingtonians (who prob. traveled extensively, went away to school, etc) and returned. Who cares?

If you grew up in some really depressing town I understand the 'get out' mentality...but native Parisiens and Manatthatanites...some have never lived anywhere else. I don't find that a waste.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"I also really want my kids to go away to college and to live somewhere other than where they grew up for a few years. I think that's important. But I'd like to be close enough to drive to my grandkids (rather than fly)."

SO IMPORTANT that they live somewhere other than where they grew up for at least a few years (NO, college does NOT count).

I hope I am smart enough to remember this. I hope my kids are smart enough to DO this. What a waste, otherwise, truly.

if you lived on a farm in the middle of the country maybe....but why is going away to college and returning to an urban/diverse area a waste? what if a great job opportunity presented itself and it happened to be in DC---would that be a waste of your child's life?

I see this badge of honor banded about on this board about 'living away from the 'rents'...knocking those native Washingtonians (who prob. traveled extensively, went away to school, etc) and returned. Who cares?

If you grew up in some really depressing town I understand the 'get out' mentality...but native Parisiens and Manatthatanites...some have never lived anywhere else. I don't find that a waste.

I do. I think it really limits your worldview to have only lived in one place.

My DH has never lived more than ten miles from where he grew up. Sometimes it shows in his (parochial) outlook and comments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hood River, OR

Why here? Just curious.

[Anonymous]

I would like to retire here -- partly because I'm too damn busy now to enjoy everything this city has to offer and I'd really like some time to savor it all -- but I don't know if we will be able to afford it and live comfortably.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"I also really want my kids to go away to college and to live somewhere other than where they grew up for a few years. I think that's important. But I'd like to be close enough to drive to my grandkids (rather than fly)."

SO IMPORTANT that they live somewhere other than where they grew up for at least a few years (NO, college does NOT count).

I hope I am smart enough to remember this. I hope my kids are smart enough to DO this. What a waste, otherwise, truly.

if you lived on a farm in the middle of the country maybe....but why is going away to college and returning to an urban/diverse area a waste? what if a great job opportunity presented itself and it happened to be in DC---would that be a waste of your child's life?

I see this badge of honor banded about on this board about 'living away from the 'rents'...knocking those native Washingtonians (who prob. traveled extensively, went away to school, etc) and returned. Who cares?

If you grew up in some really depressing town I understand the 'get out' mentality...but native Parisiens and Manatthatanites...some have never lived anywhere else. I don't find that a waste.

Not the poster you are questioning but maybe bc they never get to really experience what it's like to live anywhere. They may believe their city is the biggest and best and won't really give another place a real try. Talk to Californians about this. Many don't want to move away and can't wait to get back if they go anywhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"I also really want my kids to go away to college and to live somewhere other than where they grew up for a few years. I think that's important. But I'd like to be close enough to drive to my grandkids (rather than fly)."

SO IMPORTANT that they live somewhere other than where they grew up for at least a few years (NO, college does NOT count).

I hope I am smart enough to remember this. I hope my kids are smart enough to DO this. What a waste, otherwise, truly.

if you lived on a farm in the middle of the country maybe....but why is going away to college and returning to an urban/diverse area a waste? what if a great job opportunity presented itself and it happened to be in DC---would that be a waste of your child's life?

I see this badge of honor banded about on this board about 'living away from the 'rents'...knocking those native Washingtonians (who prob. traveled extensively, went away to school, etc) and returned. Who cares?

If you grew up in some really depressing town I understand the 'get out' mentality...but native Parisiens and Manatthatanites...some have never lived anywhere else. I don't find that a waste.

I do. I think it really limits your worldview to have only lived in one place.

My DH has never lived more than ten miles from where he grew up. Sometimes it shows in his (parochial) outlook and comments.

I tend to agree. I think it's good to get away - it does foster independence - even if you end up moving back.

What is that expression - "roots and wings." It is something to consider, not enforce...I don't think it means you should put limitations on your kids, but I will encourage my children to go elsewhere for college and broaden their horizons, even though I obviously will never want to be apart from them.

If they decide not to follow my encouragement, fine, but I will encourage it.

[Anonymous]

monterey or carmel, ca