Ex won’t supervise 15 yo dd with boyfriend

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'd talk to your DD and her boyfriend, together. Acknowledge that you have no control, and that this is just one of the unfortunate outcomes of divorce. But tell them what you expect from them, and what you would like, and why.

Good idea.

DD already knows if she gets pregnant, she WILL have an abortion. I think the boy’s family is anti-abortion, so that would be interesting. It isn’t like they would get a say in anything.

I'm as pro-choice as they come, and this is a truly horrifying statement. You can encourage and educate her on this all you want, but it is her body and her choice at the end of the day. Coercing her (towards either decision) is morally bankrupt.

No it isn’t. She is 15. She will do what I say. I am not raising another child.

[Anonymous]

She WILL get pregnant. You must do something OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd talk to your DD and her boyfriend, together. Acknowledge that you have no control, and that this is just one of the unfortunate outcomes of divorce. But tell them what you expect from them, and what you would like, and why.

Good idea.

DD already knows if she gets pregnant, she WILL have an abortion. I think the boy’s family is anti-abortion, so that would be interesting. It isn’t like they would get a say in anything.

I'm as pro-choice as they come, and this is a truly horrifying statement. You can encourage and educate her on this all you want, but it is her body and her choice at the end of the day. Coercing her (towards either decision) is morally bankrupt.

No it isn’t. She is 15. She will do what I say. I am not raising another child.

You've got serious control issues. No wonder you're divorced. Ride your daughter too hard, she might go to the courts and ask to move in with her father. I wouldn't blame her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd talk to your DD and her boyfriend, together. Acknowledge that you have no control, and that this is just one of the unfortunate outcomes of divorce. But tell them what you expect from them, and what you would like, and why.

Good idea.

DD already knows if she gets pregnant, she WILL have an abortion. I think the boy’s family is anti-abortion, so that would be interesting. It isn’t like they would get a say in anything.

I'm as pro-choice as they come, and this is a truly horrifying statement. You can encourage and educate her on this all you want, but it is her body and her choice at the end of the day. Coercing her (towards either decision) is morally bankrupt.

No it isn’t. She is 15. She will do what I say. I am not raising another child.

You've got serious control issues. No wonder you're divorced. Ride your daughter too hard, she might go to the courts and ask to move in with her father. I wouldn't blame her.

What the hell? I AM her father. Why would you assume I was a mother? What is WRONG with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd talk to your DD and her boyfriend, together. Acknowledge that you have no control, and that this is just one of the unfortunate outcomes of divorce. But tell them what you expect from them, and what you would like, and why.

Good idea.

DD already knows if she gets pregnant, she WILL have an abortion. I think the boy’s family is anti-abortion, so that would be interesting. It isn’t like they would get a say in anything.

I'm as pro-choice as they come, and this is a truly horrifying statement. You can encourage and educate her on this all you want, but it is her body and her choice at the end of the day. Coercing her (towards either decision) is morally bankrupt.

No it isn’t. She is 15. She will do what I say. I am not raising another child.

You've got serious control issues. No wonder you're divorced. Ride your daughter too hard, she might go to the courts and ask to move in with her father. I wouldn't blame her.

What the hell? I AM her father. Why would you assume I was a mother? What is WRONG with you?

Np. Calm down. I’m sure this is upsetting. Can you discuss birth control with your ex-wife? It might be easier if your ex-wife took her to the doctor so that pregnancy never becomes an issue. And no one is asking you to raise another child - you are getting way ahead of yourself here. Like the pp, I am also pro choice but I would never force anyone to have an abortion, including my dd. Take a step back and keep the lines of communication open.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She WILL get pregnant. You must do something OP

Lots, and lots of kids have sex without getting pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd talk to your DD and her boyfriend, together. Acknowledge that you have no control, and that this is just one of the unfortunate outcomes of divorce. But tell them what you expect from them, and what you would like, and why.

Good idea.

DD already knows if she gets pregnant, she WILL have an abortion. I think the boy’s family is anti-abortion, so that would be interesting. It isn’t like they would get a say in anything.

OP does not support a woman's right to choose. OP, as the father, has authority over his daughter's body and will make decisions about what she does with her body.

Gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd talk to your DD and her boyfriend, together. Acknowledge that you have no control, and that this is just one of the unfortunate outcomes of divorce. But tell them what you expect from them, and what you would like, and why.

Good idea.

DD already knows if she gets pregnant, she WILL have an abortion. I think the boy’s family is anti-abortion, so that would be interesting. It isn’t like they would get a say in anything.

OP does not support a woman's right to choose. OP, as the father, has authority over his daughter's body and will make decisions about what she does with her body.

Gross.

OP here. A 15 yo is not a “woman.” It is a girl.

As a public policy matter I am pro-choice. In my family, children will not bear children.

Do try to keep up. And knock it off with the weak attempts to shame me. I will not allow her to have a child that cannot be supported by her and a 16 yo boyfriend. It would ruin both their lives and mine too. It’s not happening.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You won’t run out to get takeout if your 15 yo has a boyfriend over?

Or you don’t go out for the night?

The 1st seems unreasonable... the 2nd reasonable.

But you can’t control your ex’s rules so you need to talk to your daughters.

No, we don’t do takeout generally. I cook.

LOL, not PP, but you are being very specific. I think PP was talking about any quick errand vs. going out for the evening.

No, I don’t typically need to run quick errands when my children’s friends are here.

NP here. Oh, so you are a control freak. I followed this rule when my kid was 9, not 15!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd talk to your DD and her boyfriend, together. Acknowledge that you have no control, and that this is just one of the unfortunate outcomes of divorce. But tell them what you expect from them, and what you would like, and why.

Good idea.

DD already knows if she gets pregnant, she WILL have an abortion. I think the boy’s family is anti-abortion, so that would be interesting. It isn’t like they would get a say in anything.

OP does not support a woman's right to choose. OP, as the father, has authority over his daughter's body and will make decisions about what she does with her body.

Gross.

OP here. A 15 yo is not a “woman.” It is a girl.

As a public policy matter I am pro-choice. In my family, children will not bear children.

Do try to keep up. And knock it off with the weak attempts to shame me. I will not allow her to have a child that cannot be supported by her and a 16 yo boyfriend. It would ruin both their lives and mine too. It’s not happening.

Cool story, bro. This is why you are alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd talk to your DD and her boyfriend, together. Acknowledge that you have no control, and that this is just one of the unfortunate outcomes of divorce. But tell them what you expect from them, and what you would like, and why.

Good idea.

DD already knows if she gets pregnant, she WILL have an abortion. I think the boy’s family is anti-abortion, so that would be interesting. It isn’t like they would get a say in anything.

OP does not support a woman's right to choose. OP, as the father, has authority over his daughter's body and will make decisions about what she does with her body.

Gross.

OP here. A 15 yo is not a “woman.” It is a girl.

As a public policy matter I am pro-choice. In my family, children will not bear children.

Do try to keep up. And knock it off with the weak attempts to shame me. I will not allow her to have a child that cannot be supported by her and a 16 yo boyfriend. It would ruin both their lives and mine too. It’s not happening.

Cool story, bro. This is why you are alone.

So many assumptions. I am not “alone.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You won’t run out to get takeout if your 15 yo has a boyfriend over?

Or you don’t go out for the night?

The 1st seems unreasonable... the 2nd reasonable.

But you can’t control your ex’s rules so you need to talk to your daughters.

No, we don’t do takeout generally. I cook.

LOL, not PP, but you are being very specific. I think PP was talking about any quick errand vs. going out for the evening.

No, I don’t typically need to run quick errands when my children’s friends are here.

NP here. Oh, so you are a control freak. I followed this rule when my kid was 9, not 15!

You allowed your 9 yo to date? And you think you are a superior parent than me?

Take a seat.

[Anonymous]

No, weirdo. I went out for quick errands when my ten year old had friends over.

[Anonymous]

BtW, you are exactly the type of parent that ends up with a pregnant teen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:BtW, you are exactly the type of parent that ends up with a pregnant teen.

nope, OP won't allow them to become pregnant - surely that's an effective strategy