Dating green flags

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BDE

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Do guys with BDE actually have a BD? Just curious.

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Family members that you get along with. Love may blind you to your pwecious smoopy-woopy's terrible qualities, but it's not going to do that for your future mother-in-law.

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Called to talk to me almost every day, even though he hates talking on the phone.

Able to have difficult conversations and still be true to himself.

Always found my cat to say good bye to him before he left.

Took my advice. And along the same vein, when I gave some advice or my opinion and he disagreed but later changed his mind, he always said “I was thinking about what you said”. I dated too many guys who 2 weeks after I said something “suddenly realized” it as if they came up with it.

We both had the same needs for together and aloneness. We always seemed to need alone time at about the same time and never got offended when one of said, “do you mind if we don’t see each other this weekend?” Still this way—we love spending time together but also love our alone time.

Never made me feel bad about my annoying quirks. In fact all the things past boyfriends hated are the things he loved about me.

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Someone who does not leave you guessing about/uncertain of their feelings for you.

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This is kind of a cliche, but it's true. When you go out to dinner, you watch how they treat the wait staff. Are they respectful, courteous, generous, kind? Or are they aloof, dismissive, or worse - rude and disprespectful? It shows how they treat people who they have nothing to gain from. Although beware, a narcissist will be superficially very charming to all, and they are very charming and generous to certain service people because they want "special" treatment - the royal treatment, roll out the red carpet, that type of thing.

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Anonymous wrote:Called to talk to me almost every day, even though he hates talking on the phone.

Able to have difficult conversations and still be true to himself.

Always found my cat to say good bye to him before he left.

Took my advice. And along the same vein, when I gave some advice or my opinion and he disagreed but later changed his mind, he always said “I was thinking about what you said”. I dated too many guys who 2 weeks after I said something “suddenly realized” it as if they came up with it.

We both had the same needs for together and aloneness. We always seemed to need alone time at about the same time and never got offended when one of said, “do you mind if we don’t see each other this weekend?” Still this way—we love spending time together but also love our alone time.

Never made me feel bad about my annoying quirks. In fact all the things past boyfriends hated are the things he loved about me.

He also did things I loved and didn’t cop an attitude. He hates musicals but takes me to them and doesn’t enjoy them, but loves seeing how much I enjoy them. Dated a guy who would just sigh heavily and be all grumpy whenever we did stuff he didn’t like.

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What is BDE?

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What is BDE?

JFC, have you heard of a search engine?

https://bfy.tw/PhKc

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Anonymous wrote:This is kind of a cliche, but it's true. When you go out to dinner, you watch how they treat the wait staff. Are they respectful, courteous, generous, kind? Or are they aloof, dismissive, or worse - rude and disprespectful? It shows how they treat people who they have nothing to gain from. Although beware, a narcissist will be superficially very charming to all, and they are very charming and generous to certain service people because they want "special" treatment - the royal treatment, roll out the red carpet, that type of thing.

My STBX is respectful, courteous, generous and kind of wait staff, but the opposite to his extended and immediate family. YMMV.

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What is BDE?

JFC, have you heard of a search engine?

https://bfy.tw/PhKc

What is JFC?

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Anonymous wrote:BDE

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What is BDE?

JFC, have you heard of a search engine?

https://bfy.tw/PhKc

What is JFC?

Its a fried chicken restaurant chain.

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Kindness to strangers (waiters/waitresses), customer service in general. Real kindness shines through. Not just giving money for tips, but showing appreciation for the effort of others.

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Anonymous wrote:BDE

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What is BDE?

JFC, have you heard of a search engine?

https://bfy.tw/PhKc

What is JFC?

I’m dying!!!
Great reply. Thank you.