Dating green flags
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Anonymous
| What are green flags you recognize when dating? |
Anonymous
| A text that says “good morning, I like you.” |
Anonymous
| When your BF drives you six hours to visit your sick mother for a few days and turns around and drives home. Then offers to come and pick you up. That's a keeper! |
Anonymous
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Confidence without a large ego.
Empathy without being emotional. Practical without being austere. Educated without being pretentious. |
Anonymous
+1 Self-introspective with demonstrated attitude shifts Not shameful or proud or easily embarrassed Not conflict avoidant or overly aggressive Attentive and remembers discussions Healthy pace of getting to know each other without weird rules, expectations or walls. Not too vulnerable but also not impenetrable and extremely secretive (private is what they will say but there is a difference) Emotionally available No bitterness or predispositions from previous pain (loss, bad luck, etc) doesn’t taint all future beliefs Books. Look at the books they have |
Anonymous
As long as there are no red flags I agree. In some conditions it is an example of love bombing (if done too soon) |
Anonymous
| Not being cheap. Offering to or actually treating you to meals. Not adding up everything he spent on a date or an errand he ran for you and then asking to be paid back. Being generous with friends and relatives--even with strangers. RUN from anyone who is cheap. |
Anonymous
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Employed with no credit card debt
Work-life balance Healthy about sex Isn’t trying too hard to impress others with his life choices |
Anonymous
People have debt. Life happens. |
Anonymous
| They're always green, until they're not lol... |
Anonymous
| Cheap is embarrassing. Never, ever a cheap guy. |
Anonymous
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^^
oops that should have gone on the red flags thread! |
Anonymous
| Moving consistently in the same direction, even if doing so slowly. Good relationship with family, self awareness if familial issues from childhood have impacted them. Transparency about failures in past relationships- and valid reasons. Can hold down a job and a career. |
Anonymous
| I decided my husband was a keeper after he went out late at night to fix a flat for me. (I had left the car on the street where I got the flat and taken a taxi home and planned to go back in the morning and call AAA.) |
Anonymous
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Emotional intelligence.
Same politics as you. Take it from me, these are important. Wish I’d checked them off the list when I got married. |