Narcissist vs control freak

[Anonymous]

My ex-wife. Severe NPD/BPD. I have always been a bit of a control freak, but divorce has cured a lot of that in me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a mild narcissist nearing 40 exciting and mostly wonderful years together with a moderate control freak. NPD/BPD

This is a brave admission. Please share more about how you have managed if you would be ok w doing so.

To everyone who is posting, thank you, what you have shared is also helpful.

Wondering how NPD/BPD people come to understand themselves and create (hopefully) healthy (?) relationships

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a mild narcissist nearing 40 exciting and mostly wonderful years together with a moderate control freak. NPD/BPD

My nightmare couple friends!

Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a mild narcissist nearing 40 exciting and mostly wonderful years together with a moderate control freak. NPD/BPD

This is a brave admission. Please share more about how you have managed if you would be ok w doing so.

To everyone who is posting, thank you, what you have shared is also helpful.

Wondering how NPD/BPD people come to understand themselves and create (hopefully) healthy (?) relationships

To clarify, wondering how someone with this illness came to understand that NPD/BPD is an illness, instead of going through life as a 'this is just who I am' wrecking ball, and what steps were taken to take care of the NPD/BPD and implement strategies to make sure to not hurt other people.

Not excusing people who choose to treat others poorly. If I understand correctly, people with NPD/BPD do not know they are treating other people poorly because they *feel* that their choice to torture someone else is justified (as they rationalize to themselves by citing the behavior of the person they are torturing).