Asian-American boys, basketball and coaches
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Anonymous
| He sounds racist if you ask me. And he may not even realize it and has auto-pilot on. |
Anonymous
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Microaggressions. Remember that commentators called Jeremy Lin "deceptively" athletic.
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Anonymous
um, how does that answer her question? |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| This definitely needs to be raised with the coach. If he denies doing it, BIL can show Coach the film. If he’s doing this to BIL’s kid, then he’s doing it to other kids of other races, too. We’ve seen this happen and coaches have been called out for it. It’s NOT ok. |
Anonymous
+1 the coach should know parents are watching him and will speak up. |
Anonymous
THIS. No, the child should not have to go up to his HS coach to address the racism towards him solo. He is a kid, the man is his coach and in HS that could mean bench time rather than anything constructive. Your brother needs to be all over this leading the way for his child to know it's okay to stand up to racists. There is a LOT of microaggressions towards Asians, most people would never notice unless their Asian. On top of that, usually when an Asian speaks about the bias or microaggressions they've dealt with, people will always doubt them first. Tell them they took it the wrong way, that they must have did something wrong first or that what the experienced was not really what they experienced and had nothing do with them being Asian. It's even in some of the posts here, like that one that says the mocking needed to be described, as if any type of mocking is okay or that you might have misinterpreted what you saw. Tell your brother to step up and let your nephew know that you see it, it's not in his head and it's not okay. |
Anonymous
They aren’t. OP is just trying to avoid judgment. |
Anonymous
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Yes, Asian Americans experience discrimination in the US. Yes, your BIL should say something and teach his son how to say something too because it will continue to happen.
Signed, adopted Asian American person |
Anonymous
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I showed BIL this thread and he wanted to say thanks to everyone. This is all new for him. He's a very good dad but just not experienced in this realm so if he is messing up he is sorry. He has a question I did not think about. Would your answers change if the coach were also a minority (not Asian)?
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Anonymous
No. |
Anonymous
No, absolutely not. Just because you are a minority, doesn't mean that you shouldn't be held accountable for racism or prejudice (that old saw that racism = prejudice + power). It sounds like your BIL is doing his best, but he should definitely speak up. Racism against Asian Americans is insidious because it's perpetually denied. Sports bring out the macho and the testosterone and tries to make OK things that just aren't. I've heard abusive language directed at kids by coaches, too, and everyone acts like it's OK. It's toxic and crazy. |
Anonymous
| I am Asian. I have been racially harassed by Black and White people. Makes no difference who does it. It hurts equally. |
Anonymous
| Have you ever brought it up? Do you get taken seriously because many Asians I know don't get taken seriously if they raise things like this. |
Anonymous
This. It’s called “unconscious bias” or “implicit bias”. OP, welcome to the world of non-white folks. We have to deal with this type of crap all the time. |