Is it wrong I don't want my kids to have brown eyes?

[Anonymous]

Well, it’s wrong in the sense that you are setting yourself up for disappointment, by actively pinning your hopes on wanting something that you cannot control. You can appreciate your husband’s blue eyes. You can look forward to seeing traits of your spouse in your future children.

FWIW: my Mom always loved my Dad’s curly hair. She was very vocal about her dislike for her straight, fine hair. She was also very vocal about how she dreamed she would have children with beautiful curly hair. My sister and I had very straight, fine hair growing up. She didn’t realize (until we told her as adults) that her projecting about curly hair, made us feel that she didn’t think our hair was good enough. I was more resilient(didn’t care), but it really bothered my sister.

You may not like your brown eyes, but your child may have brown eyes, and love them. Try to teach them to love themself. A blank slate is a beautiful thing to waste.

[Anonymous]

You are kind of pathetic, but I’ll bite.

I’m a Swede with naturally platinum hair and bright blue eyes. It’s not all that great. Blue eyes are really sensitive to the sun and light. Working on a computer all day is painful.

You didn’t mention hair, but people seem to always want blonde hair so I’ll just say my hair is lovely and long down to my back. With naturally platinum hair you also get platinum eyelashes and brows which really suck and I have to dye them or else I look hideous m.

Just be grateful for a healthy baby and get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

OP, do both of your parents have brown eyes?

My dad is a heterozygote brown and my mother is a homozygote blue.

Both my brother and I have blue eyes.

[Anonymous]

Posts were not brought up. Go somewhere else with your conspiracy nonsense.

[Anonymous]

I have brown eyes and my husband has gorgeous green ones. I really hoped one of our kids would get his because they are actually stunning, but they both have my exact eyes - color, shape, everything. I was mildly disappointed (not enough to post on a message board about it fwiw!) but now I have to say that I love how much it makes the three of us look alike!

[Anonymous]

I never notice anyone's eye color. DH does - but I couldn't tell you anyone outside my immediate family's eyes are.

[Anonymous]

I have green eyes and both my siblings have big, beautiful brown eyes. I always wanted brown eyes. Instead I sit back and wait for macular degeneration to set in.

[Anonymous]

Just be grateful if you have a child that can see.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have brown and married a guy with blue. All 3 of our kids have blue eyes. It does help that 7/8 of our grandparents have blue eyes, so clearly I had the gene on my side too.

I think the thing about wanting blue eyes being bad is because it sounds Nazi like. I can see why, but think it's somewhat unfounded. I also wanted my kids to have curly hair and they did. We often want a lot of things for our kids before they're born. Blue eyes used to be super common in America (I think I read 70%?).

Why is it unfounded if you even admit that it sounds Nazi like? This kind of preference is absolutely disgusting and racist, and we’ve obviously seen where it can end up if you take it too far.

Because there is nothing wrong with having blue eyes. They shouldn't be shunned just because Nazis wanted blonde hair and blue eyed children. It's unfounded because it's just yet another characteristic that babies can get.

Also, coming from a blue eyed family, there are SO many shades of blue eyes. My son got my grandma's watery blue eyes (they're whitish blue) and she cried when she saw them. He was the only one in a few generations with eyes just like hers. The others had more vivid blue eyes. My grandma just saw a piece of herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never notice anyone's eye color. DH does - but I couldn't tell you anyone outside my immediate family's eyes are.

Same. My eyes are unusual (I'm black/brown but have blue eyes) but I never notice eyes. Just aren't a big deal, imo.

[Anonymous]

OP, you just want advantages for your kids, and that's nothing to be ashamed of.

[Anonymous]

My daughter has big dark brown eyes with long eyelashes. People have stopped us to tell us how beautiful her eyes are.

[Anonymous]

I think we all want for our children the best parts of both people. If you are bored by your eye color and don't like it and prefer your husband's, then it makes total sense.

I wished for DH's temperament, cheekbones and eyes and my coloring, height and athleticism.

[Anonymous]

It's not wrong to want your kid to have any one feature, but it is wrong if they come out without it and you obsess about it for more than a couple minutes.

Everyone has hopes and wishes for their kids. Love them as they come and it will all work out.

[Anonymous]

Here's what happened for my kid: he was born with blue eyes. He kept the blue eyes for a couple of years. Then his eyes became hazel, and stayed that way for another couple of years. Then at some point when he was four, they turned all brown. So just because the baby has blue eyes doesn't mean that's how things will end up...and do you really want to be stressing about eye color for four years?