How to win her back?

[Anonymous]

Did you love her, or did you love her mothering you and doing things for you? 'Cause there's a difference. A huge difference.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op tell us what you did that she felt you took her for granted?

OP here. I’ve always been self-sufficient. I’ve always dated women I took care of and I never got in return. My ex-girlfriend was the opposite. She is very generous and wanted to take care of me. We moved in together before the pandemic and it was amazing. She was cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, etc. When I got sick with a bad cold, she was there to take care of me. I had surgery recently for an old injury that never properly healed. She took care of me the entire time. I did say thank you and told her how much I appreciated it. She said it was getting to the point that she wanted a 50/50 partner and she did not want to take care of everything. She felt I depended on her too much.

Dude. You dodged a bullet. My ex wife was like that. She did everything. Wouldn’t let me do anything. She would complain and I would even insist on doing things. But she had this low self esteem thing where she basically loved to be the martyr. Then when she started cheating on me and wanted a divorce it’s because she said I didn’t do enough! She created a totally false history of us Because I objectively did pretty much more stuff including dinners, taking kids to school, grocery shopping. She later repeated the pattern. It’s not about you. It’s about her. Get moving on.

My Dad is living this nightmare now. My parents have been married 50 years. My mom was the martyr cooking and cleaning, not letting him help and complaining when she was mad that he didn’t do anything around the house. Now my Mom has dementia. And this martyr complex is out of control. If he asks what’s for dinner, she rants for an hour and screams through the windows that she is a slave. If he starts to cook himself dinner, she panics and starts accusing him of wanting to be self sufficient so he can divorce her and use his new found culinary skills with his new girlfriend.

OP- there’s this thing called communication where she tells you what she needs, you tell her what you need, then you negotiate something that works for both of you.

I don’t think you understand dementia.

I do understand dementia. I’m living it right now. All her filters have lifted. All her insecurities that she could keep in check, she can’t do anymore. There are different forms of dementia, she has frontotemporal. She can’t control her behavior anymore.

And F-you, my experience of dementia might not look like yours, but it’s just as valid. And OP should be glad he dodged that bullet.

[Anonymous]

LOL!!

OP wants to win her back because OP is really a POS who mistreated this woman.

OP does not like the state of being an InCel during the pandemic.

I am glad she dumped his lame ass. Probably a low earner too.

[Anonymous]

OP, if you are good in bed and take care of your partner's needs, she will never leave you.

Unfortunately a lot of men suck at getting a woman to orgasm and it becomes easy for women to leave them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My girlfriend recently broke up with me. She said she felt I was taking advantage of her and expecting her to do too much. I told her I wasn’t but she said she felt she wasn’t being appreciated. I’ve never had a woman take care of me the way she did and I did enjoy it. I admit, I take her for granted at times, but I did appreciate everything she did for me. I love her and want to get her back. How can I win her back?

Stop being a stalker. She has ended the relationship and does not want anything from you.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like she'd been telling you about the problem many times, yet you denied her feeling every single time. She fed up and broke up with you.
Leave her alone. There's nothing you can do to win her back.
She saw the real you.

[Anonymous]

Are you saying she broke up with you out of the blue, without ever telling you how she was feeling? Did you have any idea that she was unhappy? If that’s the case, then you shouldn’t be together anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you love her, or did you love her mothering you and doing things for you? 'Cause there's a difference. A huge difference.

OP here. I love her. I’m in love with her. We dated for a year before moving into together. I was planning on asking her to marry me soon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL!!

OP wants to win her back because OP is really a POS who mistreated this woman.

OP does not like the state of being an InCel during the pandemic.

I am glad she dumped his lame ass. Probably a low earner too.

OP here. I never mistreated her. I admit that I did take it too far with her caring for me. I’m not a super high earner by DC standards, but I’m a very high earner by most people’s standards. I still cooked and cleaned but she did the majority of it. I felt it was fair since I paid for everything and never asked her for money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if you are good in bed and take care of your partner's needs, she will never leave you.

Unfortunately a lot of men suck at getting a woman to orgasm and it becomes easy for women to leave them.

OP here. Sex was never an issue. We had lots of it and she was very happy. I made her orgasm multiple times every time we had sex. She has always said I was the best sex she has ever had.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if you are good in bed and take care of your partner's needs, she will never leave you.

Unfortunately a lot of men suck at getting a woman to orgasm and it becomes easy for women to leave them.

Lots of women are bad in bed. I guess men leave these women?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you saying she broke up with you out of the blue, without ever telling you how she was feeling? Did you have any idea that she was unhappy? If that’s the case, then you shouldn’t be together anyway.

OP here. We talked once about it and I told her that I told her I thought it was fair since I paid for everything. I was still cleaning and cooking but she did it most of the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, if you are good in bed and take care of your partner's needs, she will never leave you.

Unfortunately a lot of men suck at getting a woman to orgasm and it becomes easy for women to leave them.

Lots of women are bad in bed. I guess men leave these women?

+1. Women act like they can’t be bad in bed. Most women are very selfish and lazy in bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you saying she broke up with you out of the blue, without ever telling you how she was feeling? Did you have any idea that she was unhappy? If that’s the case, then you shouldn’t be together anyway.

OP here. We talked once about it and I told her that I told her I thought it was fair since I paid for everything. I was still cleaning and cooking but she did it most of the time.

Oooh. Smart woman. She dodged a bullet. I am sure there were many other things about you that she did not like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, if you are good in bed and take care of your partner's needs, she will never leave you.

Unfortunately a lot of men suck at getting a woman to orgasm and it becomes easy for women to leave them.

Lots of women are bad in bed. I guess men leave these women?

+1. Women act like they can’t be bad in bed. Most women are very selfish and lazy in bed.

Yeah, but men still get off, don't they? Women don't get to orgasm or feel pleasure if the guy is not endowed and skillful. Men rape and violate comatose or unconscious women. They can get off having sex with a corpse. Woman don't really have to be good in bed for men to want to have sex with them and to orgasm.