Has anyone else realized their spouse sucks during Covid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just want to say to any males who are reading threads here: do your share of housework and childcare! Literally every single woman I know does way, way more.

I just want to say STFU. I have always done more than my share of housework and childcare, and I don’t need any shrill hectoring from you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you give us some examples of what makes him a bad person and describe the balance of labor in your home in more detail? What kind of work and what aged kids?

I'm the OP of the homeschooling thread down below. The stress of this situation has forced me to realize what an asshole he is. I'm so over it. I'd walk out the door today if I didn't have kids.

So... no link or explanation. Got it. Do you know how many homeschooling threads there are on this site since Covid?

Maybe he’s frustrated because you’re super vague and then you get mad he can’t read your mind?

[Anonymous]

I just want to say to any males who are reading threads here: do your share of housework and childcare! Literally every single woman I know does way, way more.

Seems like the women you know didn't make very good choices when it came to marriage.

[Anonymous]

I hate to break it to you, but you better prepare yourself for retirement! Hopefully, you won’t have DL to deal with, but all the other stuff will be the same.

[Anonymous]

I'm a DW and realized I'm the worse spouse. DH is 99 percent of time time calm as a cucumber, and I'm irritated as hell. I try to manage the irritation, but I'm only 90 percent successful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you give us some examples of what makes him a bad person and describe the balance of labor in your home in more detail? What kind of work and what aged kids?

I'm the OP of the homeschooling thread down below. The stress of this situation has forced me to realize what an asshole he is. I'm so over it. I'd walk out the door today if I didn't have kids.

So... no link or explanation. Got it. Do you know how many homeschooling threads there are on this site since Covid?

Maybe he’s frustrated because you’re super vague and then you get mad he can’t read your mind?

I think OP does like an MLM and thinks that's earning money. Perhaps her husband is in a high stress job he's worried about losing in this economy.

She's essentially a bored sahm. Needs to find something to do. Maybe try crafting?

[Anonymous]

spouse and I recently started swapping with a couple friend of ours during COVID and it’s helped, a lot! Is that something you could explore?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just want to say to any males who are reading threads here: do your share of housework and childcare! Literally every single woman I know does way, way more.

I do 75 percent of the necessary work (groceries, lawn, cleaning, cooking, dishes, laundry, bills). I do 1-25 percent of the make work my wife has invented to keep us "so busy" so she can complain I don't do enough.

[Anonymous]

One thing my spouse has definitely not done during Covid is suck.

[Anonymous]

C’mon y’all it’s 2020.
Ain’t no ordinance stating that all women gotta cook and clean and do laundry etc no more.
That shit been gone.
If you ain’t want that RESPONSIBLE FOR EVERYTHING workload and you find yourself stuck in that type of situation with your husband then that’s on YOU
Cause your ass should’ve nipped it in the bud off the break.
Y’all could have been said, “Help out honey” YEARS AGO but you either didn’t say anything (totally inconceivable for a woman, I know) or you just whined and complained but you never really put your foot down (far more likely scenario)

That’s on you ladies.
It’s your man - they don’t come perfect you got to mold em.

[Anonymous]

C’mon y’all it’s 2020.
Ain’t no ordinance stating that all women gotta cook and clean and do laundry etc no more.
That shit been gone.
If you ain’t want that RESPONSIBLE FOR EVERYTHING workload and you find yourself stuck in that type of situation with your husband then that’s on YOU
Cause your ass should’ve nipped it in the bud off the break.
Y’all could have been said, “Help out honey” YEARS AGO but you either didn’t say anything (totally inconceivable for a woman, I know) or you just whined and complained but you never really put your foot down (far more likely scenario)

That’s on you ladies.
It’s your man - they don’t come perfect you got to mold em.

WTF?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being forced to be together all the time plus seeing how he reacts to stressful situations (like distance learning/no in person school) has been opening my eyes to what a jerk he can be. I always knew he had asshole tendencies (his sense of humor is very sarcastic and he can't resist busting balls) but it wasn't rubbed in my face as much back when he was at work all day.

How do you know when you are ready to divorce? Especially with three kids and a very unequal income balance (he makes much much more).

It's weird because I thought we had a pretty good relationship pre Covid. But then certain things happened and the way he reacted (not well) has changed my opinion of him.

Should I just wait until things go back to normal? I fantasize about getting all my ducks in a row and just moving out. He would be completely shocked and he deserves the type of floundering he would go through (he is the type of person who never cleans or cooks or takes care of his own kids, etc.).

Imagine what he thinks of you.

[Anonymous]

Where are y’all finding these terrible men?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just want to say to any males who are reading threads here: do your share of housework and childcare! Literally every single woman I know does way, way more.

I just want to say STFU. I have always done more than my share of housework and childcare, and I don’t need any shrill hectoring from you.

DP, then it doesn't apply to you. But it sure seems to have struck a chord so maybe you don't do as much as you think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:spouse and I recently started swapping with a couple friend of ours during COVID and it’s helped, a lot! Is that something you could explore?

Swapping what? Kids? Masks? Dirty dishes?