Why do so many people divorce when kids are under 3 yo?

[Anonymous]

It's a very common time for men to cheat. Often but not always, couples completely neglect their intimate life and after years of it, men start thinking with their little brains.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The idea to do it early is to minimize the impact on the kids. If it's before 3 yo, it's very likely the kids will only remember their parents being divorced, and it's their normal.

+1 My dd is 12 as we’re going through this and she figured out that dad cheated without my saying a word. She’s made comments that show that she knows he’d rather spend time with his friends than his actual family, and that he needs to act more like a grown up. I never wanted her to know these things, but she’s lived it, and you can’t hide this stuff from a kid old enough to see and understand what’s going on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a very common time for men to cheat. Often but not always, couples completely neglect their intimate life and after years of it, men start thinking with their little brains.

Did you notice thus is about kids under 3? So 1-2 years of marriage only. That’s very early to lose the thrill. And he’s an a@@hole if he can’t understand the recovery after pregnancy (no sex 6-8 weeks and complications).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The idea to do it early is to minimize the impact on the kids. If it's before 3 yo, it's very likely the kids will only remember their parents being divorced, and it's their normal.

+1 My dd is 12 as we’re going through this and she figured out that dad cheated without my saying a word. She’s made comments that show that she knows he’d rather spend time with his friends than his actual family, and that he needs to act more like a grown up. I never wanted her to know these things, but she’s lived it, and you can’t hide this stuff from a kid old enough to see and understand what’s going on.

Yep. They also are iPhone/computer adept and sometimes unknowingly see signs before their betrayed parent.

They understand a lot more than people give them credit for. Sometimes a kid knows before a parent and keeps that painful secret a very long time. Completely damaging to a kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The idea to do it early is to minimize the impact on the kids. If it's before 3 yo, it's very likely the kids will only remember their parents being divorced, and it's their normal.

+1 My dd is 12 as we’re going through this and she figured out that dad cheated without my saying a word. She’s made comments that show that she knows he’d rather spend time with his friends than his actual family, and that he needs to act more like a grown up. I never wanted her to know these things, but she’s lived it, and you can’t hide this stuff from a kid old enough to see and understand what’s going on.

Yep. They also are iPhone/computer adept and sometimes unknowingly see signs before their betrayed parent.

They understand a lot more than people give them credit for. Sometimes a kid knows before a parent and keeps that painful secret a very long time. Completely damaging to a kid.

Yup. I found out myself at 16 that my mom was cheating because my knowledge of computers was so superior to hers. Because I understood MS-DOS!

There is very little you can do to stop an angry, suspicious teenager.

[Anonymous]

Women lose interest in sex. That is why. End thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a very common time for men to cheat. Often but not always, couples completely neglect their intimate life and after years of it, men start thinking with their little brains.

No: that is a false/misleading depiction. The WIFE/MOM neglects their intimate life.

[Anonymous]

Some men can’t give up the frat boy life and don’t want to be a real father. Some women become nothing but a mother and forget about being a lover. Being a father/husband and a mother/wife takes a lot of adjustments and work and all of the learning is on the job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a very common time for men to cheat. Often but not always, couples completely neglect their intimate life and after years of it, men start thinking with their little brains.

Women cheat at almost the same rate as men. Which brain are they thinking with?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The idea to do it early is to minimize the impact on the kids. If it's before 3 yo, it's very likely the kids will only remember their parents being divorced, and it's their normal.

+1 My dd is 12 as we’re going through this and she figured out that dad cheated without my saying a word. She’s made comments that show that she knows he’d rather spend time with his friends than his actual family, and that he needs to act more like a grown up. I never wanted her to know these things, but she’s lived it, and you can’t hide this stuff from a kid old enough to see and understand what’s going on.

Yep. They also are iPhone/computer adept and sometimes unknowingly see signs before their betrayed parent.

They understand a lot more than people give them credit for. Sometimes a kid knows before a parent and keeps that painful secret a very long time. Completely damaging to a kid.

Yup. I found out myself at 16 that my mom was cheating because my knowledge of computers was so superior to hers. Because I understood MS-DOS!

There is very little you can do to stop an angry, suspicious teenager.

+3 My teenager found out her father had cheated when he let her borrow his phone and she opened a "calculator" app that wasn't really a calculator. The thing is - I would have happily protected her from this information forever (the divorce was already final) but he just couldn't help himself but keep the files on his phone.

[Anonymous]

Outside of issues like abuse, infidelity and addiction, some people just truly don't belong together. If you are incompatible at base with your partner, staying together for the sake of the kids is a terrible idea that will hurt everyone in the long run.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gained weight

That's not true. A lot of married guys go for bbw. They say no fat chicks but it's a lie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gained weight

That's not true. A lot of married guys go for bbw. They say no fat chicks but it's a lie.

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I think the poster meant that MEN gained weight. They are so ugly with their beer bellys, and their d!cks don't even stick out past the belly fat. Gross. Women can't stand that, and they divorce their sad, fat men for that reason and that reason alone.

[Anonymous]

Kids are hard. Many couples don't deal well with difficult things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a very common time for men to cheat. Often but not always, couples completely neglect their intimate life and after years of it, men start thinking with their little brains.

Did you notice thus is about kids under 3? So 1-2 years of marriage only. That’s very early to lose the thrill. And he’s an a@@hole if he can’t understand the recovery after pregnancy (no sex 6-8 weeks and complications).

You do know not everyone pops out kids the second they get married?