Gushing about spouse on FB

[Anonymous]

It's normal. I give newlyweds a pass on it for about a year, when everything is still new and exciting. After that, it's ridiculous. I find that people who constantly post about their amazing relationships really don't have much else going on in their lives. People who love their partners but also travel post travel photos. People who love their partners but also have interesting hobbies post about those hobbies. And so on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's normal. I give newlyweds a pass on it for about a year, when everything is still new and exciting. After that, it's ridiculous. I find that people who constantly post about their amazing relationships really don't have much else going on in their lives. People who love their partners but also travel post travel photos. People who love their partners but also have interesting hobbies post about those hobbies. And so on.

Facebook is adult show and tell missing the preschool teacher egging you on to talk about why your stuffy is so special.

[Anonymous]

I always wonder if these people are actually that much happier than everyone else. There are two influencers who I don’t follow but come up on my feed based on other people I follow, and they constantly gush about their husbands, how amazing they are, their dream guy etc etc. it kind of makes me feel like shit because I don’t put my husband on a pedestal like that on social media or privately.

[Anonymous]

It means they're having marital problems. Guarantee.

[Anonymous]

If it's rare or for an anniversary, sure. If not, I would assume they are going to be divorced in a few years.

[Anonymous]

My first thought is always, “why are you talking to your spouse through social media? Isn’t he sitting right next to you?” It’s weird that you need to share your private relationship thoughts with everyone you know.

[Anonymous]

The one I know doing it is having Ashley Madison affairs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It means they're having marital problems. Guarantee.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Normal? Not normal? I always wonder about the women who post about how in love they still are with their husbands and gush over their relationships on FB.

I always assume these are the couples closest to divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My first thought is always, “why are you talking to your spouse through social media? Isn’t he sitting right next to you?” It’s weird that you need to share your private relationship thoughts with everyone you know.

That's the one that always gets me. I also find the gushing third person posts to be annoying to me personally, but I do think some people are just very demonstrative about their feelings (or potentially overcompensating for issues at home). But I can't think of a single valid reason to post messages to each other publicly on Facebook, other than to try and impress people with how cute you're being I guess? It's weird. People also do this with friendships and I think it's weird, too. When I need to get my spouse or a friend a message (or share something funny, or make plans, or whatever), I text or call. But then, I don't really know what Facebook is for beyond serving as a directory of people from high school/college/old jobs so you don't totally lose touch. Everything else is weird to me, or seems like it could be done better in another way.

[Anonymous]

The particular gusher I know doesn't post often, but she does sometimes go overboard with the i love my husband he's so awesome posts. And yes, he cheated on her. And her husband isn't on FB .... So it has to be for everybody else.

[Anonymous]

Not as weird as the couples who have one account.

ShaneandAmanda Harris.

[Anonymous]

My best friends' wife does this and he has cheated on her. Whenever I see this, I think it's because someone got caught cheating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My first thought is always, “why are you talking to your spouse through social media? Isn’t he sitting right next to you?” It’s weird that you need to share your private relationship thoughts with everyone you know.

Yeah, this is usually my thought too - at least for the (beyond the occasional) super-gushy, over-the-too posts. I say what I have to say directly to my DH - it’s private.

[Anonymous]

What about those who only post photos of the couple together? Profile pics, etc. uniformly couple photos, never just one individually...