Diary of a Team Manager -- Chapter 5 -- Nightmare mom leaves the team

[Anonymous]

respect my authoritay! Love you parent volunteers! Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:as a long time team manager, I find this thread hilarious and spot on. thank you OP.

And whoever suggested rating system like Uber drivers - yesssssss.

I think it would be best for team managers to lay low because they rarely occupy the high ground. Lots of bad self interested managers out there.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, but is she hot?

[Anonymous]

Wow. Yes. I used to be on a PTA Board and some parents had ridiculous demands.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Out of curiosity, I went back and counted the number of emails Nightmare Mom sent to me during her three years on the team. 170 emails in three years...that's an average of 56 emails a year. Some parents barely send 10 emails a year. This does not include any emails or texts via TeamSnap. I wish I could warn the next manager.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:as a long time team manager, I find this thread hilarious and spot on. thank you OP.

And whoever suggested rating system like Uber drivers - yesssssss.

I think it would be best for team managers to lay low because they rarely occupy the high ground. Lots of bad self interested managers out there.

So many terrible parent managers. Don’t want the issues that come with the volunteer job, don’t volunteer to do it. Your volunteer job exist because the coach doesn't want to deal with it and you happily volunteer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:as a long time team manager, I find this thread hilarious and spot on. thank you OP.

And whoever suggested rating system like Uber drivers - yesssssss.

I think it would be best for team managers to lay low because they rarely occupy the high ground. Lots of bad self interested managers out there.

So many terrible parent managers. Don’t want the issues that come with the volunteer job, don’t volunteer to do it. Your volunteer job exist because the coach doesn't want to deal with it and you happily volunteer.

OP here. I can handle any issue, including nightmare mom. Nightmare mom was over the top. Like I said, I feel bad for the next manager.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:as a long time team manager, I find this thread hilarious and spot on. thank you OP.

And whoever suggested rating system like Uber drivers - yesssssss.

I think it would be best for team managers to lay low because they rarely occupy the high ground. Lots of bad self interested managers out there.

So many terrible parent managers. Don’t want the issues that come with the volunteer job, don’t volunteer to do it. Your volunteer job exist because the coach doesn't want to deal with it and you happily volunteer.

I am sorry - are you implying that any and all behavior is supposed to be tolerated because one actually volunteered for the job? Surely you think there might be a limit? I think part of the TM job is to deal with that behavior. I agree. But I damned well would not just tolerate it. I would address this person directly and tell them to knock it off or find another team to disrupt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:as a long time team manager, I find this thread hilarious and spot on. thank you OP.

And whoever suggested rating system like Uber drivers - yesssssss.

I think it would be best for team managers to lay low because they rarely occupy the high ground. Lots of bad self interested managers out there.

So many terrible parent managers. Don’t want the issues that come with the volunteer job, don’t volunteer to do it. Your volunteer job exist because the coach doesn't want to deal with it and you happily volunteer.

I am sorry - are you implying that any and all behavior is supposed to be tolerated because one actually volunteered for the job? Surely you think there might be a limit? I think part of the TM job is to deal with that behavior. I agree. But I damned well would not just tolerate it. I would address this person directly and tell them to knock it off or find another team to disrupt.

And to be clear, I would do that regardless of whether I was the TM. I don’t see any reason why other parents cannot weigh in if the behavior is sufficiently bad or disruptive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:as a long time team manager, I find this thread hilarious and spot on. thank you OP.

And whoever suggested rating system like Uber drivers - yesssssss.

I think it would be best for team managers to lay low because they rarely occupy the high ground. Lots of bad self interested managers out there.

So many terrible parent managers. Don’t want the issues that come with the volunteer job, don’t volunteer to do it. Your volunteer job exist because the coach doesn't want to deal with it and you happily volunteer.

I am sorry - are you implying that any and all behavior is supposed to be tolerated because one actually volunteered for the job? Surely you think there might be a limit? I think part of the TM job is to deal with that behavior. I agree. But I damned well would not just tolerate it. I would address this person directly and tell them to knock it off or find another team to disrupt.

And to be clear, I would do that regardless of whether I was the TM. I don’t see any reason why other parents cannot weigh in if the behavior is sufficiently bad or disruptive.

OP here, thanks. Interestingly, the nightmare mom's daughter was also very disruptive. Skilled player, but horrible attitude and toxic for the team. Best thing that ever happened was when she left.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:as a long time team manager, I find this thread hilarious and spot on. thank you OP.

And whoever suggested rating system like Uber drivers - yesssssss.

I think it would be best for team managers to lay low because they rarely occupy the high ground. Lots of bad self interested managers out there.

So many terrible parent managers. Don’t want the issues that come with the volunteer job, don’t volunteer to do it. Your volunteer job exist because the coach doesn't want to deal with it and you happily volunteer.

I am sorry - are you implying that any and all behavior is supposed to be tolerated because one actually volunteered for the job? Surely you think there might be a limit? I think part of the TM job is to deal with that behavior. I agree. But I damned well would not just tolerate it. I would address this person directly and tell them to knock it off or find another team to disrupt.

And to be clear, I would do that regardless of whether I was the TM. I don’t see any reason why other parents cannot weigh in if the behavior is sufficiently bad or disruptive.

OP here, thanks. Interestingly, the nightmare mom's daughter was also very disruptive. Skilled player, but horrible attitude and toxic for the team. Best thing that ever happened was when she left.

And this was a rec team? What travel team did she go to?

[Anonymous]

While on the Rec Team years ago, we had a ridiculously controlling Team Manager who is also the coach’s wife. She was so bad/mean that a bunch of us decided leave and started another team.

On the other hand, I’ve heard of crazy/overly demanding soccer moms/dads too.

I just don’t understand why these people can’t be normal and respectful people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:as a long time team manager, I find this thread hilarious and spot on. thank you OP.

And whoever suggested rating system like Uber drivers - yesssssss.

I think it would be best for team managers to lay low because they rarely occupy the high ground. Lots of bad self interested managers out there.

100%

[Anonymous]

There are always parents who complain about schedule changes, field selection, competition level, playing time for their DC, tournament selection, hotel choices, etc.... Usually they do not offer to help with anything and don’t care that most of these things the manager does not control.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are always parents who complain about schedule changes, field selection, competition level, playing time for their DC, tournament selection, hotel choices, etc.... Usually they do not offer to help with anything and don’t care that most of these things the manager does not control.

Oh, poor manager.