Awful experiences at School?

[Anonymous]

Thank you so much for your kindness. As mentioned, I’m totally in therapy! Thanks again!

- OP

[Anonymous]

Oh for chrissakes.

I went to a Fairfax County public HS in the mid 80s and the guys would hold up numbers 1-10 to rate the girls as they walked down the hall.

A guy pulled out his d@ck under the desk in French class and flashed me and my friend.

I’m 50. I’m not suing the school system.

Watch the movie 16 Candles or The Breakfast Club—it was different back then.

[Anonymous]

When I was in 5th grade (public school) one of the teachers lined up her class in the hallway because she claimed one of them smelled like dog sh*t. She proceeded to smell each of her 20 students. Finally she picked the smelly kid and sprayed him with febreeze. Years later she retired and her brother was convicted of a federal crime.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy here - I went to an all male HS and when I was a freshman I was very small - maybe 5’2” - and I had a severe and very noticeable physical disability. All freshman got picked on but mine was pretty intense because of the disability. One day in a hallway a bigger upperclassman called me an “f—-ing cripple” which set me off and I hit him as hard as I could and the punch slammed his head into a locker and he collapsed on the floor and had to be taken to a doctor. It helped that I had two older brothers so I knew how to fight. I thought I was going to be suspended but when the principal heard the whole story it was the guy who I hit that got in trouble. After that I still got picked on because I was a freshman but no one ever again picked on me because of my disability. I guess it helps to be a boy. I’m sorry for what you went through but people can be really mean.

Ok, I’m almost done lurking on my thread! I just wanted to let you know how sorry I am that you had to deal with that! I don’t think boys have it any easier and I’m sorry that I’m whining about something relatively insignificant compared to what you dealt with. Again, I’m so sorry that happened to you and, embarrassingly, I’m happy that you showed him! Thanks for commenting and hope you’re doing really well!

-OP

OP, PP here - what you experienced was much harder than what I experienced. I could use my fists and that was not an option for you. I’ve done really well because I was born challenged and dealing with it was in my DNA. Overcoming crap makes us stronger as I’m sure you realize even if the memories are painful. I know that today I’m far more successful and happier than the people who picked on me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here - I went to an all male HS and when I was a freshman I was very small - maybe 5’2” - and I had a severe and very noticeable physical disability. All freshman got picked on but mine was pretty intense because of the disability. One day in a hallway a bigger upperclassman called me an “f—-ing cripple” which set me off and I hit him as hard as I could and the punch slammed his head into a locker and he collapsed on the floor and had to be taken to a doctor. It helped that I had two older brothers so I knew how to fight. I thought I was going to be suspended but when the principal heard the whole story it was the guy who I hit that got in trouble. After that I still got picked on because I was a freshman but no one ever again picked on me because of my disability. I guess it helps to be a boy. I’m sorry for what you went through but people can be really mean.

From your wording - wondering if it is gone, you grew out of it, or it is no longer an issue? Only if you feel like answering, of course.

[Anonymous]

It's 19 years later. Ask your therapist for help in moving on. And then do everything they say. It's now been longer since you graduated than the entire time you spent in the school.

Don't give them one more ounce of space in your brain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh for chrissakes.

I went to a Fairfax County public HS in the mid 80s and the guys would hold up numbers 1-10 to rate the girls as they walked down the hall.

A guy pulled out his d@ck under the desk in French class and flashed me and my friend.

I’m 50. I’m not suing the school system.

Watch the movie 16 Candles or The Breakfast Club—it was different back then.

I was also rated at school, I guess. I was Class Beauty. And I’ve experienced less than half The sh&t op is saying that happened, it still f&cked me up and I think it’s fine for her to complain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's 19 years later. Ask your therapist for help in moving on. And then do everything they say. It's now been longer since you graduated than the entire time you spent in the school.

Don't give them one more ounce of space in your brain.

It is difficult, OP and PP. I know someone who was attacked twice by the same person in HS, and frankly it is very traumatizing. The kid that did it's family is loaded, and there is no statute of limitations, as far as I know. It resonated with me when other PP stated that they have older brothers and learned to fight (same as the attacker, a football player, like their siblings) - but in this case, it was the attacker's fault (attacker had been in trouble for other issues). OP, I would be tempted to bill them for therapy, at the very least. It really is traumatizing, the trauma is real.

[Anonymous]

To add, the people who allowed it to happen (the school/town/county/administrators) should be held accountable. IDK if this helps you 20 years later, but you are not alone, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Private school I attended in MD had several cases of sexual abuse.

One perpetrator died while under indictment; another served time. A third I think was also arrested.

A fourth case involved a 17 yr old student who was with a divorced teacher in his late 20s. The student initiated it. I don’t believe she ever made a complaint Or reported it to anyone.

And the fifth little piggy cried wee wee wee all the way to the supreme court.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy here - I went to an all male HS and when I was a freshman I was very small - maybe 5’2” - and I had a severe and very noticeable physical disability. All freshman got picked on but mine was pretty intense because of the disability. One day in a hallway a bigger upperclassman called me an “f—-ing cripple” which set me off and I hit him as hard as I could and the punch slammed his head into a locker and he collapsed on the floor and had to be taken to a doctor. It helped that I had two older brothers so I knew how to fight. I thought I was going to be suspended but when the principal heard the whole story it was the guy who I hit that got in trouble. After that I still got picked on because I was a freshman but no one ever again picked on me because of my disability. I guess it helps to be a boy. I’m sorry for what you went through but people can be really mean.

From your wording - wondering if it is gone, you grew out of it, or it is no longer an issue? Only if you feel like answering, of course.

I’m ok answering it but thanks for asking. It’s been with me forever but dealing with it from birth has been good for me. I just wanted to be like every other boy playing sports but to do that I had to work harder and since I loved to win I worked really hard and played smarter. That determination stayed with me and I really believe that all of my personal and business success is due to having to deal with a birth disability. I wouldn’t change anything! I wouldn’t wish it on anyone but I’ve been blessed to have been surrounded by people (parents, siblings, wife, children) who have been incredibly supportive but who don’t see me as having a disability.

[Anonymous]

do you mean 16 candles where the blonde was pretty much raped? cuz i don’t remember anything that harrassy about the bfast club.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh for chrissakes.

I went to a Fairfax County public HS in the mid 80s and the guys would hold up numbers 1-10 to rate the girls as they walked down the hall.

A guy pulled out his d@ck under the desk in French class and flashed me and my friend.

I’m 50. I’m not suing the school system.

Watch the movie 16 Candles or The Breakfast Club—it was different back then.

I'm the same age, and also went to public school -- and not in your fancy-dancy Fairfax County school district, either! Yes, boys pulled their dicks out on the regular (calling "sunning" to distinguish it from the near-constant mooning), and the bra-snapping was endemic. We had those nasty SLAM books, etc. etc. It wasn't right then, and it's not right now. And it's also still not nearly as bad as what OP or any of the PPs went through, where they were specifically targeted.
OP and PP, I'm sorry for what you went through. I can't imagine suing would do any good at this point, but maybe there's a way that you can get involved with anti-bullying programs for youth? I wish I had a good suggestion -- clearly the First Lady's program hasn't really born fruit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy here - I went to an all male HS and when I was a freshman I was very small - maybe 5’2” - and I had a severe and very noticeable physical disability. All freshman got picked on but mine was pretty intense because of the disability. One day in a hallway a bigger upperclassman called me an “f—-ing cripple” which set me off and I hit him as hard as I could and the punch slammed his head into a locker and he collapsed on the floor and had to be taken to a doctor. It helped that I had two older brothers so I knew how to fight. I thought I was going to be suspended but when the principal heard the whole story it was the guy who I hit that got in trouble. After that I still got picked on because I was a freshman but no one ever again picked on me because of my disability. I guess it helps to be a boy. I’m sorry for what you went through but people can be really mean.

From your wording - wondering if it is gone, you grew out of it, or it is no longer an issue? Only if you feel like answering, of course.

I’m ok answering it but thanks for asking. It’s been with me forever but dealing with it from birth has been good for me. I just wanted to be like every other boy playing sports but to do that I had to work harder and since I loved to win I worked really hard and played smarter. That determination stayed with me and I really believe that all of my personal and business success is due to having to deal with a birth disability. I wouldn’t change anything! I wouldn’t wish it on anyone but I’ve been blessed to have been surrounded by people (parents, siblings, wife, children) who have been incredibly supportive but who don’t see me as having a disability.

NP - you sound like my Dad who was born disabled but has been incredibly successful in business and sports and everything. My mom jokes that he has an FU attitude when someone tells him that he might not be able to do something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh for chrissakes.

I went to a Fairfax County public HS in the mid 80s and the guys would hold up numbers 1-10 to rate the girls as they walked down the hall.

A guy pulled out his d@ck under the desk in French class and flashed me and my friend.

I’m 50. I’m not suing the school system.

Watch the movie 16 Candles or The Breakfast Club—it was different back then.

This is totally different from what OP and others describe. We all saw this stuff but only some people were targeted and systematically bullied. Why would you (or I, for that matter) sue anyone? Open your eyes and have some empathy for what others have experienced.