We got a terrible memo

[Anonymous]

There is absolutely no originality here. Why do people pay attention to this woman?

[Anonymous]

I have met people that fill that narrative, and DCUM is certainly full of them, but the vast majority of them are not. None of my friends are. Wr are more like "my mom's memo" people.

Where I grew up, everyone was competitive. A B+ was the end of the world. Parents controlled everything and their kids were snowflakes. No one got in trouble. A major issue would be quietly dealt with and then swept under the rug. I experienced it first hand and vowed not to raise my kid in that environment. It's toxic

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is absolutely no originality here. Why do people pay attention to this woman?

Because she feeds into their "mom guilt".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is absolutely no originality here. Why do people pay attention to this woman?

Because she feeds into their "mom guilt".

No. Not guilt. Narcissism.

As people moved out of rural areas into cities, they became more narcissistic by necessity. I don't mean grandiose or that they think they are amazing, more that people feel that what they signal to other people about "who they are" is more important than who they actually are. As people moved into bigger populations, fewer people know who you actually are, and so you only have a few seconds or maybe a few minutes to make an impression.

So, if the impression you want to make is, "I am a good mother," then you have to enroll your kids in all the things, dress them a certain way, and push them to succeed. As someone mentioned above, mothers now are the second generation of this, so it's even worse than it was with our own mothers.

People like the DCUM population like this woman because she is saying that these mothers that signal immediately as good mothers are actually terrible mothers and "their kids suck." So, send this link around to all of your mom friends so that they know that there is a new way to signal being an amazing mother, and that way is to take a break and have a drink sometimes.

I am not saying that you shouldn't have a drink sometimes. Of course you should. But to say that you are doing it BECAUSE you are a good mother is insane. Almost as insane as taking parenting advice from a lady whose big claim to fame is struggling with mental illness and being active on social media, not studying parent-child relationships or child development.

[Anonymous]

This is completely accurate- not nice to say the kids suck but the rest is about right

[Anonymous]

That was a waste of a read.

[Anonymous]

What a stupid article.

[Anonymous]

This woman is insufferable. I got 100 pages into her most recent book because someone picked it for our book club and it is awful. She is 100% opportunistic- every time she writes a book that talks about she has life all figured out she conveniently has some life changing event that changes how she views the world and she writes a new book about it. Her first book/ blog are about her Christian family life. Her second book was about how her husband had affairs that he told her about while on her book tour. And her most recent book is about how she met her wife on her book tour from THAT book and everything changed and her life now has the meaning she has been searching for her entire life. No idea why she keeps getting sales- are the same women reading her drivel and believing it?