We got a terrible memo

[Anonymous]

Great TED article
https://ideas.ted.com/the-memo-that-all-new-moms-and-dads-should-receive/?utm_campaign=social&utm_content=ideas-blog&utm_term=social-science&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=facebook.com&fbclid=IwAR0xmWzJTZWTK6TSUOnp3OEDt7bSqMuAEmKtxUAvQdmdqDsGGFZK5yuDc6c

[Anonymous]

Lots of sweeping generalizations.

[Anonymous]

They forgot to add the part about drinking straight from the water hose and not wearing helmets. Obnoxious and condescending.

[Anonymous]

“Our kids suck.”

WTH is wrong with her?

[Anonymous]

The author is a jerk.

My mom didn't smoke or drink, and she didn't have time for cards after she went to work once we hit school. She never locked us out!

I don't sign my kids up for Madarin (not wrong to, though) and we don't have a thousand trophies here.

My amazing kids certainly DON'T suck.

[Anonymous]

Ooh, I thought this was making a good point and then it just derailed.

Culturally, yes, our priorities are effed up. But as an individual mother I can only do so much. I can control my kid's lunch but I cannot -- no matter how much I vote, donate, or volunteer -- keep her safe at school. I can prepare her for college but I cannot fix global warming.

So yes, my anxieties turn to things I can actually affect. And how natural it is, even if wrong, to want to protect a child from small disappointments in such a fundamentally ruined and disappointing world.

[Anonymous]

My kids are awesome and I do not feel guilty, neurotic, or exhausted. Buck up. Be a good enough mom. Have some fun. We don’t get another chance at this.

[Anonymous]

You guys all got the wrong memo, and yes, your kids are spoiled and suck. That's why you don't like it. Reality hurts, huh?

[Anonymous]

I feel a lot more like moms of previous generations. I became a mom while I was in my 20s and still in grad school. Not something I had spent lots of time preparing for, just a thing that happened. Maybe when you structure your life around becoming a parent at the ideal time, when you have access to all the perfect resources, you get more sucked into this competitive parenting?

[Anonymous]

She is insufferable. I wish she wasn’t the “voice” of mothers today. Press always turns to her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is insufferable. I wish she wasn’t the “voice” of mothers today. Press always turns to her.

+1,000,000 she’s an insufferable fake

[Anonymous]

Lol. Her kids might suck but she can speak for herself on that.

[Anonymous]

I hate Glennon Doyle, she is so annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids are awesome and I do not feel guilty, neurotic, or exhausted. Buck up. Be a good enough mom. Have some fun. We don’t get another chance at this.

This.

It ultimately comes down to love and memories. That’s it. And you really only have “your family” as one unit until the first kid launches. Then life changes quickly.

[Anonymous]

I am actually extremely grateful to be a mom at this moment in time (well, aside from the pandemic). I feel that my ability to work outside the home is much better supported than in the generation before me, both emotionally and logistically. I have better access to day care, cleaning services, grocery delivery, etc., and my husband thinks nothing of taking over 100% of the duties when I have to travel. Mandarin? Never even entered my mind. I’ll support whatever interests pop up organically.