I married the wrong guy...should have been the hedge fund guy

[Anonymous]

We’re both in biglaw and I totally know what you mean. We are trapped in DC forever. FL has no appeal for me but I’d love to be on the west coast.

[Anonymous]

They are both good guys. My husband has become extremely risk averse and boring. We are so bored. I am so bored and this lock down is not helping our marriage at all. The other guy reached out bc he feels the same. I have no one to talk to about this now so I’m coming in this board, which is a bad idea, but I just need to talk to someone about this. I’m and I don’t really care if you all judge me. The truth is I could have married either of them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah palm beach/Jupiter

Lol.

Is this guy 92?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are both good guys. My husband has become extremely risk averse and boring. We are so bored. I am so bored and this lock down is not helping our marriage at all. The other guy reached out bc he feels the same. I have no one to talk to about this now so I’m coming in this board, which is a bad idea, but I just need to talk to someone about this. I’m and I don’t really care if you all judge me. The truth is I could have married either of them.

Absolutely not judging, I still contact my other “the one” all the time. Introduced him to DH for the first time recently even. But honestly there are reasons you chose this one that you just aren’t letting yourself remember right now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah palm beach/Jupiter

Lol.

The fund was in CT and they moved to Florida. You clearly don’t know anything about law firms or hedge funds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah palm beach/Jupiter

Lol.

The fund was in CT and they moved to Florida. You clearly don’t know anything about law firms or hedge funds.

Are you drunk?

[Anonymous]

LOL you are a boring slag clinging to the very last bit of attractiveness you think you have and are second guessing your entire existence because some guy you used to f$ck got drunk and texted you in the middle of a pandemic. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you become a hedge fund manager yourself so you could buy your own beach house?

Because I’m good at what I do already. This has nothing to do with my career.

But you can't afford a Palm Springs house?

How do you know if we cannot afford home in Palm Prongs? We could. But we cannot move there any time soon because of our jobs in DC. . We could live in NYC or CT, , but that’s not so appealing right now. Marrying the DC lawyer was the safe bet at the time. The bottom has fallen out of the legal industry and it turns out my husband, while a top partner, works in a firm where people will never, ever leave and the executive committee members will not push them out.

Why is everyone panicking about the legal profession? They will be busier than ever. Anyway, I married the wrong guy too, although I don’t have a better candidate I can point to like you do. I married the only guy who ever really wanted to marry me. I have two exes whom I was madly in love with, but they both dumped me. They are very successful, have tons of money, and their wives live in beautiful homes. I am so jealous, and it is OK for you to be too. Don’t let anyone here guilt you and tell you that you should have made your own money. Most of them didn’t and they would be just as pissed off as we are had they not married or inherited it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are both good guys. My husband has become extremely risk averse and boring. We are so bored. I am so bored and this lock down is not helping our marriage at all. The other guy reached out bc he feels the same. I have no one to talk to about this now so I’m coming in this board, which is a bad idea, but I just need to talk to someone about this. I’m and I don’t really care if you all judge me. The truth is I could have married either of them.

Absolutely not judging, I still contact my other “the one” all the time. Introduced him to DH for the first time recently even. But honestly there are reasons you chose this one that you just aren’t letting yourself remember right now.

You’re right. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are both good guys. My husband has become extremely risk averse and boring. We are so bored. I am so bored and this lock down is not helping our marriage at all. The other guy reached out bc he feels the same. I have no one to talk to about this now so I’m coming in this board, which is a bad idea, but I just need to talk to someone about this. I’m and I don’t really care if you all judge me. The truth is I could have married either of them.

Troll. This is like the soft core version of bad porn.

[Anonymous]

Oldest profession...

[Anonymous]

That’s the point. I am a good “catch”.

Sure you are, sweetie.

The hedge fund guy's 2nd or 3rd mistress is likely 10x hotter than you. On a bad day.

Moreover, your husband's mistress (or law clerk he is nailing) is hotter as well, even with an allowance for your mileage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL you are a boring slag clinging to the very last bit of attractiveness you think you have and are second guessing your entire existence because some guy you used to f$ck got drunk and texted you in the middle of a pandemic. Grow up.

No. He texts me in the morning when he gets to work.

[Anonymous]

I’m not a troll. Very real. Thank you to those who can relate and understand.

[Anonymous]

Well I wish I had been more focused on money earlier and went into finance rather than science, so at least OP had the wisdom to chase the money young!