I married the wrong guy...should have been the hedge fund guy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I can totally relate. Had a Brunch houseparty drink with my ex (university group of friends, we were 4 on the call). He was coming out of his pool in the south of France to join our call, his beautiful wife in background. Good looking And successful 40 yo with a full set of hair.

While my balding husband was fighting our kids in our cramped kitchen..

I had a big what if moment . Comes at regular intervals from «  the one that got away ».

And then, I snap out of it, remember why I dumped him (he is a type A self centered asshole who made me feel like shit way too often). And why my DH is a wonderfully Intellectual and caring partner who chose a less lucrative career because he cares about ethics and giving back to the world. And I have zero doubts that I am happier with him than with big hair douche.

Are you as beautiful as his wife?

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Anonymous wrote:LOL you are a boring slag clinging to the very last bit of attractiveness you think you have and are second guessing your entire existence because some guy you used to f$ck got drunk and texted you in the middle of a pandemic. Grow up.

No. He texts me in the morning when he gets to work.

Cringing for you.

Ive known him for almost 20 years, including knowing his parents, siblings and I’ve been to his childhood home. This is not not some random person I spoke to at a conference.

I think covid -and lock down- has people considering what if scenarios. I’m not entertaining abandoning my family, I considering coulda, woulda, shoulda.

DP. He may not be a random, but he’s only texting now because he’s bored and looking for entertainment. He knows you’re an easy target, and he gets off seeing you’re still hung up on him.

FIFY

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously. They were both smart, ambitious and I stuck w the DC lawyer. Meanwhile I’m sitting in my house in NW DC while the other guy I could have married now lives in Palm Springs, 1/ 2 block from the beach. I really screws that up.

Don't worry, if the "shelter forever" morons persist, your current husband will lose his law firm job while your former love would have hedged the market and killed it on the stock market tank . . . then you'll really feel some remorse. So enjoy the present.

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While my balding husband was fighting our kids in our cramped kitchen.

It is even more cramped when you lug your oversized ass into it.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes they are not hotter . . . at all. One of my very successful exes married a woman who is not physically attractive at all. Some rich guys are married to not very attractive women.

How cute! This post typifies an updated version of this poster's mom telling her that boys are not asking her out because she is too pretty and it scares them.

No, most of the time they are much hotter than the girls they banged along the way.

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Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you become a hedge fund manager yourself so you could buy your own beach house?

Because I’m good at what I do already. This has nothing to do with my career.

But you can't afford a Palm Springs house?

How do you know if we cannot afford home in Palm Prongs? We could. But we cannot move there any time soon because of our jobs in DC. . We could live in NYC or CT, , but that’s not so appealing right now. Marrying the DC lawyer was the safe bet at the time. The bottom has fallen out of the legal industry and it turns out my husband, while a top partner, works in a firm where people will never, ever leave and the executive committee members will not push them out.

What a catch you are!

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I get it op. I'm in a cramped house in Wheaton and my DH is being a jerk and his boss is making him go in so I feel unsafe. My ex who I could have married owns his own firm and has a gorgeous house in California with a pool and is able to fully telecommute. I'd rather be quarantining there.

Hi, PP, it is your husband posting from the other room in Wheaton. I wish you were quarantining there as well.

My ex is the same height as you are, weights 35% less, and is at least one cup size bigger. Please send her my way when you hit the door.

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Sometimes they are not hotter . . . at all. One of my very successful exes married a woman who is not physically attractive at all. Some rich guys are married to not very attractive women.

How cute! This post typifies an updated version of this poster's mom telling her that boys are not asking her out because she is too pretty and it scares them.

No, most of the time they are much hotter than the girls they banged along the way.

And again sometimes they are not. People get married for a variety of reasons. My ex did, in fact, marry a woman who is not objectively physically attractive. She is pale, plain, short, stocky and is very masculine looking. Granted, she must have some attributes that he liked, but looks was probably not one of them. Anyway, sorry but no one would say that she is hotter than me. She isn’t. But she got to marry the love of my life, so can’t I just have the small indulgence of knowing that I am way hotter than her?

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Sometimes they are not hotter . . . at all. One of my very successful exes married a woman who is not physically attractive at all. Some rich guys are married to not very attractive women.

How cute! This post typifies an updated version of this poster's mom telling her that boys are not asking her out because she is too pretty and it scares them.

No, most of the time they are much hotter than the girls they banged along the way.

And again sometimes they are not. People get married for a variety of reasons. My ex did, in fact, marry a woman who is not objectively physically attractive. She is pale, plain, short, stocky and is very masculine looking. Granted, she must have some attributes that he liked, but looks was probably not one of them. Anyway, sorry but no one would say that she is hotter than me. She isn’t. But she got to marry the love of my life, so can’t I just have the small indulgence of knowing that I am way hotter than her?

You are hotter in your own mind. Something about your "beauty" left the guy totally cold. Beauty certainly is in the eye of the beholder.

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Sometimes they are not hotter . . . at all. One of my very successful exes married a woman who is not physically attractive at all. Some rich guys are married to not very attractive women.

How cute! This post typifies an updated version of this poster's mom telling her that boys are not asking her out because she is too pretty and it scares them.

No, most of the time they are much hotter than the girls they banged along the way.

And again sometimes they are not. People get married for a variety of reasons. My ex did, in fact, marry a woman who is not objectively physically attractive. She is pale, plain, short, stocky and is very masculine looking. Granted, she must have some attributes that he liked, but looks was probably not one of them. Anyway, sorry but no one would say that she is hotter than me. She isn’t. But she got to marry the love of my life, so can’t I just have the small indulgence of knowing that I am way hotter than her?

You are hotter in your own mind. Something about your "beauty" left the guy totally cold. Beauty certainly is in the eye of the beholder.

Spoken like a girl with “a good personality.” Or maybe not even that given that you would kick someone while they are down.

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And again sometimes they are not. People get married for a variety of reasons. My ex did, in fact, marry a woman who is not objectively physically attractive. She is pale, plain, short, stocky and is very masculine looking. Granted, she must have some attributes that he liked, but looks was probably not one of them. Anyway, sorry but no one would say that she is hotter than me. She isn’t. But she got to marry the love of my life, so can’t I just have the small indulgence of knowing that I am way hotter than her

Well written.

An even better indulgence would be to give yourself completely to a bald DCUM poster (I come to mind). In fact, your EX would hate it if you were to "get even" by giving some random poster (again, I come to mind) the best sex of his life.

BTW - it appears that your EX found mine.

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Sometimes they are not hotter . . . at all. One of my very successful exes married a woman who is not physically attractive at all. Some rich guys are married to not very attractive women.

How cute! This post typifies an updated version of this poster's mom telling her that boys are not asking her out because she is too pretty and it scares them.

No, most of the time they are much hotter than the girls they banged along the way.

And again sometimes they are not. People get married for a variety of reasons. My ex did, in fact, marry a woman who is not objectively physically attractive. She is pale, plain, short, stocky and is very masculine looking. Granted, she must have some attributes that he liked, but looks was probably not one of them. Anyway, sorry but no one would say that she is hotter than me. She isn’t. But she got to marry the love of my life, so can’t I just have the small indulgence of knowing that I am way hotter than her?

You are hotter in your own mind. Something about your "beauty" left the guy totally cold. Beauty certainly is in the eye of the beholder.

Hotter in real life too, and I am also smart and a great person. But if he wanted to sleep with her for the rest of his life, that was his choice. Don’t tell me that you are all so righteous and holy that you’ve never compared yourselves favorably to an ex’s wife.

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And again sometimes they are not. People get married for a variety of reasons. My ex did, in fact, marry a woman who is not objectively physically attractive. She is pale, plain, short, stocky and is very masculine looking. Granted, she must have some attributes that he liked, but looks was probably not one of them. Anyway, sorry but no one would say that she is hotter than me. She isn’t. But she got to marry the love of my life, so can’t I just have the small indulgence of knowing that I am way hotter than her

Well written.

An even better indulgence would be to give yourself completely to a bald DCUM poster (I come to mind). In fact, your EX would hate it if you were to "get even" by giving some random poster (again, I come to mind) the best sex of his life.

BTW - it appears that your EX found mine.

Does your ex, by chance, have a Kate Gosseling haircut?

[Anonymous]

Eeeeuuuuuw..... OP reeks from here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not a troll. Very real. Thank you to those who can relate and understand.

You're not a troll, but you don't know where he lives? Palm Springs is nowhere near a beach.