Have you ever been iced out of a friend group? And felt sick to your stomach over it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is someone in one of my friend groups who is being distanced. She was very unkind to one person and the whole group was shocked when it happened (we were there and heard it ourselves). Jaw drop open shocked. It’s a long-standing group and people might get over it in time but for now we are taking a break. Easier now with the quarantine.

Classic what you did there...”the whole group was ...”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is someone in one of my friend groups who is being distanced. She was very unkind to one person and the whole group was shocked when it happened (we were there and heard it ourselves). Jaw drop open shocked. It’s a long-standing group and people might get over it in time but for now we are taking a break. Easier now with the quarantine.

Classic what you did there...”the whole group was ...”

What do you mean? We were all there together and shot glances at each other with jaws dropped. Then we quickly wrapped up the event to remove the woman she deeply offended.

[Anonymous]

What is your role in the icing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is your role in the icing?

Who are you asking? I’m 00:32 and I was a supporter. Our ring leader coordinated the group response.

[Anonymous]

Ugh. Catty adults thinking they're still in high school. No one has time for that sh*t. If you're feeling "iced" out, just confront one of them and see what's up. Maybe you did something, maybe not. A mature, respectable adult would tell you straight. If not, then you need to just walk away because trying hard to be friends with mean people is not worth your time.

[Anonymous]

Op, what did you do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP. Often it’s one person in the group who has the issue and then convinces or leads the sheep.

+1 Queen Bee
You lucked out to leave group i promise

Agree.

Yup.
Happens one by one to the sheep also, in time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is someone in one of my friend groups who is being distanced. She was very unkind to one person and the whole group was shocked when it happened (we were there and heard it ourselves). Jaw drop open shocked. It’s a long-standing group and people might get over it in time but for now we are taking a break. Easier now with the quarantine.

So this supposed friend deeply offended and hurt another friend and none of you said anything? Your response was not to step in and call attention to the bad behavior but to just ice someone out? What a bunch of awful so-called friends. Cowardly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP. Often it’s one person in the group who has the issue and then convinces or leads the sheep.

OP it happened to me and it happened exactly like this. I am a chill people pleaser but the queen bee is/was a very jealous type and her envy came to a head. It was a really awful experience, so bad I almost moved (these were neighbor friends). 5 years later, I’m so glad I no longer waste a single second around them and have a new circle. They were bad-hearted people and I didnt see it to the full extent at the time. Hang in there - it’s brutal but remember the best payback will be living well and no longer caring about them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is someone in one of my friend groups who is being distanced. She was very unkind to one person and the whole group was shocked when it happened (we were there and heard it ourselves). Jaw drop open shocked. It’s a long-standing group and people might get over it in time but for now we are taking a break. Easier now with the quarantine.

So this supposed friend deeply offended and hurt another friend and none of you said anything? Your response was not to step in and call attention to the bad behavior but to just ice someone out? What a bunch of awful so-called friends. Cowardly.

NP here. Exactly. Truly ignorant and childish. You're an adult for crying out loud.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is someone in one of my friend groups who is being distanced. She was very unkind to one person and the whole group was shocked when it happened (we were there and heard it ourselves). Jaw drop open shocked. It’s a long-standing group and people might get over it in time but for now we are taking a break. Easier now with the quarantine.

So this supposed friend deeply offended and hurt another friend and none of you said anything? Your response was not to step in and call attention to the bad behavior but to just ice someone out? What a bunch of awful so-called friends. Cowardly.

NP here. Exactly. Truly ignorant and childish. You're an adult for crying out loud.

The offended person didn’t want to say anything and it doesn’t feel like my place to say anything. We are all still in each others’ lives for the foreseeable future and distancing seems better than a big confrontation. That said, I would answer honestly, if asked.

Out of everything that happened, the “iced” person was really at fault here. If she lacks the self-awareness to know what she did? Meh.

[Anonymous]

I can see why that would happen to you? Dramatic much? Posting this ins a health forum?

[Anonymous]

Is there a friendship forum? It's making me feel physically sick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is someone in one of my friend groups who is being distanced. She was very unkind to one person and the whole group was shocked when it happened (we were there and heard it ourselves). Jaw drop open shocked. It’s a long-standing group and people might get over it in time but for now we are taking a break. Easier now with the quarantine.

So this supposed friend deeply offended and hurt another friend and none of you said anything? Your response was not to step in and call attention to the bad behavior but to just ice someone out? What a bunch of awful so-called friends. Cowardly.

NP here. Exactly. Truly ignorant and childish. You're an adult for crying out loud.

The offended person didn’t want to say anything and it doesn’t feel like my place to say anything. We are all still in each others’ lives for the foreseeable future and distancing seems better than a big confrontation. That said, I would answer honestly, if asked.

Out of everything that happened, the “iced” person was really at fault here. If she lacks the self-awareness to know what she did? Meh.

What? The PPs were asking why you didn’t speak up in the moment? How did the offended person communicate she didn’t want you speaking up when the rest of you were so busy looking at each other with your jaws open?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is there a friendship forum? It's making me feel physically sick.

Yes, there is a relationship forum.