Any Other Working FT Moms Now also the Default Parent During the Day
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Anonymous
God, why does everyone ask this?! |
Anonymous
| That lasted two days before I lost it on my DH. We are more equitable now. |
Anonymous
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And you haven't thrown an epic fit yet? You must be some kind of saint or martyr.
You're allowing this to continue, OP. I would be picking open his office door lock and handing him a kid. |
Anonymous
They are bored or incredibly stupid. Probably both. |
Anonymous
| this is happening in almost every dual income household i know now. |
Anonymous
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Somewhat. DH is essential, but can WFH, so he is in the basement feverishly working while I'm also expected to WFH full-time. I make less than he does, but not that much less. My boss keeps putting me on all these COVID-19 related work teams, which has considerably added to my workload.
The first week I dealt with it, and then I let DH have it and insisted he take the kids for a good chunk each day. So far, so good, but now he thinks he is doing the same as I am and he's really, really not. |
Anonymous
| haha yes, and frankly, sadly, I would be more surprised if this weren't the case. |
Anonymous
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I work from home and default parent, but my kid is 10 so doesn't require a lot of supervision.
But I have been spending ridiculous amount of time helping set up for online learning and get into routine of sending assignments. I also help with questions about the material. I refreshed my knowledge about ancient Greece and learnt how to write Haikus. Also, I have to supervise DC to make sure she does not watch TV all day. I have to make meals and clean the house. DH is on conference calls dawn till dusk. It's getting annoying. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
She is in quarantine because she was exposed to someone positive |
Anonymous
Seriously, am I just super aggressive? I would be going in there to confront, and not just silently stewing all day and then politely bringing it up at dinner, only to have him refuse. We are a team, we are equal partners who both work full time. If he wanted someone who happily stuck to traditional gender roles, that's who he should have married and asked to SAH. |
Anonymous
I have and he just says he can’t multi-task like me and the kids want me anyways (which is true). This dynamic has existed since DCs were born and I decided that rather than resenting DH, I’d just hire help. It’s worked...until now...where help cannot come. |
Anonymous
Oh, hell no. Make up a schedule and stick to it. When it's his turn, go to a room and close and lock the door. He's on duty. |