DH put home purchase in his name only

[Anonymous]

So when you were buying the house, you weren't suspicious that you didn't have to sign anything?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tenants? Really? You have a ring on your finger and I'm assuming thousands to spend each month, and you feel you are a "Tenant" to your husband? Yes, perhaps it's technically wrong for both of your names not to be on the deed. However, you are reaching. Ask yourself this question: If it bothers you this much why not leave him?

Ask yourself this question also: If you're married and you end up getting divorced, what difference does it make? All assets are separated regardless if the house doesn't have your name on it. Unless you signed a prenup (I assume you did not).

Now, all that said it's clear your marriage isn't too great. Because being realistic if two were really together he would want to share everything with you. I would look at your relationship first before looking at assets.

PS: Spending time and money decorating your house is not work. Sorry, but that's the truth. I laugh when people act like living in a home is "work". Is shopping work? Is spending money work? Let's be serious here.

The house was paid for in full with cash. When marrying someone with money prenup of course. We have a good marriage for the most part. He’s extremely generous and easy to live with. Also, I don’t have one friend who didn’t sign a prenup and not one has their name on the home or homes they reside in. I even have a friend who works her butt off who’s DH just left her for a young chick and I found out her name isn’t on the home they built. And she put her earned money into that home!

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

My neighbor discovered recently that her name was not of the title. First marriage for both, but her husband is a completely dick.

I'm so sorry, OP. It's so disrespectful and controlling. Disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:https://www.theonion.com/housewife-charged-in-sex-for-security-scam-1819567920

Is this sarcasm?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
My neighbor discovered recently that her name was not of the title. First marriage for both, but her husband is a completely dick.

I'm so sorry, OP. It's so disrespectful and controlling. Disgusting.

How can you recently discover something like this? It should be obvious from the time of closing.

[Anonymous]

OP, you are entitled to half of all assets and debts acquired during the course of marriage whether your work outside the home.

Yes, it sucks that your DH put only his name on the title and IMO it does reflect his opinion about you and the marraige, but at the end of the day, joke is on him if he thinks he is protecting those assets in any way.

Take some cash out and spend some $$ to see a lawyer and better understand your position in a divorce and how you can keep track of documentation to protect yourself.

Also, what kind of access do you have to other financial information (retirement, savings, etc.). Who pays bills in your family? If you don't have access to these, I would be worried. He could be hiding money or spending it or getting into debt you don't know about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tenants? Really? You have a ring on your finger and I'm assuming thousands to spend each month, and you feel you are a "Tenant" to your husband? Yes, perhaps it's technically wrong for both of your names not to be on the deed. However, you are reaching. Ask yourself this question: If it bothers you this much why not leave him?

Ask yourself this question also: If you're married and you end up getting divorced, what difference does it make? All assets are separated regardless if the house doesn't have your name on it. Unless you signed a prenup (I assume you did not).

Now, all that said it's clear your marriage isn't too great. Because being realistic if two were really together he would want to share everything with you. I would look at your relationship first before looking at assets.

PS: Spending time and money decorating your house is not work. Sorry, but that's the truth. I laugh when people act like living in a home is "work". Is shopping work? Is spending money work? Let's be serious here.

The house was paid for in full with cash. When marrying someone with money prenup of course. We have a good marriage for the most part. He’s extremely generous and easy to live with. Also, I don’t have one friend who didn’t sign a prenup and not one has their name on the home or homes they reside in. I even have a friend who works her butt off who’s DH just left her for a young chick and I found out her name isn’t on the home they built. And she put her earned money into that home!

Sorry but I (a woman) just can't relate to people like you and your peers. You want partnership in business/ financial matters, but act like children (i.e. dependents) in other respects. You call your husband "generous" which shows you think of him as sharing what HE has (not what you both own). That is accurate, I guess, given the type of arrangement you have signed up for.

[Anonymous]

Dont trust advice here. See a lawyer to verify how the assets would be divided in the event of a divorce. You need to do this to protect yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re married and acquired the home together, how is that not marital property (like if you divorce)?

+1

Depends on the state and the asshole lawyer DH retains. I got screwed out of ours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tenants? Really? You have a ring on your finger and I'm assuming thousands to spend each month, and you feel you are a "Tenant" to your husband? Yes, perhaps it's technically wrong for both of your names not to be on the deed. However, you are reaching. Ask yourself this question: If it bothers you this much why not leave him?

Ask yourself this question also: If you're married and you end up getting divorced, what difference does it make? All assets are separated regardless if the house doesn't have your name on it. Unless you signed a prenup (I assume you did not).

Now, all that said it's clear your marriage isn't too great. Because being realistic if two were really together he would want to share everything with you. I would look at your relationship first before looking at assets.

PS: Spending time and money decorating your house is not work. Sorry, but that's the truth. I laugh when people act like living in a home is "work". Is shopping work? Is spending money work? Let's be serious here.

The house was paid for in full with cash. When marrying someone with money prenup of course. We have a good marriage for the most part. He’s extremely generous and easy to live with. Also, I don’t have one friend who didn’t sign a prenup and not one has their name on the home or homes they reside in. I even have a friend who works her butt off who’s DH just left her for a young chick and I found out her name isn’t on the home they built. And she put her earned money into that home!

Sorry but I (a woman) just can't relate to people like you and your peers. You want partnership in business/ financial matters, but act like children (i.e. dependents) in other respects. You call your husband "generous" which shows you think of him as sharing what HE has (not what you both own). That is accurate, I guess, given the type of arrangement you have signed up for.

No kidding. Act like a dependent child, get treated like a dependent child.

[Anonymous]

Did you not go to the closing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
My neighbor discovered recently that her name was not of the title. First marriage for both, but her husband is a completely dick.

I'm so sorry, OP. It's so disrespectful and controlling. Disgusting.

How is this possible? During our closings, we BOTH signed a big pile of documents with our names and initials. Both our names were on the documents. Are these women so uneducated that they think you can buy a house and it'll be in your name without signing a single thing or even being present?

[Anonymous]

OP is happily married and does not need a divorce lawyer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is happily married and does not need a divorce lawyer

If OP constantly seething over this means she's in a happy marriage, I'd love to see what you think an unhappy marriage looks like...