Returned college students as “mother’s helpers”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:With all the college students returning home after campus closures, it seems like a natural fit to hire someone to help with the kids while parents telework/ go into the office. Obviously they’ll eventually have remote coursework to do, but I’d think they could at least provide part-time help.

Are there drawbacks I’m not thinking of? Of course, it would need to be someone you trusted to take good preventive measures outside your house as well.

You sound really entitled to expect them to provide child care. Its not their responsibility to care for your kids, its yours. They still have a full course load and responsibilities to school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With all the college students returning home after campus closures, it seems like a natural fit to hire someone to help with the kids while parents telework/ go into the office. Obviously they’ll eventually have remote coursework to do, but I’d think they could at least provide part-time help.

Are there drawbacks I’m not thinking of? Of course, it would need to be someone you trusted to take good preventive measures outside your house as well.

You sound really entitled to expect them to provide child care. Its not their responsibility to care for your kids, its yours. They still have a full course load and responsibilities to school.

It sounded like she was talking about jobs. Asking college students if they want jobs is not entitled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here’s a drawback: you are potentially spreading the virus and endangering your family and the college kid. Take care of your own children and stay away from other people!


Why can’t people understand this?

We’re creating smaller social circles. Some parents have to work. Better to have one young person in the house providing care, than having the child go to a large group environment. Some of our changes have to be incremental. We can’t all be quarantined for the next two months or however long this will take.

Incremental? That defeats the whole purpose of social distancing at this time. Incrementalism will not be fast enough to flatten the curve of infections. Just today (according to my college kid who is here at home) there are reports that stopping contacts this week, right now, today, is crucial to preventing a rapid spike in cases that is coming down the road rapidly and which probably will overwhelm hospitals. By the time you locate and hire a college student so you can keep working, the situation may already be to the point that no one should be bringing employees into their homes at all.

If you think that's alarmist, OP, fine. But your incremental approach fails to comprehend what's going on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here’s a drawback: you are potentially spreading the virus and endangering your family and the college kid. Take care of your own children and stay away from other people!


Why can’t people understand this?

Why can't people understand that some of us HAVE to go to work. It's not a choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here’s a drawback: you are potentially spreading the virus and endangering your family and the college kid. Take care of your own children and stay away from other people!


Why can’t people understand this?

Why cant you understand that some people have to work and can't do that and take care of children at the same time?

You have to figure out a way. With your spouses and bosses - you have to find away. You cannot be this selfish and irresponsible, OP.

Excuse me. Tell that to the two-physician or emergency responder families. Are you calling them selfish and irresponsible for putting their own lives at risk for others?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here’s a drawback: you are potentially spreading the virus and endangering your family and the college kid. Take care of your own children and stay away from other people!


Why can’t people understand this?

Why cant you understand that some people have to work and can't do that and take care of children at the same time?

You have to figure out a way. With your spouses and bosses - you have to find away. You cannot be this selfish and irresponsible, OP.

Excuse me. Tell that to the two-physician or emergency responder families. Are you calling them selfish and irresponsible for putting their own lives at risk for others?

OP is HOME. She’s looking for a mother’s helper. Can you see the difference?

[Anonymous]

And all of you DCUM martyrs are ensuring you stay at least 6 feet away from everyone at home, too? That includes your toddlers, you know, LWOP martyr. Otherwise you are just narrowing your circle and not Proper Social Distancing because you are 100% selfish and evil. 🙄

OP, the morons are out full force on DCUM right now, ignore them. I've just hired a college student neighbor to watch our toddler for several hours a day. None of us are going anywhere else except for our two homes, including her own parents who are also telecommuting. She's grateful for the money and I'm grateful for the help!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And all of you DCUM martyrs are ensuring you stay at least 6 feet away from everyone at home, too? That includes your toddlers, you know, LWOP martyr. Otherwise you are just narrowing your circle and not Proper Social Distancing because you are 100% selfish and evil. 🙄

OP, the morons are out full force on DCUM right now, ignore them. I've just hired a college student neighbor to watch our toddler for several hours a day. None of us are going anywhere else except for our two homes, including her own parents who are also telecommuting. She's grateful for the money and I'm grateful for the help!

You are truly the moron. And stunningly selfish.

Doing the right thing makes you a “martyr” in your eyes. Tells us everything we need to know about you, doesn’t it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With all the college students returning home after campus closures, it seems like a natural fit to hire someone to help with the kids while parents telework/ go into the office. Obviously they’ll eventually have remote coursework to do, but I’d think they could at least provide part-time help.

Are there drawbacks I’m not thinking of? Of course, it would need to be someone you trusted to take good preventive measures outside your house as well.

You sound really entitled to expect them to provide child care. Its not their responsibility to care for your kids, its yours. They still have a full course load and responsibilities to school.

Many students are advertising their availability for babysitting on the neighborhood list serves. No one is forcing anyone to accept the job. Better to have the same neighbor college student or nanny coming over daily than to send the kids to a group child care setting. For various reasons, many parents don’t have the option to “refuse” to work, as someone suggested.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here’s a drawback: you are potentially spreading the virus and endangering your family and the college kid. Take care of your own children and stay away from other people!


Why can’t people understand this?

Why cant you understand that some people have to work and can't do that and take care of children at the same time?

You have to figure out a way. With your spouses and bosses - you have to find away. You cannot be this selfish and irresponsible, OP.

Excuse me. Tell that to the two-physician or emergency responder families. Are you calling them selfish and irresponsible for putting their own lives at risk for others?

OP is HOME. She’s looking for a mother’s helper. Can you see the difference?

I think OP is teleworking. is that not the case? depending on her kids' ages she may not be able to WFH with her kids there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here’s a drawback: you are potentially spreading the virus and endangering your family and the college kid. Take care of your own children and stay away from other people!


Why can’t people understand this?

Why cant you understand that some people have to work and can't do that and take care of children at the same time?

You have to figure out a way. With your spouses and bosses - you have to find away. You cannot be this selfish and irresponsible, OP.

You are in denial of reality. It is irresponsible and unrealistic to think that people will just find a way.

[Anonymous]

For first responders, healthcare workers, etc., yes, I think this is a decent solution.

For nearly everyone else, no. Sacrifices will have to be made. Figure it out.

[Anonymous]

With HS and college students, I would worry that are socializing with their friends when they aren't with you. That would be my main concern. Their idea of social isolation is probably not mine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With all the college students returning home after campus closures, it seems like a natural fit to hire someone to help with the kids while parents telework/ go into the office. Obviously they’ll eventually have remote coursework to do, but I’d think they could at least provide part-time help.

Are there drawbacks I’m not thinking of? Of course, it would need to be someone you trusted to take good preventive measures outside your house as well.

You sound really entitled to expect them to provide child care. Its not their responsibility to care for your kids, its yours. They still have a full course load and responsibilities to school.

Many students are advertising their availability for babysitting on the neighborhood list serves. No one is forcing anyone to accept the job. Better to have the same neighbor college student or nanny coming over daily than to send the kids to a group child care setting. For various reasons, many parents don’t have the option to “refuse” to work, as someone suggested.

It’s a public health issue! We are socially distancing for the greater good and to get past this thing faster!

Christ, why are some of you so dim-witted!?

[Anonymous]

It’s fine IMO. Our nanny is still coming over. We trust her to limit her social contact and we don’t have any elderly people in the house. College students parents are what - late 40s to mid 50s? I read an article that it’s okay to maintain contact with one other healthy family if you trust them to follow the rules. So if you do this, pick someone trustworthy and paranoid.