Pushups in store bathroom as punishment

[Anonymous]

Were there other people in the bathroom at the time? If not, then I don't think that was inappropriate punishment. He cal wash his hands afterwards. She didn't make him do the pushups in the aisle of the store. Now that would be inappropriate.

What the heck is wrong with punishing your child for misbehaving. IMO, more kids need to be punished for misbehaving, not just ignore their bad behavior.

[Anonymous]

"People of Hobby Lobby" is way scarier than People of Walmart.

[Anonymous]

^he can wash...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A normal parent would have whispered in the kid’s ear to settle down, quickly use the restroom, and then leave the store. When kids act up, you take them home. You don’t cause a scene. You lecture the child privately. You never reward bad behavior; you just go home.

WTH is wrong with people? This is why we have such poorly behaved kids and adults: bad parenting.

How about you parent your kids in a way that's effective for YOUR kids. I'll parent mine in a way that's effective for them.

DP. I do get that different kids need different things, and that parenting styles are really not that important, but is there ANY research that suggests pushups in a public place is an effective discipline technique? Or anything similar to pushups in a public place? Particularly a place that might be a little humiliating like a bathroom floor?

My mom used to make me clean our bathrooms as a disciplinary technique. Quelle Horreur. How humiliating.

Are you seriously suggesting it's basically the same thing?

You clearly want to argue about it, but honestly, don't you think the parent knows what's best for her child? She took him into the bathroom because it was more private. MYOB.

No I do not always think parents know what's best for their kids. I think parents often just assume parenting is intuitive, but it's really not. Kids will do better when parents search out skills and attitudes toward parenting that are backed by research. But this very well could have been what was best! I don't know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"People of Hobby Lobby" is way scarier than People of Walmart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Were there other people in the bathroom at the time? If not, then I don't think that was inappropriate punishment. He cal wash his hands afterwards. She didn't make him do the pushups in the aisle of the store. Now that would be inappropriate.

What the heck is wrong with punishing your child for misbehaving. IMO, more kids need to be punished for misbehaving, not just ignore their bad behavior.

Another woman came in and snapped that photo and she let her do it and post it on facebook and spoke to the media. So it's totally inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A normal parent would have whispered in the kid’s ear to settle down, quickly use the restroom, and then leave the store. When kids act up, you take them home. You don’t cause a scene. You lecture the child privately. You never reward bad behavior; you just go home.

WTH is wrong with people? This is why we have such poorly behaved kids and adults: bad parenting.

How about you parent your kids in a way that's effective for YOUR kids. I'll parent mine in a way that's effective for them.

DP. I do get that different kids need different things, and that parenting styles are really not that important, but is there ANY research that suggests pushups in a public place is an effective discipline technique? Or anything similar to pushups in a public place? Particularly a place that might be a little humiliating like a bathroom floor?

My mom used to make me clean our bathrooms as a disciplinary technique. Quelle Horreur. How humiliating.

Are you seriously suggesting it's basically the same thing?

You clearly want to argue about it, but honestly, don't you think the parent knows what's best for her child? She took him into the bathroom because it was more private. MYOB.

AND THEN SHE LET SOMEONE PHOTOGRAPH IT and post all over Facebook, and talked to CNN about it.

Private my a$$. She gave up the right to have people Mind their own business when she went out of the way to publicize this.

I guess you didn't read the article? The mom had nothing to do with posting it to Facebook and sharing it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A normal parent would have whispered in the kid’s ear to settle down, quickly use the restroom, and then leave the store. When kids act up, you take them home. You don’t cause a scene. You lecture the child privately. You never reward bad behavior; you just go home.

WTH is wrong with people? This is why we have such poorly behaved kids and adults: bad parenting.

How about you parent your kids in a way that's effective for YOUR kids. I'll parent mine in a way that's effective for them.

DP. I do get that different kids need different things, and that parenting styles are really not that important, but is there ANY research that suggests pushups in a public place is an effective discipline technique? Or anything similar to pushups in a public place? Particularly a place that might be a little humiliating like a bathroom floor?

My mom used to make me clean our bathrooms as a disciplinary technique. Quelle Horreur. How humiliating.

Are you seriously suggesting it's basically the same thing?

You clearly want to argue about it, but honestly, don't you think the parent knows what's best for her child? She took him into the bathroom because it was more private. MYOB.

No I do not always think parents know what's best for their kids. I think parents often just assume parenting is intuitive, but it's really not. Kids will do better when parents search out skills and attitudes toward parenting that are backed by research. But this very well could have been what was best! I don't know.

DP.. indeed.. you don't know... so myob as the ^PP stated.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Were there other people in the bathroom at the time? If not, then I don't think that was inappropriate punishment. He cal wash his hands afterwards. She didn't make him do the pushups in the aisle of the store. Now that would be inappropriate.

What the heck is wrong with punishing your child for misbehaving. IMO, more kids need to be punished for misbehaving, not just ignore their bad behavior.

Another woman came in and snapped that photo and she let her do it and post it on facebook and spoke to the media. So it's totally inappropriate.

That part was inappropriate, but not the punishment per se.

[Anonymous]

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/860529.page

Here's another thread on it.
I'm the poster who thought it was completely messed up especially given the mom's comments in the article. Glad there's others who see the issue too.

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Anonymous wrote:A normal parent would have whispered in the kid’s ear to settle down, quickly use the restroom, and then leave the store. When kids act up, you take them home. You don’t cause a scene. You lecture the child privately. You never reward bad behavior; you just go home.

WTH is wrong with people? This is why we have such poorly behaved kids and adults: bad parenting.

How about you parent your kids in a way that's effective for YOUR kids. I'll parent mine in a way that's effective for them.

DP. I do get that different kids need different things, and that parenting styles are really not that important, but is there ANY research that suggests pushups in a public place is an effective discipline technique? Or anything similar to pushups in a public place? Particularly a place that might be a little humiliating like a bathroom floor?

My mom used to make me clean our bathrooms as a disciplinary technique. Quelle Horreur. How humiliating.

Are you seriously suggesting it's basically the same thing?

You clearly want to argue about it, but honestly, don't you think the parent knows what's best for her child? She took him into the bathroom because it was more private. MYOB.

AND THEN SHE LET SOMEONE PHOTOGRAPH IT and post all over Facebook, and talked to CNN about it.

Private my a$$. She gave up the right to have people Mind their own business when she went out of the way to publicize this.

I guess you didn't read the article? The mom had nothing to do with posting it to Facebook and sharing it.

She did nothing about letting the other woman photograph it and post it.

[Anonymous]

And then she went and blabbed all over the media about it. She's clearly proud to have this everywhere and wants the attention.

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Anonymous wrote:A normal parent would have whispered in the kid’s ear to settle down, quickly use the restroom, and then leave the store. When kids act up, you take them home. You don’t cause a scene. You lecture the child privately. You never reward bad behavior; you just go home.

WTH is wrong with people? This is why we have such poorly behaved kids and adults: bad parenting.

How about you parent your kids in a way that's effective for YOUR kids. I'll parent mine in a way that's effective for them.

DP. I do get that different kids need different things, and that parenting styles are really not that important, but is there ANY research that suggests pushups in a public place is an effective discipline technique? Or anything similar to pushups in a public place? Particularly a place that might be a little humiliating like a bathroom floor?

My mom used to make me clean our bathrooms as a disciplinary technique. Quelle Horreur. How humiliating.

Are you seriously suggesting it's basically the same thing?

You clearly want to argue about it, but honestly, don't you think the parent knows what's best for her child? She took him into the bathroom because it was more private. MYOB.

No I do not always think parents know what's best for their kids. I think parents often just assume parenting is intuitive, but it's really not. Kids will do better when parents search out skills and attitudes toward parenting that are backed by research. But this very well could have been what was best! I don't know.

DP.. indeed.. you don't know... so myob as the ^PP stated.

If you think everybody should mind their own business why are you even commenting on a thread about whether or not you would do x as punishment? I am not going to go to the woman and tell her "I don't know if this is a good parenting technique." The question was asked and I answered. So did PP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A normal parent would have whispered in the kid’s ear to settle down, quickly use the restroom, and then leave the store. When kids act up, you take them home. You don’t cause a scene. You lecture the child privately. You never reward bad behavior; you just go home.

WTH is wrong with people? This is why we have such poorly behaved kids and adults: bad parenting.

How about you parent your kids in a way that's effective for YOUR kids. I'll parent mine in a way that's effective for them.

DP. I do get that different kids need different things, and that parenting styles are really not that important, but is there ANY research that suggests pushups in a public place is an effective discipline technique? Or anything similar to pushups in a public place? Particularly a place that might be a little humiliating like a bathroom floor?

My mom used to make me clean our bathrooms as a disciplinary technique. Quelle Horreur. How humiliating.

Are you seriously suggesting it's basically the same thing?

You clearly want to argue about it, but honestly, don't you think the parent knows what's best for her child? She took him into the bathroom because it was more private. MYOB.

AND THEN SHE LET SOMEONE PHOTOGRAPH IT and post all over Facebook, and talked to CNN about it.

Private my a$$. She gave up the right to have people Mind their own business when she went out of the way to publicize this.

I guess you didn't read the article? The mom had nothing to do with posting it to Facebook and sharing it.

She did nothing about letting the other woman photograph it and post it.

It's a picture of her back. You think she was cognizant of someone taking a picture of her back and cognizant of that person sharing the photo on social media? She could've very well had no idea that's what the woman was doing.

[Anonymous]

You think the people of Wal-mart "let" people take pictures of them and post them on social media?