Helping to teach portion control

[Anonymous]

I tend to overeat when I’m ashamed about eating. Annoying but common. Even if you haven’t said anything about her weight or how much she eats, she could have picked up on things that have lead to body insecurity from friends or classmates. My daughter did.

[Anonymous]

The only suggestions I have are

You can only have 1 cup of sugary drink because it’s bad for your teeth.

Bread is like ice cream you only get 2 scoops or Only offer 2 slices of bread.

You should only have 1 slice of cake ... even if they offer 2 ... it’s etiquette.

Girls gain weight right before puberty so your obsession with her weight probably comes from your own insecurities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Read Your child's weight - helping without harming by Ellyn Satter. It will help you with tools to help your daughter learn how to listen to her body's cues without you controlling her diet (which as you said, will truly only cause harm in the end). h

ttps://www.amazon.com/Your-Childs-Weight-Helping-Without/dp/0967118913/ref=sr_1_3?crid=3QD0LQQ53JJLZ&keywords=your+childs+weight+helping+without+harming&qid=1582656605&sprefix=your+childs+weight+hel%2Caps%2C208&sr=8-3

But I always caution people to be very careful about a child seeing the book because the title makes it something that could make a child feel a lot of shame if they found their parent reading. I would just get it on kindle to make sure it's not lying around the house. The book actually ISN'T about weight, but the title would make a child think that.

I'm annoyingly flagging my own comment again here - please read this op. Those posting here are not RDs, they are not trained in nutrition or how to actually develop a healthy relationship with food and be able to listen to your body.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Read Your child's weight - helping without harming by Ellyn Satter. It will help you with tools to help your daughter learn how to listen to her body's cues without you controlling her diet (which as you said, will truly only cause harm in the end). h

ttps://www.amazon.com/Your-Childs-Weight-Helping-Without/dp/0967118913/ref=sr_1_3?crid=3QD0LQQ53JJLZ&keywords=your+childs+weight+helping+without+harming&qid=1582656605&sprefix=your+childs+weight+hel%2Caps%2C208&sr=8-3

But I always caution people to be very careful about a child seeing the book because the title makes it something that could make a child feel a lot of shame if they found their parent reading. I would just get it on kindle to make sure it's not lying around the house. The book actually ISN'T about weight, but the title would make a child think that.

I'm annoyingly flagging my own comment again here - please read this op. Those posting here are not RDs, they are not trained in nutrition or how to actually develop a healthy relationship with food and be able to listen to your body.

I’ll flag this also!! What people are describing is the opposite of intuitive eating. By putting out limited portions of food and telling her there isn’t more, she isn’t learning how to listen to her own hunger cues. You don’t want to have a quick fix here, you want her to learn healthy eating habits that will last her a lifetime.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Read Your child's weight - helping without harming by Ellyn Satter. It will help you with tools to help your daughter learn how to listen to her body's cues without you controlling her diet (which as you said, will truly only cause harm in the end). h

ttps://www.amazon.com/Your-Childs-Weight-Helping-Without/dp/0967118913/ref=sr_1_3?crid=3QD0LQQ53JJLZ&keywords=your+childs+weight+helping+without+harming&qid=1582656605&sprefix=your+childs+weight+hel%2Caps%2C208&sr=8-3

But I always caution people to be very careful about a child seeing the book because the title makes it something that could make a child feel a lot of shame if they found their parent reading. I would just get it on kindle to make sure it's not lying around the house. The book actually ISN'T about weight, but the title would make a child think that.

I'm annoyingly flagging my own comment again here - please read this op. Those posting here are not RDs, they are not trained in nutrition or how to actually develop a healthy relationship with food and be able to listen to your body.

I’ll flag this also!! What people are describing is the opposite of intuitive eating. By putting out limited portions of food and telling her there isn’t more, she isn’t learning how to listen to her own hunger cues. You don’t want to have a quick fix here, you want her to learn healthy eating habits that will last her a lifetime.

yes yes yes thank you! Mom has the right idea here and wants to help her learn these skills and I feel like (very well intentioned) commenters are going to throw her on a path that will not end how she hopes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I applaud you for not saying anything about it and modeling healthy behavior. Have you read intuitive eating? There is a section in there about kids. Also keep in mind that she’s ten and it’s very possible she will grow in weight before her height matches it.

Whatever you do don’t restrict food. I’m not saying you were going to but that will just make it worse.

But you can restrict food by choosing what to bring into your house from the supermarket.

I buy ice cream occasionally. But when the kids take too big of a portion, I don't buy it for a while.
I may buy ice pops or ice cream bars that have a set portion.
Same with chips.

[Anonymous]

many 10 year old girls are right in the middle of their biggest growth spurts. 10 year old girls can put away a LOT of food. For about a year, my dd ate more than my husband.

Everything sounded normal to me except asking for a third piece of cake.

[Anonymous]

Normal to have an uptick in weight just before puberty when they get taller and lose it all again. Wait.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Read Your child's weight - helping without harming by Ellyn Satter. It will help you with tools to help your daughter learn how to listen to her body's cues without you controlling her diet (which as you said, will truly only cause harm in the end). h

ttps://www.amazon.com/Your-Childs-Weight-Helping-Without/dp/0967118913/ref=sr_1_3?crid=3QD0LQQ53JJLZ&keywords=your+childs+weight+helping+without+harming&qid=1582656605&sprefix=your+childs+weight+hel%2Caps%2C208&sr=8-3

But I always caution people to be very careful about a child seeing the book because the title makes it something that could make a child feel a lot of shame if they found their parent reading. I would just get it on kindle to make sure it's not lying around the house. The book actually ISN'T about weight, but the title would make a child think that.

I'm annoyingly flagging my own comment again here - please read this op. Those posting here are not RDs, they are not trained in nutrition or how to actually develop a healthy relationship with food and be able to listen to your body.

I’ll flag this also!! What people are describing is the opposite of intuitive eating. By putting out limited portions of food and telling her there isn’t more, she isn’t learning how to listen to her own hunger cues. You don’t want to have a quick fix here, you want her to learn healthy eating habits that will last her a lifetime.

She doesn't have hunger cues! OP is describing a child who wants to eat 2-3 slices of cake or a fifth slice of pizza. I have hosted 15 parties and have NEVER had a child ask me for a THIRD slice of cake/cupcake. That isn't hunger at 10 years old - it's gluttony.

There is nothing wrong with telling your children there is no more of whatever after everyone has had a serving, and if they are still hungry they can have more fruit or veggies. I hate it when people say this on this site...but...this is why Americans are fat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Read Your child's weight - helping without harming by Ellyn Satter. It will help you with tools to help your daughter learn how to listen to her body's cues without you controlling her diet (which as you said, will truly only cause harm in the end). h

ttps://www.amazon.com/Your-Childs-Weight-Helping-Without/dp/0967118913/ref=sr_1_3?crid=3QD0LQQ53JJLZ&keywords=your+childs+weight+helping+without+harming&qid=1582656605&sprefix=your+childs+weight+hel%2Caps%2C208&sr=8-3

But I always caution people to be very careful about a child seeing the book because the title makes it something that could make a child feel a lot of shame if they found their parent reading. I would just get it on kindle to make sure it's not lying around the house. The book actually ISN'T about weight, but the title would make a child think that.

I'm annoyingly flagging my own comment again here - please read this op. Those posting here are not RDs, they are not trained in nutrition or how to actually develop a healthy relationship with food and be able to listen to your body.

I’ll flag this also!! What people are describing is the opposite of intuitive eating. By putting out limited portions of food and telling her there isn’t more, she isn’t learning how to listen to her own hunger cues. You don’t want to have a quick fix here, you want her to learn healthy eating habits that will last her a lifetime.

She doesn't have hunger cues! OP is describing a child who wants to eat 2-3 slices of cake or a fifth slice of pizza. I have hosted 15 parties and have NEVER had a child ask me for a THIRD slice of cake/cupcake. That isn't hunger at 10 years old - it's gluttony.

There is nothing wrong with telling your children there is no more of whatever after everyone has had a serving, and if they are still hungry they can have more fruit or veggies. I hate it when people say this on this site...but...this is why Americans are fat.

That is not the way your child gets her hunger cues back.

[Anonymous]

My tweens have huge appetites and are athletic. I let them eat but try to leave higher protein foods around so if they eat a lot it’s more protein and veggies. Last night we had taco salads for dinner and I didn’t put out any shells or chips of any kind. They ate a lot of lean meat and veggies. But they could easily eat 4 pancakes and I wouldn’t think a thing of it. That is not a lot at this age.

[Anonymous]

^before you jump on this, I’m not trying to make my kids eat low carb. They eat plenty of bread and other foods so I try to balance it out with dinners like this every now and then.

[Anonymous]

1,000 calories per day no more no matter what is what my mom taught me. If you eat it all at breakfast you will regret it at 5 pm. I’m 37 never gone over . Guilt of upsetting my mother and letting her down is enough to make me not eat even when starving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1,000 calories per day no more no matter what is what my mom taught me. If you eat it all at breakfast you will regret it at 5 pm. I’m 37 never gone over . Guilt of upsetting my mother and letting her down is enough to make me not eat even when starving.

Okay so this is kind of what I’m trying to avoid (not OP)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Read Your child's weight - helping without harming by Ellyn Satter. It will help you with tools to help your daughter learn how to listen to her body's cues without you controlling her diet (which as you said, will truly only cause harm in the end). h

ttps://www.amazon.com/Your-Childs-Weight-Helping-Without/dp/0967118913/ref=sr_1_3?crid=3QD0LQQ53JJLZ&keywords=your+childs+weight+helping+without+harming&qid=1582656605&sprefix=your+childs+weight+hel%2Caps%2C208&sr=8-3

But I always caution people to be very careful about a child seeing the book because the title makes it something that could make a child feel a lot of shame if they found their parent reading. I would just get it on kindle to make sure it's not lying around the house. The book actually ISN'T about weight, but the title would make a child think that.

I'm annoyingly flagging my own comment again here - please read this op. Those posting here are not RDs, they are not trained in nutrition or how to actually develop a healthy relationship with food and be able to listen to your body.

I’ll flag this also!! What people are describing is the opposite of intuitive eating. By putting out limited portions of food and telling her there isn’t more, she isn’t learning how to listen to her own hunger cues. You don’t want to have a quick fix here, you want her to learn healthy eating habits that will last her a lifetime.

She doesn't have hunger cues! OP is describing a child who wants to eat 2-3 slices of cake or a fifth slice of pizza. I have hosted 15 parties and have NEVER had a child ask me for a THIRD slice of cake/cupcake. That isn't hunger at 10 years old - it's gluttony.

There is nothing wrong with telling your children there is no more of whatever after everyone has had a serving, and if they are still hungry they can have more fruit or veggies. I hate it when people say this on this site...but...this is why Americans are fat.

That is not the way your child gets her hunger cues back.

Again - this is why your kids are fat. It is FINE to tell your child they cannot have a third slice or cake or fifth slice of pizza. And that there are plenty of items on the fruit or veggie tray the host provided. If they turn those down...they aren't really hungry, just being greedy (which is fine on occasion).