Would you let them watch your kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is your exact worry OP?

I’d definitely let them babysit.

Have you asked your SIL about these rumors? There may be a misunderstanding here.

This. Why not ask her? I’m guessing it was more of a pondering “I read that speech delays could be a result of autism,” or something like that. It’s hard to envision her saying, “the mom told me he has autism.”

+1. She may actually be worried and sort of socially awkward and she's trying to get the message back to you that she thinks your kid might need testing. She might be completely wrong and know nothing about autism, but given that your kid does seemingly have some delays that could hypothetically be associated with autism, I wouldn't assume that she's being malicious. She's your SIL. If this is affecting you so much that you won't take up her offer of free babysitting, it is worth confronting head-on. Don't let this fester. Also, if your kid isn't autistic or anything close to it, an afternoon of babysitting might just end this once and for all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is your exact worry OP?

I’d definitely let them babysit.

Have you asked your SIL about these rumors? There may be a misunderstanding here.

This. Why not ask her? I’m guessing it was more of a pondering “I read that speech delays could be a result of autism,” or something like that. It’s hard to envision her saying, “the mom told me he has autism.”

+1. She may actually be worried and sort of socially awkward and she's trying to get the message back to you that she thinks your kid might need testing. She might be completely wrong and know nothing about autism, but given that your kid does seemingly have some delays that could hypothetically be associated with autism, I wouldn't assume that she's being malicious. She's your SIL. If this is affecting you so much that you won't take up her offer of free babysitting, it is worth confronting head-on. Don't let this fester. Also, if your kid isn't autistic or anything close to it, an afternoon of babysitting might just end this once and for all.

+1. You're getting this information second hand at best. People do all sorts of weird stuff with passing on rumors.

[Anonymous]

Omg stop being cheap and hire a babysitter. You are so concerned about college for your 2 and 5 year olds to the point you can’t have date nights? Lighten up.

[Anonymous]

Can't you find a teenager in your neighborhood? As a parent of two children who had speech delays, I would not place my children in the care of anyone who has displayed a hint of speaking of them negatively.

There were definitely a few when my kids were younger (they're teens now), and I kindly said no. Some of them were relatives of mine.

You only get one chance to parent. You only get one chance to place your children around nice, kind people when they are not at school. Choose wisely. If you know this person does not have your child's best interests at heart, move on. Your job is to protect your child from these people. Do it.

[Anonymous]

Nope, I wouldn’t do it. Someone I don’t particularly like or trust watching my child? No.