Nanny or Daycare?

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Anonymous wrote:Keep looking for a nanny. Part time nannies are available if you present workable hours (like mornings only so the nanny can pick up another family’s kids from school).

Students are another option if you have a university nearby. There are always students who deliberately stack their class schedule so that they can have a job. The risk is that they are less reliable, but if you have your MIL as backup that could help.

Otherwise, I agree with the PPs that it’s difficult to find a professional nanny part time.

Students are a great option if you want someone on their phone the whole time, who doesn’t clean and doesn’t cook.

Please. This is not age specific.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Keep looking for a nanny. Part time nannies are available if you present workable hours (like mornings only so the nanny can pick up another family’s kids from school).

Students are another option if you have a university nearby. There are always students who deliberately stack their class schedule so that they can have a job. The risk is that they are less reliable, but if you have your MIL as backup that could help.

Otherwise, I agree with the PPs that it’s difficult to find a professional nanny part time.

Students are a great option if you want someone on their phone the whole time, who doesn’t clean and doesn’t cook.

Unless you are paying your nanny to cook and clean they won’t do these either.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you want a nanny for part time you will have to pay enough to make it worth their while. Most nannies work full time.

OP here. My Hsiang and I do not want to pay a full-time salary for a part-time nanny.

Then... I guess you are going to have to do daycare.

Daycare is fine.

[Anonymous]

Chances of getting a good nanny part-time is going to be hard. However a good daycare for an infant isn’t cheap either.

[Anonymous]

OP here. We are not interested in a nanny share. We don’t want students as most are looking to leave after their semester is over. That defeats the purpose of having a nanny. We need full days. The daycare we are looking into has 2,3, or 5 days. Rates are $1,500, $1,700, and $2,000 a month. Most nannies quoted us $18-20 ( we are not in DC), but we have been having a hard time finding a nanny willing to do taxes.

[Anonymous]

OP raise your pay scale to $25-30 and see what you get. Also part time day care might be the perfect answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We are not interested in a nanny share. We don’t want students as most are looking to leave after their semester is over. That defeats the purpose of having a nanny. We need full days. The daycare we are looking into has 2,3, or 5 days. Rates are $1,500, $1,700, and $2,000 a month. Most nannies quoted us $18-20 ( we are not in DC), but we have been having a hard time finding a nanny willing to do taxes.

OP here. I will be going back 2 days a week and then 3 days between 6-9 months, and then 5 days at a year. I might even stick to just part-time - we are trying to get pregnant by the 1 year mark.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP raise your pay scale to $25-30 and see what you get. Also part time day care might be the perfect answer.

OP here. My husband doesn’t want to pay full-time salary to a part-time nanny. We also don’t expect much of the nanny besides care for our son and cleaning up after the day. We will still do his laundry, bottles go in the dishwasher for us to run at night, and I will be making homemade baby food once he starts solids. He’s also a very easy baby. He’s already sleep trained and on a schedule.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. We are not interested in a nanny share. We don’t want students as most are looking to leave after their semester is over. That defeats the purpose of having a nanny. We need full days. The daycare we are looking into has 2,3, or 5 days. Rates are $1,500, $1,700, and $2,000 a month. Most nannies quoted us $18-20 ( we are not in DC), but we have been having a hard time finding a nanny willing to do taxes.

OP here. I will be going back 2 days a week and then 3 days between 6-9 months, and then 5 days at a year. I might even stick to just part-time - we are trying to get pregnant by the 1 year mark.

You might have to do daycare, OP, unless you just get extremely lucky and find a great nanny who works the other two days for another family. Daycare is adequate especially since you can easily stay home for all the sick days in the first year.

[Anonymous]

Do you know the two days? (Monday & Wednesday, for example).

But look, the truth is you’re going to have to get extremely lucky (like win-the-lottery-lucky) to find any nanny who can work two and then three days a week.

But keep putting it out there while signing up for daycare. See what happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you know the two days? (Monday & Wednesday, for example).

But look, the truth is you’re going to have to get extremely lucky (like win-the-lottery-lucky) to find any nanny who can work two and then three days a week.

But keep putting it out there while signing up for daycare. See what happens.

OP here. The nanny will be consistent each week.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry, OP, I don’t think you have any option other than daycare.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP raise your pay scale to $25-30 and see what you get. Also part time day care might be the perfect answer.

OP here. My husband doesn’t want to pay full-time salary to a part-time nanny. We also don’t expect much of the nanny besides care for our son and cleaning up after the day. We will still do his laundry, bottles go in the dishwasher for us to run at night, and I will be making homemade baby food once he starts solids. He’s also a very easy baby. He’s already sleep trained and on a schedule.

Sounds like you will have to do daycare. Plus it doesn’t matter if your baby is easy or fussy, salary shouldn’t be dependent on that. Not only would the nanny have to be there regardless, but babies go through phases and go from easy to difficult dependent on age. It doesn’t sound like you can afford a nanny (not a knock on you- I can’t either), so take the daycare spot before they move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP raise your pay scale to $25-30 and see what you get. Also part time day care might be the perfect answer.

OP here. My husband doesn’t want to pay full-time salary to a part-time nanny. We also don’t expect much of the nanny besides care for our son and cleaning up after the day. We will still do his laundry, bottles go in the dishwasher for us to run at night, and I will be making homemade baby food once he starts solids. He’s also a very easy baby. He’s already sleep trained and on a schedule.

Sounds like you will have to do daycare. Plus it doesn’t matter if your baby is easy or fussy, salary shouldn’t be dependent on that. Not only would the nanny have to be there regardless, but babies go through phases and go from easy to difficult dependent on age. It doesn’t sound like you can afford a nanny (not a knock on you- I can’t either), so take the daycare spot before they move on.

OP here. I know babies go through phases and salary is not dependent on that. We can afford a nanny. We have a HHI of $300k. We just don't want to pay a nanny $50k a year when they will be working less than 20 hours a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP raise your pay scale to $25-30 and see what you get. Also part time day care might be the perfect answer.

OP here. My husband doesn’t want to pay full-time salary to a part-time nanny. We also don’t expect much of the nanny besides care for our son and cleaning up after the day. We will still do his laundry, bottles go in the dishwasher for us to run at night, and I will be making homemade baby food once he starts solids. He’s also a very easy baby. He’s already sleep trained and on a schedule.

Sounds like you will have to do daycare. Plus it doesn’t matter if your baby is easy or fussy, salary shouldn’t be dependent on that. Not only would the nanny have to be there regardless, but babies go through phases and go from easy to difficult dependent on age. It doesn’t sound like you can afford a nanny (not a knock on you- I can’t either), so take the daycare spot before they move on.

OP here. I know babies go through phases and salary is not dependent on that. We can afford a nanny. We have a HHI of $300k. We just don't want to pay a nanny $50k a year when they will be working less than 20 hours a week.

We get it, OP. Unless you find a nanny who is able to work two days a week, you have no option but daycare.

I don’t know what you want us to say. You’ll have to find a nanny who is already work the other two days a week (and not need the third day salary until you’re ready) or a nanny who can afford, like you, to work part time. It just isn’t likely.

So you do daycare. And feel fortunate you found one that offers two and three days a week.