Going away w/ DH when no family to help
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Anonymous
The nanny has kids of her own. The answer is no. |
Anonymous
| Who cares if your friends are going on 10th anniversary trips and you can’t because of the ages of your children? You can go on a great trip for a different anniversary and some day you will no longer have kids in the house. Think long game and grow up. |
Anonymous
| Too late now OP. I couldn't get away for good 15 years or so. Get comfy. |
Anonymous
Does the nanny have a spouse? Maybe her spouse could take care of her kids for a weekend. It's not rocket science. |
Anonymous
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The solution is to get a new nanny who can do weekends and overnights... |
Anonymous
Why is this the nanny’s problem to solve? OP needs to change her expectations. |
Anonymous
Agree. |
Anonymous
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Contact an agency. You want to list a permanent, intermittent position: 2 dates nights per month (guaranteed pay), one overnight per quarter (guaranteed pay). If you cancel, you’re still on the hook, so you’re more likely to still go.
It’s not that hard to fill, OP. Especially if the overnight is Saturday vs Friday, so would be less likely to interfere with a weekday position. |
Anonymous
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We have a nanny and family and we still didn’t go away for our 10y anniversary because we had a 1yo plus 2 other kids.
I went away with my best friend alone. DH had a conference that I joined for 1 night. We paid our nanny to spend the night. If you pay generously enough, your nanny may stay a night or 2. She probably has a husband and family to watch her kids. We paid our nanny $1000 for 48 hours of care. She looked beat when we got home. |
Anonymous
| I would see if it's a possibility to have your child go stay at your nanny's house with her family. |
Anonymous
| Same situation, and no, we don’t go away. |
Anonymous
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Do a combo of the Nanny and the weekend sitter.
Can the Nanny bring her kids to your house? I would ask the Nanny if she could do the overnights maybe and have sitter do the daytimes. |
Anonymous
Yep. We've taken nice trips with the kids and now that they are older, we get two hotel rooms. I know people who fly their mothers into stay with the kids while they go on vacation but that wasn't an option for us. My mom is dead and dh's isn't nice. |
Anonymous
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My oldest is 10 and I would say most families we know do not go away without the kids. It is not as common as you may think.
I get away solo a few times per year with friends. |
Anonymous
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Plan a family trip, but somewhere with childcare. When I was a kid, we’d go to a nice resort and they had this awesome children’s play club, which I’d go to during the day while my parents lounged by the pool, napped, etc.
Kids will be worn out from all the playtime and sunshine, and you guys will get a few hours of much needed adult alone time. |