Anyone go from being FWB to a real relationship?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If so, how did that work?

No. The guy says whatever you want so he can keep getting laid. Next thing you know you’ve lost a few years of your life and your biological clock has been ticking away. Just get out. You’re worth more than this.

I’m the OP. We’re in our 50s so no bio clock ticking! He lives out of state. We have a business relationship and are pretty enmeshed in each other’s lives, so I can’t cut him out of my life entirely. But I may need to stop sleeping with him. I’m dating others to keep myself distracted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If so, how did that work?

No. The guy says whatever you want so he can keep getting laid. Next thing you know you’ve lost a few years of your life and your biological clock has been ticking away. Just get out. You’re worth more than this.

I’m the OP. We’re in our 50s so no bio clock ticking! He lives out of state. We have a business relationship and are pretty enmeshed in each other’s lives, so I can’t cut him out of my life entirely. But I may need to stop sleeping with him. I’m dating others to keep myself distracted.

When you say no to sex is it going to affect the business relationship? I posted earlier and think you absolutely need to stop being his FWB, by the way. But sleeping with someone with whom you have a business relationship creates a lot of potential problems when the sex ends yet he still has business connections to your livelihood. Any chance he might decide to make you pay--maybe literally--for ending the sex? If so: That's NOT a reason to keep being FWB because you deserve better. But think through how you want to approach ending it, if you think he'd be petty enough to let it affect the business relationship.

[Anonymous]

I think this will help you OP: r/FemaleDatingStrategy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If so, how did that work?

No. The guy says whatever you want so he can keep getting laid. Next thing you know you’ve lost a few years of your life and your biological clock has been ticking away. Just get out. You’re worth more than this.

I’m the OP. We’re in our 50s so no bio clock ticking! He lives out of state. We have a business relationship and are pretty enmeshed in each other’s lives, so I can’t cut him out of my life entirely. But I may need to stop sleeping with him. I’m dating others to keep myself distracted.

When you say no to sex is it going to affect the business relationship? I posted earlier and think you absolutely need to stop being his FWB, by the way. But sleeping with someone with whom you have a business relationship creates a lot of potential problems when the sex ends yet he still has business connections to your livelihood. Any chance he might decide to make you pay--maybe literally--for ending the sex? If so: That's NOT a reason to keep being FWB because you deserve better. But think through how you want to approach ending it, if you think he'd be petty enough to let it affect the business relationship.

I appreciate your advice. To clarify, I have a career that’s not related at all to him. We have started a side business that’s related to a hobby. I’m also helping him with his own business a little. If either of those go away, nothing happens to my livelihood. In fact, he needs me and my connections more than I need him.

[Anonymous]

I did. We just sort of fell into one. We both have super busy careers and a relationship was not something either of us were looking for but we had needs. I would say the first 6 months was just sex. We started going to the movies and trying out new restaurants. It was a year before we used any type of labels on our relationship. He asked me to be his date at a wedding and after that we decided to be in a relationship and be exclusive. We have been together 2 years now. I am happy with the status quo and don't see it changing anytime soon.