Anyone go from being FWB to a real relationship?

[Anonymous]

If so, how did that work?

[Anonymous]

Cut it off, OP. Find someone who says they like you and want to date you, whether they’ve slept with you or not. S/he doesn’t want to be your SO if they aren’t already. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

I asked if he wanted to be more than FWB and he flat out said no, so I stopped seeing him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I asked if he wanted to be more than FWB and he flat out said no, so I stopped seeing him.

Well to clarify, I slept one or two more time with him and then ghosted him. I don’t think it bothered him.

[Anonymous]

No. It lasted almost 2 years and would probably last even longer if I wanted to continue.
It can really mess up your emotions. Once you have a man who is totally into you, you realize how little your FWB actually liked you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cut it off, OP. Find someone who says they like you and want to date you, whether they’ve slept with you or not. S/he doesn’t want to be your SO if they aren’t already. Sorry.

Listen to the post above.

OP, please don't waste time and energy and hope on somehow convincing the FWB that the sex can become a love that includes, but is greater than, sex. You will wake up one day and realize you've spent precious time on nothing, or you've been told "yes, it's love" when that was only a way to keep the sex going. PP is right: Find someone who wants to date a whole person, not only a potential sex partner.

You'll see posts here probably Dem people swearing their FWB turned into the committed love of their lives, and maybe it happened. But the fact you're even posting here indicates you probably know your FWB is...resistant to a change. Listen to your gut and invest your time and emotions elsewhere unless you're willing to be OK with just sex but not love or commitment.

[Anonymous]

"You'll see posts here probably FROM people," not "Dem" people. Sorry

[Anonymous]

Friend with benefits? Isn't this just another term for repeated one-night stands with the same person?

[Anonymous]

Bad idea turning terrible idea...

[Anonymous]

I did. Friends to FWB to real relationship. Then FWB then friends. We scaled up and all the way back down without managing to cold knife or hate the other person.

[Anonymous]

PP here. Don’t push it OP. I think you’ve posted before. Leave thus mess behind in 2019. Don’t carry it into the new year next week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP here. Don’t push it OP. I think you’ve posted before. Leave thus mess behind in 2019. Don’t carry it into the new year next week.

IDK if I'm the one you are thinking of but I'm not the OP. I HAVE left it behind though. Very sad. Supposedly takes 3 weeks to break a habit. Got about 10 more days to go. It wasn't like this 25 years ago. Felt like Bait and Switch. I've come to realize, if you think you are only FWB, You really are ONLY FWB. Thank you for advice and encouragement.

[Anonymous]

Married 5 years. I had just ended a 7-year relationship and he was a friend who happened to be in the right place at the right time. For 6 months we insisted we couldn’t date, then tried to break it off and realized we wanted to be together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If so, how did that work?

No. The guy says whatever you want so he can keep getting laid. Next thing you know you’ve lost a few years of your life and your biological clock has been ticking away. Just get out. You’re worth more than this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP here. Don’t push it OP. I think you’ve posted before. Leave thus mess behind in 2019. Don’t carry it into the new year next week.

IDK if I'm the one you are thinking of but I'm not the OP. I HAVE left it behind though. Very sad. Supposedly takes 3 weeks to break a habit. Got about 10 more days to go. It wasn't like this 25 years ago. Felt like Bait and Switch. I've come to realize, if you think you are only FWB, You really are ONLY FWB. Thank you for advice and encouragement.

Good! Keep that energy clear. You’re making way for something beautiful. But it won’t come if old fwb is tap dancing in the background. You live and you learn when you don’t repeat the same mistakes, and you don’t cry over how bad they were. Just keep moving forward. Buy a sex toy. Treat yo self.