Awkward situation with nanny

[Anonymous]

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Are you sure you want this person looking after your kids? No nanny I know would be confused or pretend to be confused about this.

No MB I know would seek restitution from her nanny for a $60 error in her favor.

OMG, are you serious? You can afford a nanny and you can't afford to cover a $60 mistake which YOU MADE? OP made the mistake. She should not have asked for that money back. It's the holiday season. The nanny could have thought you were giving her something extra for thanksgiving.

Oh sorry PP, I thought you were saying your would seek restitution for the $60. I misread.

No problem; team nanny all the way!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you give her any written record of the payment when you pay her with cash (and do you retain a written record for yourself)? If not, I would just give her the additional $60 dollars because while you think you overpaid, she apparently does not think so, and you have no written confirmation.

+1 is it possible you didn’t even give her the $60 and it was otherwise misplaced? Just because the $60 was missing doesn’t necessarily mean you gave it to her. Give her the $60, apologize (yes, really) for the confusion and move on.

See last sentence of 2nd paragraph. -- NP

I think the confusion stems from OP misunderstanding nanny’s “acknowledgement.” (Oh, yeah, right, sure ....ok! Bus to catch.)

[Anonymous]

I've done this before and just let it go.

[Anonymous]

Give her the full amount from the most recent overtime, let her keep the extra $60, and be more careful next time.

[Anonymous]

Consider the $60 a tip.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, never nickel and dime the person who takes care of your child(ren). It is only $60 and it was your mistake.

[Anonymous]

Let it go. Stuff happens. I overpaid my son's tutor a couple of weeks ago - thought he was staying for extra time but it turns out he didn't. It was also a $60 mistake. The tutor is amazing, goes above and beyond all the time, and works really well with my kid. No way I'd quibble with him over a mistaken one-time overpayment. That goes double for a nanny, especially if English isn't her first language and she might have misunderstood your original explanation.

[Anonymous]

Oh yeah, and OT should be on the books OP.

[Anonymous]

I think it's totally reasonable that you pay her cash under the table with no records and no taxes or benefits but expect her to cover your mistake just like she was a legitimate employee.

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I understand you Op. I would have done the same, but the way the nanny is handling things now, probably plan on her not showing up on Monday.

Again, I am with you. In hindsight I would have let her keep it and give her a Christmas bonus.

[Anonymous]

I would look for a new nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's totally reasonable that you pay her cash under the table with no records and no taxes or benefits but expect her to cover your mistake just like she was a legitimate employee.

+1 We are heading into the holidays and she was working overtime. I could easily imagine her thinking you were paying her time and a half, or just giving her a little bonus heading into Thanksgiving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Consider the $60 a tip.

Too late now. The OP already took the $60 out of the Nanny’s next paycheck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would look for a new nanny.

And the nanny might be looking for a new boss. One that is less cheap. Remember this is all about $60. What should be a drop in the bucket for the boss, but a lot of money for the nanny.

[Anonymous]

I find it interesting that she didn't mention the overpayment but did mention the underpayment.

We once paid our nanny with two checks for the same week, and she cashed both, but showed up in Monday with a wad of cash bc she realized it was dishonest to just take the money even though it was clearly our mistake.