Awkwardness, acne, adolecence

[Anonymous]

When my daughter started getting some mild acne, I told her about how much worse mine was when I was a teen and how a dermatologist was able to help me. When hers started getting worse, I gently asked, would you be interested in getting a doctor's advice about this, and she said yes!

[Anonymous]

We waited too long to start Accutane - it is a wonder drug.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do I get DD (14) to stop picking her acne? She already is seeing a dermatologist but the picking defeats any medicine or cleaning regime she has. Do take her to an aesthetician? Threaten to take away her phone?

Every time you catch her doing it, slap her hand away.

What have you already tried?

I tell her to stop and that I have scars still from when I did the same thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do I get DD (14) to stop picking her acne? She already is seeing a dermatologist but the picking defeats any medicine or cleaning regime she has. Do take her to an aesthetician? Threaten to take away her phone?

Could it be anxiety?

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Possibly. If so then what?

[Anonymous]

Can you help her find something else to do with her hands? A fidget, or textured bracelet...she has to have some interest though in not doing it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. I bought my daughter and I silk pillowcases.
2. I got her to be very good about washing her face each night.
3. I made sure she had friends from different walks of life.
4. I pointed out to her how awkwardly other girls her age stood (as if they've just discovered they have arms and don't know where to put them or what to do with them) so she didn't feel alone
5. I did fun things with her every few days (go for a walk, get Starbucks - nothing big) so she'd be able to get out without having to overthink how she looked or what she said.
6. I allowed her to try every face wash she wanted, and get any coverup she wanted.

What?? The answer is to make fun of other girls? You are a terrible example. This is where mean girl behavior starts - from the moms.

[Anonymous]

Be careful about taking antibiotics for acne. I know several
young people who got beautiful skin but also got
ulcerative colitis as a side effect of acne prescription meds.

[Anonymous]

Birth control clears up skin.

[Anonymous]

Mine was just born that way I dunno. My husband family is all blonde, attractive and athletic, so my dorky awkward genes managed to get overrode.

I was a dorky zitty socially awkward mess until around 16 and I knew my mother was disappointed by me, as she was a pretty popular teen in her day. Try not to let it show. And honestly try not to worry either bc I came around. It sounds like normal stuff nothing to worry about.

And yes my own child’s pretty blonde cheerleader type self at 12 is strange in its own way. She’s never had to struggle at anything (grades are great, makes the team, lead in the play) but I don’t think that’s healthy either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Birth control clears up skin.

No it doesn't, this is so not true. Especially if your child is dealing with some type of cystic acne. Please see a dermatologist and not your primary care.

[Anonymous]

Whatever you do, don't imply to your daughter that she is disgusting like my mother did. I had horrible acne from when I was 10 until I was 25 and nothing was ever truly effective. I used countless creams, went to multiple dermatologists, and even took oral medications before it finally cleared up on its own. I still remember her words from when I was in 7th grade: "You better start taking better care of your face. Nobody is going to want to sit next to you at lunch and have to look at that. It's hard to look at something disgusting while eating."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Birth control clears up skin.

does it, I was considering this for my D ?

[Anonymous]

DD went on BC to manage horrible periods and cramping. It cleared up her skin.

[Anonymous]

Acne has a HUGE genetic component. My DH apparently had it, as did his mom. My DD just went on an antibiotic for it and I’m hopeful that will help. Looking into the silk pillowcase thing now!

[Anonymous]

Dermatologist before it gets worse and she risks permanent scarring. My husband and SIL both had horrible acne - there is definitely a genetic factor to it. They both have permanent scarring and pitting.