Did you know you were done at a certain number of kids? Or was it more a financial decision?

[Anonymous]

I have two. I had preeclampsia and HELLP, which is how I decided I’m done. Some days I wonder what a third might have been like, but I’ve never doubted my decision to get a tubal. I’m just not willing to risk my health or life to have another.

[Anonymous]

Its not so much the money, but time. Can you really give 4 kids the 1-1 they need.

[Anonymous]

i think we only had 2 because of AMA, high risk pregnancies and fatigue.

I nursed both kids for 3 years each. I did not think I had anything left to give another child physically.

Finances too.

[Anonymous]

Stopped at 2 because I wanted more time (I found 1 hard enough) disposable income.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I knew I wanted none, and agreed to one. Then we adopted a second (family emergency). I told DH I didn't care what other "emergencies" came up, we were at max capacity and there would be no more.

It had nothing to do with money and everything to do with how little I like children or parenting them.

Jesus. How did anyone decide you’d make a good placement in an emergency. You sound like you hate kids

[Anonymous]

I have 3, and would love a 4th for many reasons, but I likely won’t go for it because of TIME. With every kid you add, it’s less time you have to spend one on one with each kid. It also is less time you’ll have with just your spouse and keeping that relationship strong. Also, it makes it harder to figure out timing for all the kids activities/play dates etc.

[Anonymous]

I knew I was done when I heard a random baby cry and it make me sick to my stomach and break out in a sweat.

[Anonymous]

Totally a financial decision. I have two and still really want a third but it’s not going to happen. HHI $175k (was $125k when we really were considering it; part of the higher income is being able to lean in at work, which wouldn’t have been as feasible with 3)

[Anonymous]

I'm 36 and pregnant with #2 and I am 99.9% sure we'll be done with 2 for emotional reasons. #1 was/is a tough, high needs kid, though, and I think that influences a lot. If #1 had been easier, we would have had #2 sooner, and if #2 was easy as well I could imagine myself wanting to go for a third.

I would wait and see what kind of kid #3 is before making a decision. It's very difficult to explain what it's like to have a tough kid until you have one -- I would not trade my wonderful child for anything in this whole world, and I absolutely love parenting him, but it is TOUGH work and it really takes a lot out of me. I'm honestly nervous about having enough energy even for a second kid much less a third.

[Anonymous]

Financial. HHI of $165. We can’t afford more than two. Knowing that fewer people on Earth is better for the environment helps. Knowing that my husband only wanted two helps, but I still want to meet those other two kids. I don’t talk about it, because I don’t want DH to feel pressured. Just can’t shake the feeling.

[Anonymous]

My husband was diagnosed with stage 3 cancer and went through full blown treatment (radiation, surgery, chemo) while I was pregnant with our second child and breastfeeding.

I am grateful that he is with us and has been doing well. However, at that time, I knew that our family was complete.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I knew I wanted none, and agreed to one. Then we adopted a second (family emergency). I told DH I didn't care what other "emergencies" came up, we were at max capacity and there would be no more.

It had nothing to do with money and everything to do with how little I like children or parenting them.

Jesus. How did anyone decide you’d make a good placement in an emergency. You sound like you hate kids

I basically do hate kids. I love mine, but ... certainly not the one volunteering for all the field trips at their school.

[Anonymous]

Wife decided after giving birth to three that she was done. Husband wanted more. Number Three was really, really cute and helped Husband make his case for one more spin of the wheel. Wife bought in; Number Four is adorable but yeah, we're done now.

[Anonymous]

Our plan was to stop after 2 but I unexpectedly got pregnant with #3 6mos pp after finally finding our groove of having 2 kids. My pregnancies were not bad but we are TIRED, #2 seems to have middle child syndrome already and I am learning how to deal with tons of emotions and tantrums (I did not go through this with #1), we don't get out the house as much and the impact it has had on our marriage has been significant.

The baby turned 1 last Friday and I immediately started purging baby stuff! I am DONE DONE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our plan was to stop after 2 but I unexpectedly got pregnant with #3 6mos pp after finally finding our groove of having 2 kids. My pregnancies were not bad but we are TIRED, #2 seems to have middle child syndrome already and I am learning how to deal with tons of emotions and tantrums (I did not go through this with #1), we don't get out the house as much and the impact it has had on our marriage has been significant.

The baby turned 1 last Friday and I immediately started purging baby stuff! I am DONE DONE.

Oh and another child would cause financial hardship. We both work so childcare is more than my mortgage smh