6yr old feels inferior to 3yr old sister.

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Anonymous wrote:Add some perks for the older child. Let him do things that his sister is not allowed to do. I know it is easier for you if they are both doing the same thing at the same time, but it isn't working for him.

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Divide and conquer with your spouse so you can let your older child do something the three year old just can't--or that the six year old just really really wants to do and it would be nice not to have to worry about a younger sibling. Like, a special movie outing, favorite restaurant, a museum of interest.

Consider even an overnight while the other parent does some fun things one on one with the three year old. Once I weaned by second child, I took my first child on an overnight trip to Lancaster, PA, and we had the best time.

Totally off topic but what did you guys do in Lancaster? I think I want to take our kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Nice excuse to brag about your apparently genius 3 year old.

Not bragging, she’s a handful and emotional not advanced at all. But that doesn’t matter to my 6yr old.

Dp. The thing that struck me about your post is how unfair you are to your daughter. You are comparing them and it isn't fair to expect your three year old to be as emotionally "advanced" as your six year old. No matter how smart and capable she is three, not six.

I fear that by building up your son your daughter will want to hide her specialness in order not to upset big brother. Please do not do this.

I understand you want to help your son but tearing down little sis is not the way to do it.

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Anonymous wrote:Nice excuse to brag about your apparently genius 3 year old.

Not bragging, she’s a handful and emotional not advanced at all. But that doesn’t matter to my 6yr old.

Dp. The thing that struck me about your post is how unfair you are to your daughter. You are comparing them and it isn't fair to expect your three year old to be as emotionally "advanced" as your six year old. No matter how smart and capable she is three, not six.

I fear that by building up your son your daughter will want to hide her specialness in order not to upset big brother. Please do not do this.

I understand you want to help your son but tearing down little sis is not the way to do it.

The sister is just a regular kid, it actually doesn't do her any favor to continually emphasize 'specialness'. I think OP wants the best for both kids (as parents tend to do).

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Anonymous wrote:Have another kid.

Yup this. Btw 6yo is on late end to teach your child to ride a bike. I taught mine just before 3yo.

Please. It's perfectly normal. But nice of you to insert your brag about your 2 yo riding a bike.

I disagree. With three kids, training wheels came off between age 5/6.

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Anonymous wrote:Nice excuse to brag about your apparently genius 3 year old.

Not bragging, she’s a handful and emotional not advanced at all. But that doesn’t matter to my 6yr old.

Dp. The thing that struck me about your post is how unfair you are to your daughter. You are comparing them and it isn't fair to expect your three year old to be as emotionally "advanced" as your six year old. No matter how smart and capable she is three, not six.

I fear that by building up your son your daughter will want to hide her specialness in order not to upset big brother. Please do not do this.

I understand you want to help your son but tearing down little sis is not the way to do it.

DP. The above PP is spot on.

OP, you have to be very careful about trying to hard to downplay the younger child's abilities so that your older child can feel better.

I have a friend who is more brilliant, more athletic, and prettier than her older sister(1.5 yrs older). Their mom did everything to make the younger one seem "lesser" than the older one. She would always side with the older one if they ever got into a fight, she will downplay the younger one's accomplishments etc.

The rest of world always assumed the younger was the older because she was "advanced" in every way.

As adults, both are successful, but the younger one is at the very top of her field. She has needed years of therapy, and she still resents her mother and her sister.

Let your older kid get used to the fact that people are different, and some people outshine others. It's not a bad lesson to learn. Teach him to manage the jelousy and find out what he is good at.

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my kids are the same age difference and my ods took pride in yds's accomplishments. But that dynamic was set up when ods was 4 and yds was 6 months old. I think there is a book called Siblings Without Rivalry - you should look at that. Maybe it will help. I don't know how you fix it when your ods is already 6, but I know you CAN fix it. You just real strategies.