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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Nice excuse to brag about your apparently genius 3 year old. [/quote]

Not bragging, she’s a handful and emotional not advanced at all. But that doesn’t matter to my 6yr old. [/quote]

Dp. The thing that struck me about your post is how unfair you are to your daughter.  You are comparing them and it isn't fair to expect your three year old to be as emotionally "advanced" as your six year old.  No matter how smart and capable she is three, not six.

I fear that by building up your son your daughter will want to hide her specialness in order not to upset big brother.  Please do not do this.

I understand you want to help your son but tearing down little sis is not the way to do it.[/quote]

DP.  The above  PP is spot on.

OP, you have to be very careful about trying to hard to downplay the younger child's abilities so that your older child can feel better.

I have a friend who is more brilliant, more athletic, and prettier than her older sister(1.5 yrs older). Their mom did everything to make the younger one seem "lesser" than the older one. She would always side with the older one if they ever got into a fight, she will downplay the younger one's accomplishments etc.

The rest of world always assumed the younger was the older because she was "advanced" in every way.

As adults, both are successful, but the younger one is at the very top of her field. She has needed years of therapy, and she still resents her mother and her sister.

Let your older kid get used to the fact that people are different, and some people outshine others. It's not a bad lesson to learn. Teach him to manage the jelousy and find out what he is good at.  [/quote]

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