Did I make a mistake in stopping to talk and not try with online crush?

[Anonymous]

He's not very successful if he's cheated even once. Seems like a failure at being an honest person.

[Anonymous]

This is an emotional relationship. You need to leave it as is. Did you expect him not to be intimate with someone for 5 + years when you don't even video call with him? I am sorry that you are hurt,but you also sound like you need to work on getting over your insecurities before being in a relationship. Get help then start fresh with someone close by. Don't move to be near someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's not very successful if he's cheated even once. Seems like a failure at being an honest person.

Since when is honesty required to be successful?

I know a number of very successful (money-wise) people who are men, and at least half of them cheat.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah you made a huge mistake OP his cheating was negligible but his money is tangible. Buy a plane ticket ASAP and go patch things up with him. Try and seduce him into letting you move in this is a once in a lifetime chance don’t let it slip thru your fingers.

I have actual feelings for him though. His cheating hurts the most. I am poor but intellect attracts me and he has it. I met him when he was making as much as I was. I don't know if he will take me back.

You have to be bold OP. You have to make that bold move to A) show him how deep your feelings are for him and B) show him you are willing to go above and beyond for him. Buy a plane ticket and go see him NOW. Taking things to that next step and graduating from simple online correspondence to actual face-to-face interaction is what will convince him to take you back. Show him you love him.

Show up at his office in a costume with chocolates and a bunch of balloons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah you made a huge mistake OP his cheating was negligible but his money is tangible. Buy a plane ticket ASAP and go patch things up with him. Try and seduce him into letting you move in this is a once in a lifetime chance don’t let it slip thru your fingers.

I have actual feelings for him though. His cheating hurts the most. I am poor but intellect attracts me and he has it. I met him when he was making as much as I was. I don't know if he will take me back.

You have to be bold OP. You have to make that bold move to A) show him how deep your feelings are for him and B) show him you are willing to go above and beyond for him. Buy a plane ticket and go see him NOW. Taking things to that next step and graduating from simple online correspondence to actual face-to-face interaction is what will convince him to take you back. Show him you love him.

Show up at his office in a costume with chocolates and a bunch of balloons.

A clown costume.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm in my 30s female. I had an online friendship/relationship with a successful well off attractive guy in his 30s too who lives in the west coast. He cheated on our relationship various times in the 5 years I've known him. I haven't met or Skyped with him because of some deep insecurities and anxiety even though he knows what I look like. I know I need to get help for the insecurities and anxiety but I am working on it. I only make 35k a year compared to him I am poor so there's another insecurity. I love him though. Should I try to move or reach out? I know by now he probably has a trail of women who love his money who are standing by like Hawks. I am willing to fly out to see him though.

Oh lord, this sounds like the opening monologue of a Lifetime movie...

OP, I say this with the greatest of empathy...
you NEED to get help for yourself before even thinking of starting something with someone 3,000 miles away. You need to seek help for your insecurities & anxiety... now.

Otherwise, you will ALWAYS be insecure, ALWAYS be anxious, ALWAYS be left in wonder & ALWAYS be depressed.

Any credible therapist will tell you that for someone with these issues, the very LAST person on earth you should even consider dating is someone that lives all the way across the country, who you've already experienced infidelity with numerous times & you've never actually locked eyes on in person.

This may very well be a big game to him just to pass the time, you really have no idea who he is... you only know what he tells you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Catfish

That was my first thought... Who talks to someone this long without meeting and no video?

[Anonymous]

This has the makings of one of those fake TLC shows.

[Anonymous]

This is the nuttiest thing I've read on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Wtf? How can a guy cheat on a woman he’s never even met in real life?? You are bizarre, OP.

[Anonymous]

How does somebody cheat on someone they've never met?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How does somebody cheat on someone they've never met?

This. That's the stupidest thing ever.

[Anonymous]

Sext him.

[Anonymous]

Op, please get therapy. You deserve to have a happy life with a real relationship

[Anonymous]

Or you could sext him and offer to sleep with him?. He could be your soulmate and you will never know unless you try.