What should I do?
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Anonymous
| Just say “No.” Grow a spine. Make her move out. How old are you? |
Anonymous
Agree. You don’t let someone who intentionally overstays a visa and wants to “hide from ICE”live with you. How good of friends could you possibly be? Why doesn’t she go back? What was she here for in the first place? Sounds fishy. If she was such a good friend you should have been aware of her intention to escape her country of citizenship. |
Anonymous
You’ve ruined your chances at getting a security clearance. They ask if you’ve have contact with any foreign nationals and investigate them. Your girlfriend broke up with you because you let another woman move in. You were just dumped and you’re already looking for a new relationship. A woman you barely know who wants a green card is telling you she loves you. This isn’t rocket science. |
Anonymous
Why not? She’s not Al Queda; she’s not a Russian agent.
Oh, quite good.
Maybe her only friends and family are here. Maybe there are no jobs where she is from. |
Anonymous
And how do you come across a friend like this? Did you meet on the internet or are you from the same country? |
Anonymous
| You don’t sound like the type of person who should have a government job. |
Anonymous
| Op, you're too dumb for words |
Anonymous
You’re surrounded by visa holders just walking down the street here. They’re everywhere: students, tourists, seasonal workers at the beach, at pools, and at ski resorts. |
Anonymous
Right but seeing as this friend didn’t have a place to live established it seemed more likely they came here for a vacation/trip and are unlikely a student or seasonal worker. How many seasonal workers are you very good friends with? Good enough friends to move them in? |
Anonymous
She overstayed her student visa, and yes. |
Anonymous
| There are plenty of women in DC to date. Kick her out. |
Anonymous
you mean she graduated recently and over stayed her visa in the process of trying to find a job? I think this is very common, not that many ppl realize. |
Anonymous
| Where was she living before she moved in with you? |
Anonymous
| She does not love you. If she loved you she would not have put your previous relationship and financial security at risk. She loves herself and is looking out for herself. She will gladly pull you under in order to rise. |
Anonymous
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To answer some of your questions:
I've known her for about 2 years, she has been a nice friend. She recently got out of status (I had no idea about these visa things) and asked to stay with me for a while because she can't renew her lease without legal status and also possible ICE search. I thought it might be a couple of months max before she find a new place to stay, and it doesn't cost me anything to have a guest at home. My then girlfriend didn't seem to have issue with this either. No, I didn't sleep with her. I was in a relationship and just got out of it recently, so I never thought about her romantically. Her profession of love caught me off guard, and I'm not sure she is genuine or just saying it for convenience. I guess I need time to process. Also, I never heard people get deported for visa overstay in DC, so maybe she isn't in a desperate position anyway. I do agree with you guys that she should move out, I can help her apartment hunting. But living together complicates things, and might also affect my job. If we have relationship potential, she can go back to her country and come back with proper visa. Otherwise, she is her own person, she made the choice to overstay her visa, that's not my problem anymore. |