Would you consider this cheating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here. Yeah, this is not ok. This is beyond porn and opens the door for scams and sugar daddy stuff. At the same time, the porn sights heavily promote video chats and other payment services now. It is getting hard to avoid. If he is doing it through reddit, though this seems too intentional. He might be exploring some particular sexual preferences that you may not be aware of or he feels you may not be comfortable with.

Hard to avoid?

[Anonymous]

My ex bought prepaid Visa cards and paid for Ashley Madison that way so I’m assuming one could use that to pay for porn?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here... I would be livid if I found he was spending money on this. Our money is all together, so I’d think I’d know if he did. I don’t really like him talking to women, period, free or paid.

A fetish did pop up based off of what he apparently follows that I was not aware of. He always claims to be low libido and it has caused issues in the past.

On the bright side, the women he seems to like look just like me.

You wouldn’t necessarily know - it,s very easy to skim cash back on normal transactions (grocery, drugstore, etc) and then turn that over into a visa debit/gift card you don’t know about

[Anonymous]

OP you have a husband with problems. I'm surprised you have to ask if that's cheating. The porn alone would creep me out, not something I support.

[Anonymous]

Dont know if it’s cheating per se but it’s VERY inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

I don't think its cheating simply because it wouldn't cause the same level of nuclear explosion in the relationship that actually sleeping with another person would.

But regardless I would consider it very bad and very inappropriate and it would be a major issue we would have to discuss and get through and no I would not at all be ok with it continuing.

But I think this would be more akin to me finding empty vodka bottles stashed under the sink than cheating. Very concerning, needs immediate and dramatic attention, just not the insta-relationship ender that I consider cheating to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here... I would be livid if I found he was spending money on this. Our money is all together, so I’d think I’d know if he did. I don’t really like him talking to women, period, free or paid.

A fetish did pop up based off of what he apparently follows that I was not aware of. He always claims to be low libido and it has caused issues in the past.

On the bright side, the women he seems to like look just like me.

Explore that fetish with him. It could be the key to unlocking his libido...with you. Not some cam girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here... I would be livid if I found he was spending money on this. Our money is all together, so I’d think I’d know if he did. I don’t really like him talking to women, period, free or paid.

A fetish did pop up based off of what he apparently follows that I was not aware of. He always claims to be low libido and it has caused issues in the past.

On the bright side, the women he seems to like look just like me.

Don't get mad, get even. Let's chat. I'm not low libido.

[Anonymous]

Yes

[Anonymous]

Why do you find it ok for him to look at porn? Something wrong with you...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you find it ok for him to look at porn? Something wrong with you...

Not the same.

[Anonymous]

This is a teachable moment to talk with him about boundaries and sex trafficking of cam girls.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t care. Why don’t you join in with him? Could be fun!

[Anonymous]

It's cheating but I would not believe he hadn't Skyped with anyone that is just a strange answer when you have seen him asking to do it. Why ask more than one woman to do that if he had no plans to follow through?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you find it ok for him to look at porn? Something wrong with you...

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